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November 15, 2007, 3:24 pm PST

11/15 A Daughter in Danger? Part 2

Quote From: karen770

trusting a Palistinian is the same this as trusing a snake...you can NOT!!!!!!!
Wow, thats a bit harsh & judgmental dont you think? Why not just say that you can not trust all white, black, mexican, Indian (from India), etc people? You wanna know why? Because its NOT right to lump ALL of a certain race/culture into one stereotypical group! Not everyone is the same!
 
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November 15, 2007, 3:47 pm PST

11/15 A Daughter in Danger? Part 2

Quote From: angel23_2007

I feel sorry for this girl, and I can tell from abdullah, or whatever his name is, tha t he's a liar. I'm also a little annoyed at her mother. What the heck was she thinking, letting her 16 year old daughter on the computer for hours talking to some strange man??? Parents now a days just seem to not care. She should have been over her shoulder, watching everything thing that she was doing. I don't care if it's being nosey, not having a right to privacy, or whatever the kid thinks, it saves situations like this from happening in the future. Kids DON'T NEED computers in their rooms. That is just asking for trouble. It should be in a room where there is someone present, there should also be set time limits on internet usage for children. If they're living under their parents roof, or just not that mature yet to make the right desicions, then parents have every right to know what their kids are up to.
If nobody wants to blame Myspace, why don't you search around that site, a little? Look at all the pictures of girls dressed and posed provacatively. Myspace should make it their responsibility to take all that crap off of there.
I also don't care what country, or place a person is from, it could be the guy down the street, kids should not be talking to stangers, ANYWHERE!
As for Katherine, I hope she's doing all right. I can't wait to see the conclusion to the second segment. I'll be watching for it.

"If nobody wants to blame Myspace, why don't you search around that site, a little? Look at all the pictures of girls dressed and posed provacatively. Myspace should make it their responsibility to take all that crap off of there."

 

 

Before deciding to blame Myspace for not taking the pictures down, why dont you place blame & responsibilty on the girls who are dressing & acting like that & posting the pictures on there to begin with??? Sooo many girls (and boys) are on there LYING about their ages & acting older than they are. And then if/when something goes wrong, the teens & a lot of the time the parents automatically blame the site & other people they (the teens) were in contact with instead of taking responsibilty for their or their children's actions. And When you upload pictures on there, it tells you that pictures containg nudity or full nudity are prohibited & will be deleted. Also, people can report images they find innapropriate & get them deleted. But the point is that, these girls should know what's right, wrong, appropriate & inappropriate to be posting on the site. Parent's need to START making their kids/teens take some responsibility for THEIR actions & STOP blaming it ALL on others & the internet. Myspace is NOT the enemy, its the individual people (young & old ) who act irresponsibly on there, that are.

 
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November 15, 2007, 4:49 pm PST

11/15 A Daughter in Danger? Part 2

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No, at age 16 they don't always know what's right, wrong, appropriate and inappropriate. Many don't have parents who give a flip about them! But if they DO know it, that doesn't mean they use common sense (and restraint) and make good choices. Yes, people should be "responsible for their own actions," but it's up to us parents to make the best choices for our children! TEENS are NOT responsible adults!

 

You are apparently CLUELESS on the emotional development of teenagers. Take that from a high school teacher who has had the priviledge of working w/ them 5 days a week! Teens are naive, immature, too trusting, think they'll live forever and bad stuff happens just to others, they are self-indulgent, they often don't learn from their mistakes, they think they know EVERYTHING, etc.

 

Don't YOU recall being a teen? Haven't you matured GREATLY since then? We all have!

 

I did not blame MYSPACE. It's a tool for those mature enough to handle it. But do not EVER tell me teens should be on it and talking to strangers, which they WILL do. They're curious. They're human. They think they know what's best for them. They are trusting. They see the best in others. And THAT Is what makes them easy prey to PREDATORS! Those "predators" not only include criminals, but lying boyfriends, lying girlfriends and just plain losers.

 

It's very easy for those types to HIDE behind a computer screen; it's NO SO EASY for them to do that face-to-face in school, at work, in church, etc. And YOU know that.

