Messages By: rissa140

As someone who has a Myspace profile, I just have to say that its not the site's fault for what people CHOOSE to do on there. And like the other poster, I'm sick of people blaming things on the site in general. Are there lots of creeps on there like any other site? Absolutely! BUT, there are also a lot of good, honest people on there who are looking for new friends, to reconnect with old friends, stay in contact with family members, find love (which is not wrong to do), even networking for jobs. Musicians, film makers & comedians use it to promote their work & gain audiences. I myself, have met some very nice people from that site, on & off it. With that said, I dont think Myspace is a place for someone under 16. I hate to say it but, I even have cousins on there who are younger than that & I wonder what the hell they're doing on there & its sad to say that some of their parents aren't watching what they're doing, so I like to check up on them. Anyway, most people/parents don't know that Myspace has a number of ways that you can be safer on there.

*YOU control WHAT info is on your profile

*YOU control WHO can look at your profile & pictures, by making it PRIVATE

*YOU control WHO can add you as a friend

*YOU control WHAT comments you want to accept

*IF someone starts harassing you, YOU can REPORT & BLOCK them

There may be more that isnt coming to mind... but the thing is that, some people choose not to use those features & then IF, GOD FORBID, something bad happens, they're quick to blame someone else or blame the site without looking at their part in it or what they could've done to be safer. This isn't the case for EVERYONE, but certainly enough people. People need to start being responsible for THEIR OWN actions.

Also, I'm tired of people saying/implying that the Internet is the only place where you can come into contact with creeps, especially creeps who pretend to be honest people. I hear people saying all the time that the net isnt the way to meet someone, specifically someone honest & decent because anyone can be charming on the net. And yes, anyone can be charming on the net, however, you can meet someone who pretends to be charming & decent anywhere... on the street, in the grocery store, working for charity, there are even some cases where others meet those kinds of people in CHURCH (no offense to anyone, just saying). And by the age of 16, you should very well know what's right, wrong, appropriate & inappropriate.

"If nobody wants to blame Myspace, why don't you search around that site, a little? Look at all the pictures of girls dressed and posed provacatively. Myspace should make it their responsibility to take all that crap off of there."

Before deciding to blame Myspace for not taking the pictures down, why dont you place blame & responsibilty on the girls who are dressing & acting like that & posting the pictures on there to begin with??? Sooo many girls (and boys) are on there LYING about their ages & acting older than they are. And then if/when something goes wrong, the teens & a lot of the time the parents automatically blame the site & other people they (the teens) were in contact with instead of taking responsibilty for their or their children's actions. And When you upload pictures on there, it tells you that pictures containg nudity or full nudity are prohibited & will be deleted. Also, people can report images they find innapropriate & get them deleted. But the point is that, these girls should know what's right, wrong, appropriate & inappropriate to be posting on the site. Parent's need to START making their kids/teens take some responsibility for THEIR actions & STOP blaming it ALL on others & the internet. Myspace is NOT the enemy, its the individual people (young & old ) who act irresponsibly on there, that are.

I'm sorry, but if they had parents who ACTED LIKE PARENTS & taught them, then at 16 they WOULD/SHOULD know what is right, wrong, appropriate & inappropriate! And NO, they dont always use common sense, I'm very well aware of that, but teens WOULD learn from their mistakes more if their PARENTS actually MADE them take RESPONSIBILITY for THEIR actions when they dont use common sense, instead of blaming everyone/thing else.

I am NOT clueless, I know very well how teens are, I also know how a lot of parents aren't. I'm 21 years old & have seen & heard a lot of things first hand.

And YES, it IS just as easy for "predators" to hide who they really are face-to-face in school, at work, at church, etc. They could be very charming ANYWHERE, NO MATTER WHERE THEY ARE (on the net or in public), and anyone who thinks otherwise is in a bit of denial. 

Lets stop treating TEENS like spoiled little babies & actually hold them accountable/responsible for what THEY (rightly or wrongly) CHOOSE to do!

I agree!

