Messages By: rissa140

The whole "science/research" theory is boarderline BS & doesnt make much sense either because they're saying that teens cant FULLY understand the consequences of their actions, etc, when the truth of the matter is that MOST "normal" (by that I mean not mentally challenged) ADULTS cant even understand the consequences of their actions! So with that said, BOTH teens AND adults CAN get "caught up in the moment" doing something, not realize what they're doing at the time, therefore, not understanding the consequences of their actions. So can these people say that "brain development" varies much more & has more of an impact in a teen than an adult?

And as far as your example of a 45 yr old man & 13 yr old girl goes, that is 32 year age difference, the 24 yr old & 16 yr old is only an 8 yr age difference.... that's a HUGE difference in relationships with an age span. HOWEVER, If the 13 yr old girl WILLINGLY gets into bed with the 45 year old, that would be her choice & she has to take some responsibiltiy for her part in it. The blame should NOT only go on the 45 year old. That's another thing thats wrong with some people & this world today, they dont want to take responsibilty for their own actions & want to constantly put all the blame on the other(s) involved. Especially when it comes to teens, some of them, their parents & other adults want to put all blame on someone else & in situations like this, the older person. People are saying that these woman (& men in other cases) "seduced & manipulated" these young men & MAYBE in SOME cases that is true BUT, I dont care what anyone says, its VERY possible for a teen boy/girl to seduce an older person & THAT could've also been the case. But because older people are involved, the blame automatically goes on them, they get slammed & thats NOT right! These teens WILLINGLY  MADE THE CHOICE to lay down with these women, people & the law need to realize that & get over it!

All of the ones saying we should just love and accept everyone I would like to ask this question do you look a street person in the eye when you pass them by? Do you think to yourself well if I give this person money they are just going to buy alcohol or drugs with it?

*I don't know if I've ever looked them exactly in the eye but I have glanced at them with a friendly smile. And when/if I decide to give them money, I do think about what they will do with it but only for a minute because then I just feel proud of myself for giving something to someone less fortunate than myself.

When you pass a man on the street who has lots of tattoos, wearing jeans with holes in them and a torn t-shirt do you cross to the other side thinking this is some member of a gang?

*Absolutely not! But maybe thats because I LOVE tattoos.... & as far as the torn jeans & t-shirt, a lot of people wear torn clothes so that doesn't bother me either.

Do you ride down the road and pass a person on a motorcycle wearing leather and hope and pray the stop light up ahead doesn't catch you so you won't have to sit beside this person in traffic?

*Again, no. I have NOTHING against motorcyclists either, one of my best friends is one & some of  my mom's friends are motorcyclists as well & I get along with them just fine.

How many of you stand over the plumber when he comes to do work on your sink? Answer honestly and then tell me how accepting you are of everyone in society.

*I sure haven't! I live with my grandmother & when we had the heating guy come to our house (a few times), he went & did his work on our heater which is just in the hallway & we stayed in the living room on the couch until he was done.

**Yes, I answered VERY HONESTLY! I have family & friends from all walks of life & my parents & grandparents taught me to treat others with the same respect that I wanted to be treated with! We ALL need to learn to NEVER judge a book by its cover & to not condemn someone of a certain race, gender, religion, sexual orientation, etc just because we might've had a bad experience with one or a few of any of those beings. We need to be bringing everyone of all diversities together & treating them as equals, not  pushing them away and/or condemning them because they're different.

Here's my 2 cents....

There were a few things in both of the couples' situations that I didnt quite understand and/or agree with, but NONE of it had anything to do with their ages. All four people knew or had some idea of what they were getting into. I can understand the friends of both men being worried BUT, both of those men are adults & can make their own decisions about how/what they want their lives to be like..... And the women in both cases are also adults & can decide for themselves how/what they want their lives to be, I know a lot of people still think of an 18 year old as being a child (& in this case, a "little girl") but the fact of the matter is, they're not! So people can disapprove all they want but they cant do anything about it. All these people are ADULTS & if they want to continue to be together than obviously that's THEIR choice.

I'm 20 & few months ago I was dating a 30 year old with a 15 year old daughter.... we dated for 3 months & broke up when he took a job transfer in another state. Now, before I dated him, I was never into guys that older than myself & he wasnt really into women that much younger than him, he usually went for women over 25. I even turned him down at first, but the more we talked the more I started liking him & decided to put our ages (along with his daughter's) aside & give it a shot. Yes, some of my family wished he was younger but they realized that I was an adult & could make my own decisions & all they wanted was for him to treat me right & for me to be happy, which he did & I was so they were more approving.

There's no question about it, there are both pros & cons about being with someone older or younger than yourself, but if both people are commited, happy and/or willing to work on their relationship, then more power to them! You need make YOURSELF happy before anyone else & realize that not everyone is going to agree/approve of the things you do (or dont do) but as long as YOU are happy, then thats all that matters (thats something I realized when I was in my relationship with the older guy).

I completely DISAGREE! Are there younger women who are in fact gold diggers? Of course! BUT NOT ALL younger women who are with older wealthy men are gold diggers & I think making that statement is a HUGE assumption that shouldn't be made. That's one of the MANY things that's wrong with people these days, they see or hear something & then they just ASSUME without even knowing the REAL FACTS about the whole situation. In the case with Jackie & Sanjy, I really don't see her as a gold digger because he WANTS to spoil her & give her everything.... I don't think you can be labeled or label someone as a gold digger when the other person WANTS TO & ENJOYS giving them everything.