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February 9, 2006, 12:31 pm PST
Help Please...with teenager discipline
I need help...please! My husband (of 2 years) has a 17-year-old son who is getting all D's and F's in school, the main reason being that he decides just "not" to turn in his assignments. He'd rather have fun. In addition, he stays out after his curfew and continually has an excuse (each time). He also lies a lot even about the small stuff. My husband (a soft-hearted, compassionate man) tells him that he'll take away his privileges (his car and keys, staying at friends' houses, etc.) if he doesn't start turning in his work and get his grades back up (he was a B/C student). But he doesn't follow through -- his son always talks him into letting him have his privileges back, even though he hasn't done anything about his grades. I am much more strict and believe he shouldn't have any privileges back until he does get his grades up. I dont think he is learning a thing, except how to manipulate his dad. I am so frustrated because my 12-year-old daughter witnesses this, and I don't want her to think this behavior is appropriate. I know I should stay out of it, but it's so hard to sit back and just watch. I've told my husband how I feel, but he continues to say that he'll do what he thinks is appropriate, and that he knows his son much better than I do. I'd be extremely grateful for any suggestions to help me cope with this. Thanks much!
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