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October 7, 2005, 5:06 am PDT

So sad

in this day and age this is still going on.  It appears that it isn't any better then it has been.  We as women need to ban together to stop this or our children will grow up to be just like their fathers...I was the victim of emotional, physical and verbal abuse in the 70's, 80's and 90's from the poor choices of men that I chose.  Now my 11 year old twins continue to do it.  They have mental health issues AND that hurts alot. 
 
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October 7, 2005, 5:20 am PDT

09/28 Overmedicating America: The Cruise Controversy

The judging of what people do and the choices they make in their children's lives are amazing.  People that speak without knowing all the facts or have "walked the walk" is amazing to me also.  Tom Cruise obviously doesn't have anyone in his family with mental illness and since Katie is pregnant, I hope for his sake she doesn't have post partum depression, then he might find out what it is like to live with.  Before people talk they should have all the facts which includes living with or having someone in their family with one of the diagnoses as listed in the DSM-IV as mental illness.
 
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December 30, 2005, 3:33 pm PST

PA female, for joint motivation

I am here if you want to do this, I need some also, have the equipment in my basement.  Am 52 need too loose 50 lbs.
 
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January 17, 2006, 12:58 pm PST

01/17 Extreme Disorders

It will be interesting to see this show.  I am sure he will bring that dr. that he always brings on that appears to know everything about everything, except that he doesn't have a child like this so that make us that do more of an expert then them, imo.  I typically do not like the way dr. always talks about kids that have disabilities.  He needs to be more politically correct cause we are watching how he talks.  My kids have ADHD, ODD, Intermittent Explosive Disorder and dystamic disorder (mild depression).  They are emotional, verbally and physically abusive to me.  They have had years of therapy in and out of the home.  They are now 12 (twin boys) Dr. Phil needs to come to my house with a camera and see what goes on.  I am toast these days.
 
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January 17, 2006, 2:26 pm PST

Ok mother made comment really upset me

she said that she thinks he likes having it to get attention.  What have they done to research this disability.  How appalling that was.  There ya go he can't control it.  Glad he is old enough and aticulate what it is like and how it feels. He doesn't understand.  Peers are scared around him.
 
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July 17, 2006, 7:36 pm PDT

you have got to be kidding me

Quote From: azuil1

There are plenty of parents out there who want to be friends with their children.  There are so many factors that contribute to either wanting to befriend your children, or just the simple fact that it could be a mother who is in a very abusive relationship and the child sees how she is treated and winds up treating her the same way because abuse is about power and control. I wouldn't call a mother weak or helpless as that just instills more of a sense of degredation and lowers her self-esteem. A woman with an out of control child needs to learn how to empower herself so she can promote the changes necessary...not told she's weak and helpless. 

  

Children do need someone who is in control but children also need to have some independence of their own as they grow. There is right and wrong and they need to be taught those things with consistency so I don't disagree that they need to know the parent is in control...but that can turn abusive as well. It's a fine line and not an easy one to maintain.  

When children act like this it is because they feel insecure having a whimpy, helpless, weak mom and it makes them angry and they then act out. There can be no love unless there is respect and what child can respect a mom like that? Kids need to know that someone is in control.  

  

are you kidding me.  unless you have children like this please do not judge things you have no idea what you are talking about.  I am not whimpy, helpless and weak and how do you know what makes my children angry and that they are acting out. 

 
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December 10, 2006, 8:03 pm PST

adopted only child of an alcoholic and woman abuser

Unfortunatelly when I was adopted over 50 years ago there was no or limited evaluations of the parents who were potential parents.  I should never have been adopted by my parents.  My father was a weekend drunk who spent all of his time either at the bar (most of the time I would be with him) or he would be in his bedroom all weekend after getting his alcohol.  He would have me dance for the drunks in the bar and they would pay me to dance at a very young age.  I anted to spend time with him and could only if I went to the bars with him, until I got into adolescence and then I stopped going.  There are many years that I do not remember of my childhood for whatever reason. Of course the most of the men I chose to spend time drank heavily and were physically, emotionally and verbally abusive to me.  I do not drink.  It has been a very tough life filled with counseling and trying to feel good about myself and not make the same bad choices again, choosing to be alone for over 10 years.  I am thrilled about this show and hopefully it will open up the eyes of people who have never walked in the shoes of myself and many other, including Dr. Phil and Robin.  I like who I have become and the person that I am in spite of the house in which I was raised.   My mother was not an alcoholic but she tolerated the abuse and the alcohol for a period of the time and then send me away when I was a 9 year old to another state with my grandmother for a period of 2 years and she brought me back home after I missed my father and begged to come home.  Things did not change and of course got worse with him and her as I got older.  Not being able to bring people to the house wanting to stay out as often as possible, you all know that story.  It isn't a life I would wish on anyone, not all bad all the time, just very lonely most of the time. 
 
