Messages By: benc789

Today's show was completely unrealistic. 

It is women who constantly try to dominate and control men.  They nag, are full of tips on what you could do to make their lives better, and threaten that you will never see the kids again if they don't get what they want. 

The men in today's show do not want to be married.  They will feel nothing but relief when their wives leave. 

The reason that a woman repeats herself isn't because her husband has ignored her.   It is because her husband didn't do what she wanted him to do and so she feels that if she keeps repeating herself again and again and again (nagging) then he will do as he is told.   

When you finally give in to your wife (just for a moment of peace and quiet), all of a sudden she is in the mood for sex.  But not until you do what you are told.  What a coincidence. 

Today's topic was "standing up for yourself".  It was not "men who abuse women".  There is no theoretical reason that a man could not have been on the show.   

It was like the episode with prenuptial agreements where the woman who wanted the prenup was told that she was right to want it but the man who wanted the prenup (who didn't appear on the show) in virtually the identical situation as the woman who wanted the prenup was told that he was wrong to want the prenup.  Both of them had children and assets and yet the woman was right to want the prenup and the man was wrong to want the prenup. 

It is a shame more men don't watch Dr. Phil.  There are so many good things to learn about marriage: 

1. If your wife doesn't want to have oral sex, too bad for you. 

2. It is a man's job to make sure that his wife thinks she has the best husband in a room, even if there are a thousand women in the room. 

3. If you want to have sex with your wife, then you should do all of the housework, because "that is what is sexy".  (to be fair, this was Robin's point, not Dr. Phil's). 

If men would learn this before marriage, then men would know what to expect.  What baffles me is what sane man would sign up for this arrangement. 

The Dr. Phil show is like a “scared straight” program for young men thinking of getting married. 

It is amazing how there is simply no analysis whatsoever of the role that a woman might have played in the breakdown of a relationship.  It is always the man’s fault. 

Do those women look like the caring, supportive women? Or do they look like women who nagged all day long?  When their husbands leave them (rather than saying “yes dear” as women expect them to), the women are genuinely shocked.  To make themselves feel better they say that it was a “younger women” to blame. 

That woman on the show a few weeks ago that puts on make-up before her husband comes home from work will stay married.  The woman on the show who decided that oral sex was only for pre-marriage is probably already divorced and wondering why her support cheques never show up. 

Most women have turned their husbands down for sex so many times, that their husbands don’t even ask for sex anymore.  Then the wives say: “He must be satisfied with our sex life, because otherwise he would ask for sex”. 

If would be great if there was an episode on wives who were unsatisfied with their sex lives.  Would the advice be that the women should do more housework to get their husbands in the mood for sex (this being the advice that men are given)?  I doubt it.  I think that the advice would be that it is a man’s obligation and duty to make sure that his wife feels special and so he should have sex with her whenever she wants. 

I don’t know why women complain about being wives.  If any woman wants to support me while I stay home, I would be more than happy to oblige.  I would be a good wife too.  I would make sure that you are constantly notified when you didn’t do your share of the housework.  I would have sex with you whenever I want.  And if I ever get unhappy, I would take the kids and house, and you could send monthly cheques to me for the rest of your life. 

So, Lisa, are you willing to be my husband or not? 

Watching the show today, I got a great idea.  I think that the standard marriage vows should be changed to include the line: “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”.  I know that this won’t affect women (because they are under the impression that those words are already there), but it would help men know what they are getting into when they say “I do”. 

There are some other good lines to add to marriage vows, including the following: 

1.                  A husband is to be given no credit or respect whatsoever for supporting his wife.  It is simply a woman’s god-given right to be supported by her husband/ ex-husband. 

2.                  Anything that a woman does should be given a great deal of praise and celebration. 

3.                  A man should not express his sexual needs to his wife nor anyone else.  His sexual needs should simply disappear upon marriage.  If needs something to do to occupy his time, he should do more housework. 

I'm sorry but I don't have an answer for you.  I do, however, have a question for you.  It is a question I have wanted to get an answer to for a long time. 

Why do women who don't want to sleep with their husbands get angry when their husbands sleep with someone else?  What is the big deal?  Just because you don't have a sex drive, why does that mean your husband can't have sex?  There is no risk of sexual disease, because you aren't sleeping with him anyways.  Can you explain this to me?