I'm sorry, but if they had parents who ACTED LIKE PARENTS & taught them, then at 16 they WOULD/SHOULD know what is right, wrong, appropriate & inappropriate! And NO, they dont always use common sense, I'm very well aware of that, but teens WOULD learn from their mistakes more if their PARENTS actually MADE them take RESPONSIBILITY for THEIR actions when they dont use common sense, instead of blaming everyone/thing else.

 

I am NOT clueless, I know very well how teens are, I also know how a lot of parents aren't. I'm 21 years old & have seen & heard a lot of things first hand.

 

And YES, it IS just as easy for "predators" to hide who they really are face-to-face in school, at work, at church, etc. They could be very charming ANYWHERE, NO MATTER WHERE THEY ARE (on the net or in public), and anyone who thinks otherwise is in a bit of denial. 

 

Lets stop treating TEENS like spoiled little babies & actually hold them accountable/responsible for what THEY (rightly or wrongly) CHOOSE to do!

 
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November 16, 2007, 3:00 pm PST

11/16 Scary Skinny

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Why do we continue to support designers and clothing stores who perpetuate this problem by filling the racks with clothes that no one over a size 7 can wear?  The designers send size 2 samples to the models who then have to starve to get into that outfit in order to keep their jobs.  My oldest daughter has been between a size 7 and 9 since she was about 14 yet when we go into a clothing store the L size is small on her.  It makes her feel like she is fat and she often ends up in tears.  We need to start voting with our wallets.  If those hollywood actresses and socialites would boycott the designers who continue to force models to starve themselves in order to work on the catwalk, they'd soon change the standard to a more acceptable and normal size.  It seems as though the people designing the clothes don't really want to see a woman's body as they keep reducing the size so that the women get thinner and thinner until they look like young boys. 

I agree!

 

As a plus sized woman in today's society, a now proud plus sized woman I might add, it sickens me to constantly see girls & women (and in rare cases, boys/men) killing themselves like this to be so thin & trying live up to other people's standards of what beauty is & what it takes to get somewhere in life. I for one, am sick of society looking down upon plus sized women (and men) & making it seem like being of substance is the worst thing in the world... because it is NOT. Even the beginning standards for plus size clothing lines & models bother me. Because, the standard starts at a size 14! And in my honest opinion, that is NOT plus sized. To ME, a size 14 looks way more AVERAGE than plus sized. I think the starting size for Plus sizes needs to be changed to around 18/20... that, I think, would look more fitting. Please do not confuse my thinking/reasoning for being discriminating (that would be hypocritical of me), but rather DIFFERENTIATING between what is & is not plus sized. Plus, the average woman here in the USA is a size 14, which I believe is the size that Marilyn Monroe was. I wish more young girls & women who are so "scared" to be "fat" would look at & listen to/read the advice on body image/acceptance & beauty given by beautiful women such as Queen Latifah & Mo'Nique. Both of those wonderful women are such great inspirations, to both plus sized AND thin people (women).

 

 We need to realize that, as long as someone is healthy, their weight  shouldn't matter. So many people make assumptions & buy into the misconceptions of plus sized people. For example, a lot of people believe that if you're "overweight", you're automatically unhealthy... which is NOT true! Does being "overweight" put you a bit more at a risk for health problems? Yes. But, that doesn't mean ALL "overweight" people are unhealthy, or are going to be unhealthy. That would be like saying ALL thin people (by this, I mean average thin) are healthy, which also isn't true. There are MANY average thin people who have heart, blood, sugar, etc problems. I am around 5'2"-5'3", about 260lbs (When I checked the beginning of this month) & have NONE of those health issues. A lot of people also like to forget that genetics play a part in someone's health as well. Which is the important thing I (and everyone else) need to keep checking up on, because several things run in my family... but as of right now, I am a healthy plus sized woman. There's the topic of "when is someone TOO big?" and in my honest opinion, a person is too big when he/she has major trouble doing ever day things on their own... getting out of bed, walking at a normal pace, working, etc. THAT, and IF someone has other health problems, is when people should become really concerned with the issue of being "overweight".