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March 5, 2007, 3:25 pm PST

03/05 Anna and Britney: Behind the Headlines

I was disappointed with Dr. Phil on a couple of levels but I was pleased about what he said about the people around her saying something about her apparent problem.  Dr. Phil is not a physican or a Lupus specialist so I am sure he doesn't know everything about it.  I hope we will find out what really killed her but I also am concerned about the baby.

 

While they are fighting over the burial and the baby she is bonding to nannies.  I am appalled by the Judges and the Court system not moving this along while they are saying they are concerned about the baby, cause apparently they are not.  She needs to be with whomever the father is.

 

Not really impressed by the trim spa guy she was making money for him so now he is screwed also not impressed by the long standing relationship with Pat whatever from the insider.  They were some of the people making money off of her and let her do whatever.

 

IMO Howard Stern is a wheeney and not the father.  EEEEEWWW.  He hasn't had a job since 1996 and she was paying his bills.

 

I heard there was 7 life insurance policies on her that should be interesting to see who was the beneficiary.

 

As far as her mother was concerned if she abused Anna as she said then why did she allow her mother to take care of Daniel for all the years that she did.  There is alot more that we will never know but anyone that has children knows how easily they can be maniplualted by others  and if drugs were involved then....

 

No one has said whether Howard or the trim spa guy new about the Lupus or even if it is true there again that will come out, again my concern is the baby..

 
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April 11, 2007, 2:56 pm PDT

04/11 Anna Nicole Smith: Family Controversy

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I was surprised that Dr Phil would have Anna's half sister on the show then have the nerve to have Howard Stern's sis and others cut her down (Dr Phil included). I was quite disappointed in the show! My gosh, get the Stern's out of Anna's life!!! Why is Howard's sister always on the show? Snooping? Flaunting her power? Busybody? 

 

Howard kept her on drugs and hard telling how much influence Howard and his friends and sister had on pushing Anna further away from her biological family. Anna's decisions weren't her own...they were her lawyer friend's while she was drugged up. And it has always been obvious that Howard Stern KNEW Larry B was the father, yet kept Anna on drugs. I'm sick of the Stern's acting so pious when they look like such fools. I can't condemn Anna's half sister for writing a book that was obviously done while Anna was alive and we all know Anna lied to the cameras about A LOT!  Anna lied about the baby, too... to ET. Howard might have loved Anna, but she mustn't have loved him much with all the men she was out with. I am also disappointed in ET supporting all Anna and Howard's lies.

 

Thank God Larry is the father so Danielynn can be raised in a normal atmosphere instead of at the mercy of the Sterns' wishes. Larry...get that baby out of the Bahamas and away from the Sterns or they'll keep you under their thumbs too.

I was surprised that Dr Phil would have Anna's half sister on the show then have the nerve to have Howard Stern's sis and others cut her down (Dr Phil included). I was quite disappointed in the show! My gosh, get the Stern's out of Anna's life!!! Why is Howard's sister always on the show? Snooping? Flaunting her power? Busybody? 

 

Howard kept her on drugs and hard telling how much influence Howard and his friends and sister had on pushing Anna further away from her biological family. Anna's decisions weren't her own...they were her lawyer friend's while she was drugged up. And it has always been obvious that Howard Stern KNEW Larry B was the father, yet kept Anna on drugs. I'm sick of the Stern's acting so pious when they look like such fools. I can't condemn Anna's half sister for writing a book that was obviously done while Anna was alive and we all know Anna lied to the cameras about A LOT!  Anna lied about the baby, too... to ET. Howard might have loved Anna, but she mustn't have loved him much with all the men she was out with. I am also disappointed in ET supporting all Anna and Howard's lies.

 

Thank God Larry is the father so Danielynn can be raised in a normal atmosphere instead of at the mercy of the Sterns' wishes. Larry...get that baby out of the Bahamas and away from the Sterns or they'll keep you under their thumbs too.

 

I so agree with everything you said. HKS's is on Dr. Phil and she is nothing.  Set what record straight.  Dr. Phil you don't know the record.  You don't know the truth.


 
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September 1, 2007, 11:12 am PDT

09/04 Violent Kids

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Hmmm... I don't promote violence at the best of times, especially when it comes to kids, but I think sometimes a kid could really use a good old fashioned spanking... I know I never acted like that when I was a kid, because if I were to, my dad would have had his belt off and I'd be running!!

 

Seriously though... either those kids have something seriously wrong with their upbringing, or they have some sort of mental or behavioral disorder. I was shocked when I saw the previews for this show, and I'm actually not sure if I'm looking forward to watching it or not... but I'll be glued to the TV when it airs!!!!!

Of course here we go again, blaming the parents for what is wrong with their children.  I hope when you watch the show you learn something about these children.  This response shows that the stigma and blame for children with mental health issues is alive and well!!  What a shame, when is this going to change.

 

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