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October 7, 2005, 6:53 am PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

My mother breastfed my sister but she never did it in public because she respected her body way too much to give everybody in the mall a free show. I think women get so caught in trying prove and convince that breastfeeding is beautiful that they forget the reality of the world. People have different opinions and some people do find it offensive. Public places have to make their environment suitable for all types of people and large crowds and part of that is making sure people aren't exposing themselves like that because whether you like it or not your breasts are privet parts and just because you have a child stuck to it doesn't mean it's okay to show it to everybody. Other little kids are in those public places and some parents care enough that they don't want their five year old looking at that. It's easy to tell an adult "If you don't like it don't look" but we all know children will stare because they don't know better, but you do. 

  

Also in the world today there are too many peeping toms and perverts who will sit back and watch what mothers call beautiful and turn it into something dirty very easily. It's been all over the news about how these perverts are using the new camera phones to take pictures up the skirts of girls. When you pull your breasts out in public they don't even have to be sneaky about it because you've done half the work for them. All they have to do is whip out that phone and snap a picture and they could have you, your child, and your breast all over the internet or in porn tapes and you would be horrified and ashamed. Because there are guys who get off on that type of thing. 

  

It's not about pleasing people but more about being respectful and I don't see how anyone can not agree with being respectful. And you also have to understand that when you pull your parts out in public you're risking your privacy. 

  

  

 
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October 7, 2005, 7:20 am PDT

Okay...

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Please tell me... When was the last time you saw a woman "openly and flagrantly breastfeeding in public without covering her nude body"?  Give me a break!  Do you think we just take off our clothes and latch the baby on?  An intelligent woman would not expose herself for more than a brief second, and that's usually the baby's doing.  And in my experience with talking with other breastfeeding moms, unintelligent women usually aren't the ones breastfeeding.  PLEASE stare at me when I'm breastfeeding!  That's a perfect opportunity for me to give you a smile and strike up a conversation to try to rid you of your so obvious ignorance on this subject! 

I think you're taking this personal and what he/she said wasn't really meant in that way. The lady on the show said she didn't cover up at all and she felt she shouldn't have too. I'm sure the person you replied to was addressing that and not attacking the mothers who are respectful enough to cover up.
 
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October 7, 2005, 7:30 am PDT

Breast Feeding

My mother breastfed my sister but she never did it in public because she respected her body way too much to give everybody in the mall a free show. I think women get so caught in trying prove and convince that breastfeeding is beautiful that they forget the reality of the world. People have different opinions and some people do find it offensive. Public places have to make their environment suitable for all types of people and large crowds and part of that is making sure people aren't exposing themselves like that because whether you like it or not your breasts are privet parts and just because you have a child stuck to it doesn't mean it's okay to show it to everybody. Other little kids are in those public places and some parents care enough that they don't want their five year old looking at that. It's easy to tell an adult "If you don't like it don't look" but we all know children will stare because they don't know better, but you do.  

   

Also in the world today there are too many peeping toms and perverts who will sit back and watch what mothers call beautiful and turn it into something dirty very easily. It's been all over the news about how these perverts are using the new camera phones to take pictures up the skirts of girls. When you pull your breasts out in public they don't even have to be sneaky about it because you've done half the work for them. All they have to do is whip out that phone and snap a picture and they could have you, your child, and your breast all over the internet or in porn tapes and you would be horrified and ashamed. Because there are guys who get off on that type of thing.  

   

It's not about pleasing people but more about being respectful and I don't see how anyone can not agree with being respectful. And you also have to understand that when you pull your parts out in public you're risking your privacy.  

 
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October 7, 2005, 4:41 pm PDT

Hostile?

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I'll tell you what.  I breastfed my first child for 16 months and I'm currently breastfeeding my 7 month old.  I've been there and done that with nursing in public.  When my child is hungry, I'm going to feed her, whether it be in a restaurant (where everyone else eats), a mall, a park, church or anywhere else that a baby may be hungry.  Frankly, it's no one's business but mine what I feed my baby or where I feed her.  Just like I don't condone formula fed babies and where they're fed, they shouldn't condone my decision.  

  

Instead of being so hostile and thinking that we're exposing ourselves, shouldn't you (collective you), be more offending by the teenagers baring belly shirts, boys with their pants hanging down and some of the other nastiness that comes from what our teenagers are wearing.   30 states protect breastfeeding mothers and it's a shame there aren't more and that we actually need a law to protect us. 