 

But please people (young girls & women specifically), do NOT be afraid of curves, or a roll here & there. In my opinion, women are supposed to be of some substance. Do NOT lose weight just to "fit in" & impress people. I've been there & all it did was set me back & take me longer to finally have some self-esteem/confidence. I am no longer at my heaviest weight (which was about 310), but I can honestly tell you that now, I am happy & proud to be the size I am. I no longer crave to be thin, I'm now more focused on just maintaining my weight, rather than losing more. IF I do lose more, great, but also great if I dont. I know I sort of got way off topic here, but my point is this... EVERYONE is beautiful in THEIR OWN ways & you do NOT have to be super skinny/thin (or skinny at all) to be whoever & whatever you want to be in life. NOTHING is worth killing yourselves like this for. I hope & pray that anyone who suffers from eating disorders gets help SOON, before its too late.

 
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December 6, 2007, 12:19 pm PST

12/05 Internet Dangers

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 I liked your post so much that I thought I'd give it a simple amen so that it could be repeated!!

Thank you, I really appreciate that!

 
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December 6, 2007, 1:15 pm PST

12/05 Internet Dangers

Quote From: gift490

what show was you watching? There was no mention of Rhodesia staying home and being  sooo lazy.  as you put it. She is a working mother and wife, and If I am correct it appears she was the main bread winner ,while he kept his fat ass home on the PC. . Further more she is attractive and all men for your information do not want an anorexic .What's wrong with putting your family first? Making sure your children and your husband are cared for. If Marcus  was working maybe his lazy ass would not have had the time to cheat with a PC whore,who  I am sure was quite aware that he was married. If she had any dignity she would not have continued with the affair knowing he was a married.man. she is as much at fault as Marcus.As far looks is concerned , Marcus is no handsome stud.

THANK YOU, I AGREE! There's NOTHING wrong with putting your family first. And Rhodesia's no saint, I don't think she ever claimed to be. But....

 

When I read that person's post, it made my blood boil a bit. I  mean, how SHALLOW can someone be? Just because a person MAY have let their looks "go", is NO excuse for the other one to cheat! And you are right, NOT EVERY man wants a thin woman, or prefers only thin women (not that weight should even matter much). I also wanted to add that, when people take those vows & get married it's supposed to be forever, and you're saying that you love that person unconditionally... that includes, or should include, when either person's looks change. Because lets face it, EVERYONE'S appearance changes over time, but that should NOT change how you feel about them. Love/marriage is supposed to be based on more than just how someone looks. I don't think you can even call it LOVE if that's (looks) all it's based on, that sounds more like LUST, to me. If you're (generally speaking) going to be that shallow & criticize the way your partner looks and/or cheat on them because of that, then you have no business being in a relationship/marriage with them, or anyone, if that's the kind of attitude you have. Looks only get you so far anyway. Oh, and not that it's right to judge someone for being overweight because in my book its not right, but if you do/are, make sure you're not overweight yourself lol, because that just makes you look stupid.

 

I think Rhodesia needs to... 1. Stop blaming Myspace & start putting ALL blame on HIM for cheating, then (and most importantly) 2. LEAVE HIM & FIND HERSELF A REAL MAN! Because, she is a beautiful woman & CAN do better.

 
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January 25, 2008, 4:00 pm PST

01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs

I personally, believe that what CONSENTING people do in their bedrooms & private life is their business. If you're not into the swinging 'lifestyle', then that's perfectly fine, but judgment shouldn't be passed on those who are into it. I also believe that if both partners are aware of the other's actions & are ok with it, then it's NOT cheating.

 

My boyfriend, who is from the south (Texas), has religion in his life & goes to Church, is an ex stripper & is bisexual ( I am Bi as well)... and you could classify us as swingers, because even though we haven't done it together as a couple yet (we met online & are in a long distance relationship), we've discussed doing it at some point, and *I* myself have already participated in a threesome with a married couple in the past. I also personally know someone else & his fiancee' who are swingers. Is this 'lifestyle' for everyone? No, of course not. However, It DOES work for SOME people. Should it be kept in the dark from the children (if there are any)? Absolutely! At least until they are much older. But as long as the partners are consenting, comfortable, happy & safe within the situations, that's all that should matter. Dr. Phil stated a great quote/saying that I wish more people would 'live' by, and that's...

 

LIVE & LET LIVE!

 

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