Messages By: sharperk

Get out, get out, get out, I was once a victim of a 'one time' physical explosion after a 10 year marriage; by  the Grace of God I live today! that is the only explanation I can allow! I was so hurt, I can barely walk from all the damage done to me! a one time attack!! I hope that woman wakes up, my belief is people don't hurt the ones they love period! My parents raised all of us to beieve that, somehow I married someone who controlled his rage for the 10 year, except as I look back I am able to see signs I ignored, but when he snapped in his black rage, he nearly killed me! Please get out, once they have hit you, you are always thinking and so are they that they can beat you again! At least my parents brought me up that way, Iost my parents already and loved them to the fullest and have no regrets in their lives, except the fact that they are gone! They did a wonderful job of bringing up us kids! To the lady & your daughter, get out and get help, and all the abusive monstors should be arrested and placed into a cage/jail; that is where anything that is attacking you belongs!

all these posts that I have read are just what she needs to do, leave the x-large amount of ugly fat that she calls a husband, I lost 350 - 400 lbs of ugly fat many years ago, he was lazy, would belittle me, and after I finally left, I sure wished I had done so a lot sooner! I began to live again, my migraines went away, actually tension headaches, my brother use to say; "yes, she through out everything that didn't work, the toaster, clock, her husband.....! I actually left and bought my own home, raised my kids, and knew I had stayed too long, as I could and can still see it in the children! Staying put for the kids is wrong, it shows them what to look for in a spouse, how they are  going to be treated and thinking it is okay. I would love to see that chubby hubby start doing "housework" just to see how tough the sissy is, after all; 'real men don't abuse those that they love'; no matter what! Our spouses are suppose to be our partner, not tearing us apart!

I just caught your show, missed some of the first part, but caught the moocher who is living in the basement of his sister!! Gee I married that man, except he didn't look that way, he was the biggest moocher off of me his wife! I worked 3 jobs to feed our family, finally after realizing that it was much easier to feed my children, and control my own money, since he was an abusive coward,  demanding etc... not going into that here, but divorced him, he then married another very soon afterward! I left telling him I hope he found someone he deserved! HE DID! Exactly what I had hoped for, they are 2 peas in a pod, both abusive to each other I have heard as the new wife has a child  my daughter's age and would visit here, but Yes, he got what he deserved.  I know about  moochers, I told my children if they were going to College and lived at home okay, but if you decided to not go to college, you better find a job! Both have turned out very nicely, and when one part time job was and is not enough these days, my youngest has 2! Both are married, the oldest 15 years now, and the youngest will celebrate 3 years this year! They both still work and have a very good work ethic, go to work or you won't have a job! SIMPLE!

If you don't like mornings get a night job, many companies have maintenance at night, security jobs, hospitals run 24/7; and refusing a $10.00 an hour job, a job where I live that pays at least $10.00 is fantastic to start! That would allow anyone in our area a great earning ability! I would have loved to earn that, our level of pay is much less and even being a single Mom I earned from my jobs, (This was about 20 years ago) & one full time job was $5.00, one part time; $7.25, and one was, if I remember another part time; $8.25; the $5.00 an hour was the full time employment, I was so good at that job I was the first and only person to ever be offered a paid vacation, Oh and none of these jobs had health insurance either, but I went back to college, still worked 1 job, cared for kids, and a family member in my home, with the help of siblings in my family to assist while I was away at work or school; the family member needed 24/7 care from severe stroke! Thank God we have a loving family, but I completed my degree, went on to University, and was able to obtain a better job with benefits etc..... work, work, work, just keep going, I am now 20+ years past all the turmoil; but, I can't figure financially how I did it, I now know that I didn't, I had a Wonderful Friend who helped me, He is and did provide! God Provides; and is the only way all of that could have been done He carried all I had to do,  and He sure came through for me, like I said nothing could have added up to be able to carry out all the jobs, education and caregiver at home!  Not to mention the emotional stress of it all! Amen