As a plus sized woman in today's society, a now proud plus sized woman I might add, it sickens me to constantly see girls & women (and in rare cases, boys/men) killing themselves like this to be so thin & trying live up to other people's standards of what beauty is & what it takes to get somewhere in life. I for one, am sick of society looking down upon plus sized women (and men) & making it seem like being of substance is the worst thing in the world... because it is NOT. Even the beginning standards for plus size clothing lines & models bother me. Because, the standard starts at a size 14! And in my honest opinion, that is NOT plus sized. To ME, a size 14 looks way more AVERAGE than plus sized. I think the starting size for Plus sizes needs to be changed to around 18/20... that, I think, would look more fitting. Please do not confuse my thinking/reasoning for being discriminating (that would be hypocritical of me), but rather DIFFERENTIATING between what is & is not plus sized. Plus, the average woman here in the USA is a size 14, which I believe is the size that Marilyn Monroe was. I wish more young girls & women who are so "scared" to be "fat" would look at & listen to/read the advice on body image/acceptance & beauty given by beautiful women such as Queen Latifah & Mo'Nique. Both of those wonderful women are such great inspirations, to both plus sized AND thin people (women).

 We need to realize that, as long as someone is healthy, their weight  shouldn't matter. So many people make assumptions & buy into the misconceptions of plus sized people. For example, a lot of people believe that if you're "overweight", you're automatically unhealthy... which is NOT true! Does being "overweight" put you a bit more at a risk for health problems? Yes. But, that doesn't mean ALL "overweight" people are unhealthy, or are going to be unhealthy. That would be like saying ALL thin people (by this, I mean average thin) are healthy, which also isn't true. There are MANY average thin people who have heart, blood, sugar, etc problems. I am around 5'2"-5'3", about 260lbs (When I checked the beginning of this month) & have NONE of those health issues. A lot of people also like to forget that genetics play a part in someone's health as well. Which is the important thing I (and everyone else) need to keep checking up on, because several things run in my family... but as of right now, I am a healthy plus sized woman. There's the topic of "when is someone TOO big?" and in my honest opinion, a person is too big when he/she has major trouble doing ever day things on their own... getting out of bed, walking at a normal pace, working, etc. THAT, and IF someone has other health problems, is when people should become really concerned with the issue of being "overweight".

But please people (young girls & women specifically), do NOT be afraid of curves, or a roll here & there. In my opinion, women are supposed to be of some substance. Do NOT lose weight just to "fit in" & impress people. I've been there & all it did was set me back & take me longer to finally have some self-esteem/confidence. I am no longer at my heaviest weight (which was about 310), but I can honestly tell you that now, I am happy & proud to be the size I am. I no longer crave to be thin, I'm now more focused on just maintaining my weight, rather than losing more. IF I do lose more, great, but also great if I dont. I know I sort of got way off topic here, but my point is this... EVERYONE is beautiful in THEIR OWN ways & you do NOT have to be super skinny/thin (or skinny at all) to be whoever & whatever you want to be in life. NOTHING is worth killing yourselves like this for. I hope & pray that anyone who suffers from eating disorders gets help SOON, before its too late.

Thank you, I really appreciate that!

THANK YOU, I AGREE! There's NOTHING wrong with putting your family first. And Rhodesia's no saint, I don't think she ever claimed to be. But....

When I read that person's post, it made my blood boil a bit. I  mean, how SHALLOW can someone be? Just because a person MAY have let their looks "go", is NO excuse for the other one to cheat! And you are right, NOT EVERY man wants a thin woman, or prefers only thin women (not that weight should even matter much). I also wanted to add that, when people take those vows & get married it's supposed to be forever, and you're saying that you love that person unconditionally... that includes, or should include, when either person's looks change. Because lets face it, EVERYONE'S appearance changes over time, but that should NOT change how you feel about them. Love/marriage is supposed to be based on more than just how someone looks. I don't think you can even call it LOVE if that's (looks) all it's based on, that sounds more like LUST, to me. If you're (generally speaking) going to be that shallow & criticize the way your partner looks and/or cheat on them because of that, then you have no business being in a relationship/marriage with them, or anyone, if that's the kind of attitude you have. Looks only get you so far anyway. Oh, and not that it's right to judge someone for being overweight because in my book its not right, but if you do/are, make sure you're not overweight yourself lol, because that just makes you look stupid.

I think Rhodesia needs to... 1. Stop blaming Myspace & start putting ALL blame on HIM for cheating, then (and most importantly) 2. LEAVE HIM & FIND HERSELF A REAL MAN! Because, she is a beautiful woman & CAN do better.