Messages By: judyblue22

I quite agree that being extremely short like you is a handicap I can't imagine having to deal with.  Most products are made for people 5'8" or more. Kitchen counters, store shelves, head rests in cars are probably too high for you and air bags are probably life threatening.  I understand studies show that short people do not get promoted and are paid less on average.  Even though I am of normal height, I can empathize with your problem. 

However, to make your point you didn't need to engage in putting down other people who also have a handicap (and you did put them down, regardless of your current back pedalling).  Your lack of sensitivity and empathy IMO is your biggest handicap and one that I expect will have a much greater impact on your life. 

I am very impressed at what a wonderful woman arose from the ashes that your parent's and their cult created out of your life.  You were poised and made you views understood in a clear and well spoken manner.  Many women your age could not have done that. 

I am sure that you do have a lot of healing to do as does you father.  Good luck and bless you for exposing the family as you did! 

I am a mother but my baby days are behind me.  I love seeing women with their babies-doing anything, but especially breast feeding.  That was a very special time in my life and I enjoy being reminded of it. 

I can't imagine what kind of person would find seeing that connection between a mother and child offensive.  I do have great pity for Shelly-she must be very twisted and kotted up inside about the human body.  But to suggest that women breast feed in a public rest room? Totally uncomfortable, unhygenic and unpleasant.  If you are horrified by breastfeeding, how would it improve your trip to a mall to stumble upon it in a rest room instead of in the food court? 

I think part of the problem is that most of the people who are offended are men or women who have never breast fed.  If they had the information from experience, they would never expect all of this discretion and covering up.  

-Breast feeding isn't easy.  You have to support the infant, position the breast and encourage the baby to latch on.  Especially for large breasted women, it can be a fairly difficult balancing act. It can't be done standing in a restroom. 

-Babies don't always cooperate. They squirm and pull off a hot blanket. 

I don't need breast implants or a french maid costume for my husband to think I'm sexy.  We've been happily married for 21 years, and he has never once suggested plastic surgery (even though at this age I'm considering it).    How could anyone think that you could take that beaten down, depressed woman and dress her in porn star clothes and make her feel sexy? He didn't CARE how she felt, he just cared how she looked.  Any women will be wa-a-a-ay sexier when her husband makes her feel loved and accepted. 

 With respect to the household organizsation, I agree that they needed to do it but I don't see what Grant's problem was. Organize it!   I love it when my cleaning lady has reorged all my cupboards! It's heaven for a while. 

In the show you said that a woman can't work and parent.  That sounds a bit like putting down working mothers, don't you think?  And in the post I quoted, you said "I guess the difference between us is that you value your career, I value my family. "  That sounds like you are putting me down, don't you think? 

Being a successful working mother it isn't easy and it takes some guts, but thanks to the women who came before us and struggled, we CAN do it. Here's an example: 

When my daughter was a baby, I refused to travel for my work because I was nursing.  I was supported by the courts in this stance (thanks to women's lib). In one case, a judge ordered that discoveries (your depositions) take place in my little town. Three big city lawyers travelled here and (timing is everything) just as they were settled and ready to go, I had to feed my daughter. My client and I stepped out and they had coffee and waited. When we returned, the offer my client wanted was on the table.  

I have never been forced to compromise meeting my family's needs or desires nor has my working husband. We have been happily married for 21 years and our children are wonderful!  

I don't need to put down stay at home mothers to feel great about my life.