These types of men abuse you and you won't even know it, they use every penny you have, take from your and his children, refuse to "allow" you to buy for your children the things they need! I know I was married to this same type, he did, after my divorce get a job, supposedly got hurt, sued, etc... I believe he is on his 3rd law suit and our area is small so I do hope he is caught! Anyway, I was an abused child, not from family but from a family friend who babysat his sister and I while I was maybe 4 or 5 years old, set my entire life into a very sad situation, and we, I believe, who were abused sexually, feel as though we deserve to be treated and used, that is what happens to our brains! I know differently now! But for many years, I felt I wore a flashing sign on my forehead, abuse me, I am worthless!!! Since counseling I know differently, and we think we know, but we always settled for less than we should have, never look for love by getting pregnant, you will have another mouth to feed and you will have to do all the work and feeding! Listen to all of your family, they love and want what is best for you! Sorry to hear that your excuses are allowing that person to control you even before you are married, when I married my first husband, I was told I was his property the day after our wedding, on our way home from the hotel we stayed in, my mind just went blank and I stayed way too long! get out before you have 5 children you can't feed, because you will end up working to do everything, I mean everything, including cutting the grass, snow ,if you live where there is snow, fix it all around the house, he will do nothing, just say "I will" and never do it! Get out; family wants what is best for you, not to punish you!

Greetings, after my divorce I always told my children that their father loved them, the kids did not want to see him, then my teenage daughter began having horrible nightmares, I had been taking her to see a therapist, where she received counseling, along with; at times her father; she never disclosed the fact until she was 16 that she was sexually molested by her father! (she tried to commit suicide, she had repressed the memories of what was done to her)  my oldest daughter was at the time over 21 (and never forgot!) but it was prior to the law changing allowing people over 21 to testify during a preliminary trial, the judge did not find that repressed memory was enough to bind over to Circuit Court; my oldest daughter could then testify! Even though protective services were involved, and the police record of her abuse was taken and in front of that judge! After a time, the sperm donor as the kids refer to him, tried to file charges to reap his attorney fees from my youngest daughter, both girls were then in the Circuit Court, and this Judge believed them, yet he is free, with the words; "do not go anywhere near these girls or a PPO would be issued!" now doesn't the Judge order an arrest warrant? Yet, the records are still open and when he re-offends, then the kids can go and give testimony again! Stranger danger? well the stranger lives in your own house! I don't feel that this monster should be walking the streets, as we all know they don't stop, and someday will again ruin another young girls life, forever taking their innocence from them! So, I was doing what was; I thought the right thing, telling them that they should visit, he loves them etc... only to find out later that he horribly took their innocence from them, at a young age, and the dreams my youngest daughter had was of him murdering me in my home! which was My home, different from where we had lived, I left with what fit in my car, and he kept everything else, I left finally due to being tired of the jealousy and possessiveness and control and he refused to work, I worked too many jobs and finally realized it would be easier for me to raise and care for my girls and myself, and finally felt free, despite the threats he made to me, regarding "me having accidents, among other threats", yet I continued to say "he loves you, to my girls!" Stolen innocence! a horrible place, and then I felt guilt for not knowing, but he did this while I was working, he also had a special niece, I am sure was abused prior to our marriage! I have been divorced from him for nearly 20 years, now! I was an abused child, by friends of the family and their son who babysat for his parents, he watched and abused his sister and myself! I know the heartache and the damage that is done to children when that happens, I told my kids to always tell me if someone touched them in their private parts, no matter who it was, I even used the name of their Uncle who would never do such a thing and I was close to him; (my brother), but they did not tell me, and with the nightmares; or night terrors; I understand children are powerless to inform us, as the threats are; that it is our fault, and we would be in trouble, and then the other threat that they would kill their mother if they told, both kids are grown and Thank God have great families, I just know the hurt that was felt and at times still affects their grown up life with their husbands, and even though they have informed them of this it is difficult to get across to some, just how it is once you have been abused in that way! You feel powerless, as I felt the same way, afraid to tell; and my own children could not  tell their Mother what was happening! Monsters live in our own homes, and not always a stranger!  As for brainwashing children, we need to believe what they say, no child makes this stuff up! When will the Courts begin to believe these kids, no one asks for this life altering abuse! I believe them! I also know some women, and men abuse the right of parenting as well, putting the child under so much pressure to please! But for the most part, children who say they were abused, should be believed!

I believed that Simpson was guilty from the time he put on the leather gloves those many years ago, if anyone would try on their own leather gloves, with latex gloves underneath, they would not fit! I had my; (then husband try it,) as I knew: with his fingers spread, and those latex gloves , of course they would not fit, and the comments long ago that if the gloves don't fit etc... we all know common sense in my opinion was gone from that Court room those many years ago! That jury could not see the truth, it was a joke of travesty then and now, I pray that monster abusers like that always get their due! Glad he was found guilty, especially during; Domestic Violence  Awareness Month! He was guilty then and he is guilty now! Thank you Jurors for finding the truth, sadly he had too much free time after those horrible murders and to be found guilty on the anniversary of that last verdict is just poetic justice! Thank the Lord for allowing the truth to be finally known!