How can you call me hostile when you don't even know my opinion on the subject? I think that's a little rude and right now you sound more hostile than anyone. I was simply replying to you because you said only a unintelligent woman would not cover up when breastfeeding, and what you failed to remember is that the young lady on the show said she didn't want to cover up at all! That is what the person you replied to before and I were responding to not your personal opinion.  

  

I in no way said that you shouldn't feed your child what you want or whenever the child gets hungry because my mother breastfed my baby sister. I don't have a problem with breastfeeding and it wasn't fair that you accused me of having one without a reason or cause. If you cover yourself that's good and I'm glad you're respectful to other people around you and respectful of your own privacy but you need to stop being so snarky and assuming things about people.  

  

Maybe you should try reading my very first post on this subject before just assuming that I hate breastfeeding and all women who do it. And as far as the way teenagers dress, I don't aprove of that either but showing your belly and your legs is a far cry from showing your entire breast to the public because whether we like it or not our breast are considered privet parts. Boys usually wear a long t-shirt to cover up their butts in those baggy jeans. It's only the ones that really have no home training that don't bother at all.  

 
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November 29, 2005, 10:34 am PST

Please...

That chick from the Apprentice was so completely annoying to everyone but herself.  She needed to be fired...
 
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March 29, 2007, 7:37 am PDT

WOW!

This girl is unbelievable.

 

I don't think she's a gold-digger, I think she's a young girl who got spoiled very fast. She's so immature and she can't handle other people opinions or the situation she's in. The way she cries and whines is just proof that she's got a lot of growing up to do.

 
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March 29, 2007, 8:11 am PDT

03/29 Cougars and Sugar Daddies

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My name is Trisha, and I am only 20 years old. I have raised myself since I was 13. I am not like your typical 20 year old female. I don't go to school, I don't spend my days shopping and talking on the phone and driving around doing nothing. I am a stay at home (soon to be) house wife. I take care of my 31 year old fiance, and our home and 2 dogs. I don't have to many friends except my fiances frineds who all graduated high school before I was in middle school. And I am telling you what, it is so hard when I get the spotlight on me to tell everyone my real age, because in my mind, I am not 20 years old. I don't even know another 20 year old. But me and my fieance meet right after I turned 18 and we have lived together and been as one since then. I've stuck around when weve had no money, and I'll be here when we get back on our feet. It is not about his money, his job, his house, his car. Nothing that he has, that wasn't given to him when he was born, I don't need. I want his mind, his love, his soul.

My piont is, that it doesn't matter if their is 5 years or 11 years, if that person is stable enough to conduct his/herself in a state of mind to be with someone an intire generation ahead, then we should not judge. Because some people grow up faster then others, and were raised around older people thier lifes, and thats the only way they know how to be.

I think your situation is makes all the difference from this girl we just saw on the show. You've raised yourself and seen many things people don't see until late twenties and on into their thirties. This girl was still immature and had not seen any of the hardships in life. She has a boyfriend who buys her everything from cars to cell phones. She is an eighteen year old in every since of the number. She needs to grow up.
 
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September 20, 2007, 6:51 am PDT

I knew it was coming!

I remember watching their reality show before they got married and they were always fighting. They went to group consoling and it didn't help at all. It has nothing to do with his age (in my opinion) I could tell from watching them before that he's just really immature and even a little bitter. I was amazed when they actually went through with the marriage, even after all the fights and toxic baggage they were bringing into the relationship; but I'm not at all surprised to see them on Dr. Phil now.

 

I hate to sound evil, but I knew it wasn't going to work out.

 
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September 20, 2007, 6:58 am PDT

09/21 Does Age Matter?

Quote From: flcakelady

I watched chris in both his reality shows because I'm so in love with him.  Adrain is a brat and she is immature.  But the age doesn't matter its  having a mutual respect and understanding of each others boundries..If they can't do that,they won't make it!

Chris ! I'm available!

You're right, age has nothing to do with it. But I don't think it's fair to say it's all Adrain's fault. I watched their reality show too and Chris was showing and awful lot of immaturity. He was rude and mean to her on more than one occasion and yes, she did act like an annoying kid a lot, but so did he. He's not the same kid from the Brady Bunch.
 

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