Messages By: fredastare

Thanks.  You made your point very well.  I wonder how many "loons" will be thinking of changing their religion if it were to bring them absolution for any criminal actions?  Sheesh, let the courts decide.  Although not perfect,  the justice system is the only place that this man needs to be dealt with.    

If he is found that he was acting in the best interests of the girls, I'm sure he'll be absolved.  I thought it ironic that during the episode when he was released on bail he mentioned being dissapointed at not being able to be with his children.   Hmmmmm???  Did he feel any empathy toward the mother of the girls when he chose to be judge and jury and uproot them from seeing her for a year?  What about empathy for the girls?  Seems to me, they clearly love both their mother and father.  Peaceful people aren't necessarily filled with empathy.  Had Dr. Phil not intervened I wonder how long they would've been seperated from her.  Years and years?  Until her dying days?  Never see her again in their lifetime?  

And he has the gall to whine about the temporary no contact order?  

Some of these posters ought try on her shoes.  Oh sure she is a human, had some problems.  She appears to have gotten it under control.  No matter though, some here feel it's actually her fault in having her babies stolen away......... gone, vanished.  Without so much as a telephone call!    

It boggles my mind how people can be so heartless toward what enormous pain she must have endured.  Peace loving Mike, forgot one thing.  There are 4 people in this family unit.  Not three.  Where's the peace in that folks?  What did I miss?  

Fredi  

Fredi  

Have you tried contacting Dr.Phil directly?  If you scroll down to the very bottom there is a menu in grey font.  Hit "Contact Dr.Phil" and that will open an email posting page in which you can tell him your story.  As I don't think that Dr.Phil or his staff read the message boards.  So posting here might go unnoticed.  Good luck.  Also have you tried some of the websites that Dr.Phil and others have reccomended in the past?  Perhaps if you "Google" adoptions, or finding loved ones et cetera you might have some luck.  

Take care, I hope all works out for you.  

Peace,  

Fredi   

It's sounds to me that you carry your own cross in being seperated from perhaps your own children.  That is a sad thing, and I wish that it would not happen in society.  Children benefit and thrive best when both of their parents are actively involved in their life.  My "math" simply implies that I believe that no matter what - those two girls have a mother and a father, and that they should be allowed to be a part of both of their parents lives.  Yet he crossed the line drawn in the sand by your countries law makers. If she had done the same I'd agree wholeheartedly that she be prosecuted accordingly.  People need to be held accountable for their actions regardless of their sex, status, religious beliefs et cetera.  

You sound very bitter towards women, and for that I'm truly sorry. Resentment and bitterness can become like a cancer of the heart.  And no one should have to endure heartache, if that is what is going on for you.  I hope you find happiness.  It's a far nicer than feeling angry or sadness.  Take care.  

Peace,  

Fredi  

Hi Andy,  

It likely won't go directly to Dr.Phil, but it will be read by his staff.  So if you ask for help in even where to look in order to begin your search, they might be able to direct you.  Plus this is where they get much of their ideas for their shows.   So be very real and deep with your emotions and your lifes circumstances et cetera and that might help get your story right to Dr.Phil himself.  

If you don't get a response within a couple of weeks, I suggesst you keep trying.  Be persistant and hopefully everything will begin to happen for you.  You sound like a great guy, best of luck.  

Peace,  

Fredi  

I am sorry for your pain.  With faith you will perservere and overcome.  I will pray for you.  No one ought hold only a photo of a child if they've done nothing to deserve such seperation.  From your words I feel in my heart that you've done nothing to deserve being absent in your childs life.   

May you walk in peace, and one day find beauty in all of mankind, His creation.   

"Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted"   

Hi Andy,  

If you read my profile you'd know that I'm old enough to be your mother.  So as a "motherly" person I will remind you to use caution while sharing on the web.    

If you need to talk, I will listen to you only here on these boards.  In my experience though it would be very beneficial for you to seek out guidance through peers your own age, and your own family at home.  If that isn't possible.  There are many resources available to encourage you in figuring out life.  Yet like I said, I will stop by this board to see that you are doing okay.  :  )   

Take care Andy,  

Fredi  

Hi Andy,  

I just noticed your post.  Why you C and P'd most of my post I'm unsure.  Do you want to hear something funny.  In order to understand some of your use of abreviated words, I actually went to Wikipedia looked up "Internet Slang" and bookmarked the page. LOL  So at least I have the resource at my finger tips in deciphering your verbage.  

Andy I am doing wonderfully.  I'm well established in my life.  I'm happy and I'm definitely appreciative of your attempts to stay in contact.  

So how are you?  You mentioned that you are adopted, that you have a step dad.  Yet you'd like to find your bio dad.  Is everything relatively okay for you Andy?  Do you have a network of peers / friends to lean upon?  I hope you are well.  

Peace,  

Fredi  

Hi Andy,  

Well I'm certainly glad you've got family. And it's really cool that you are once an uncle and about to become a second time uncle.  These children will certainly look up to you.  You are from a "nuclear family" that is much like my family.  My daughter has step-siblings, and everyone gets along almost as if they're blood bro and sisters.    

So you do want to find your real dad.  That I guess is a natural yearning.  Just the curiousity of wondering about him must be incredible.  Does your family understand that you'd like to find him?  Do you know much about him?  Those types of things could really help you in your search.  I hope that you have some support about this at home.  That always makes things much easier I think.  

I'm really glad that everything is okay for you.  Life's not the easiest journey sometimes.  But if we keep our spirits up and look to the bright side of things.............trust me, it's much more bearable.  Actually life can become down right exciting.  We just have to take the positive attitude.  Find the things that motivate us, and always believe in ourselves.  Then anything is possible.  I'm so glad that you said that you have friends.  You said not alot.  This is my opinion, some people have what looks like a ton of friends..........yet are they really tight?   

Good, lifelong friends.  I think it's better to have a few really trusted friends...........than a million "buddies".    

Good luck with your search.  Have you googled any finding people sites?  Did you try reaching Dr.Phils staff about your plight?  Like I said before keep trying, if this feels "right" to you.  Good luck Andy!  

Peace,  

Fredi  

Wow, your shouting at the others using caps lock and red font...........hmmmm?  Is that sort of message really going to be heeded?  

There are tons of self professed so called Christians running around telling others what is Gods Will and so forth.  Come judgement day..........One voice will do the speaking.  

I almost think that you honestly believe that you are doing the work of God.  Maybe try being more gentle and a bit more Christ like.  I don't think it's up to man to decide anothers ultimate fate regarding their choice?    

Question......what sexuality did you choose for yourself?  As it's a choice like you say I can't for the life of me understand why on earth one would choose to be the minority that is mocked, ridiculed and lives a life that is in complete opposition of the mainstream line of thinking.  

Yea...........some choice alright.  I pray the Lord might seek you.....console you.  As this clearly hits a nerve with you..........and for that I'm truly sorry.  

Peace,  

Fredi  

There is no sin in doing what in your heart of hearts is the natural thing. 

There is no choice involving true homosexuality. 

There is a vast amount of biblical references that can and often are used to serves ones own agenda. 

Just be the best person you can be...........treat everyone like they are precious and unique,  then I believe everything will be fine. 

Please those who claim to follow Christ.............honor your fellow man with a emphatic heart. 

Peace out, 

Fredi