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October 7, 2005, 7:36 pm PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

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I have comments on all three debates that were given today.

  

 

 

  

 

Breast Feeding in Public

  

 

What has happened to modesty in today's world? Women would not sit around and take out their breast and simply flaunt it for the heck of it, if so this would be considered indecent exposure. Now we say we are breast feeding our children and this should be acceptable? I think not! In this day and age with breast pumps there should be no reason that people cannot be more discreet. There are women I know that pump ahead of time to provide their children they need. Also another point that was not discussed is the fact that men no matter what the circumstance are going to sit there and look at the naked breast and possibly get turned on by that. I mean there are porn sites for everything anymore even nude pregnant women! Are we naive enough to think that this is ok to do in public simply because it the natural thing to do. Come on let's use a little common sense.

  

 

 

  

 

Condoms In School

  

 

I think that we should NOT hand out condoms in school at all. The school job's is to educate and not to teach morals. I mean isn't this why they mistakenly took prayer out of school? and God out of the Pledge of Allegiance? I mean we take God out and hand out condoms? Do we not see the contradiction here? I know that the "stats" support handing them out. However, Planned Parenthood is one the most liberal organizations out there that hand out condoms and birth control because teenagers simply want to go have sex. On the show Dr. Phil is always saying that teenagers do not think things through all the time, so then we give them the great responsibility of having sex? I mean there is much more to sex then simply the STD's and pregnancy. There are emotional issues, especially with young girls that handing them a condom will not solve. Where are the morals in this? So we teach kids about sex and that they should abstain....but here is the lighter in case you want to start that fire? I know that for me because I had good parents that cared and instilled fear in me, that I did not have sex because I did know the consequences of those actions. Another point is that by giving the school more control over our morals as in this situation, we are giving the government more control in our lives.

  

 

 

  

 

Disciplining Children

  

 

When we were younger and went out to eat with our parents we would sit still and behave. It was a very rare day when I or my sister had to be removed from anywhere in public and disciplined. We knew what would happen if we did not behave. Parents need more control of their children. I would never go to someone's child and say something; however I would to that parent. I am in total agreement with the young lady on the show that is the comedian. Everything she said, I applauded. Kids need control!

  

 

  

 

I graduated HS about 2ish years ago and I didnt find any of the health classes to be of any help when it came to sex. I dont think it's is really worth anyone's time. My parents never had the "sex talk" with me...or the "drug talk" or the "smoking/drinking talk"....I'm completely fine. I'm not a druggie, alcholic, smoker, or sex addict. I think all the parents have to do is make sure their children grow up with a good head on their shoulders. It's all common sense. period. Kids know just by talking at lunch...watching tv...going to the movies and all their other normal every day activities what goes on. They already know about STD's...how babies are made....They know about the G-Spot, condoms, oral/anal sex, clitoris, HIV, syphilis and everything else....whether they tell you or not....and whether you want to, as parents, admit it or not. I'm now in college and as many of you probably know from experience, it's even crazier and the pressure to engage in those activities is even greater than in HS and middle school. If they didn't do it in HS then they will in College, most definitely. Personally, I dont think schools should be passing out condoms to 12 year olds, but maybe if our culture didn't try to scare kids from sex it wouldn't be so bad. Teens do things to rebel against their parents. If you tell them not to do something, then they'll not get the 'fear'....they get curious....They wonder what the big deal is and most likely want to try it. Sex was never made into a big deal with my family. My parents had rules for us. Although my sisters and I did have our occasional 'arriving home at 6AM' moments, they didn't let us run crazy. We all got honor roll every quarter in HS and did college prep classes. When I was little I remember wondering to myself "what if i never figure out how to have sex...." I've always wanted to have kids when I'm older and since no one told me all about sex I just figured it out along the way. Just dont make it into a big deal. Dont tell kids they have to abstain from sex, cuz making a big deal will make them want to do it......Sex is purely human. It's natural for people to have sex and to want to fulfill those needs. It should be taught that way. It's just like drinking...If there wasn't an age for drinking and kids were brought up in a culture where alcohol wasn't a "bad" thing.....if it wasn't a big deal...Then kids wouldn't feel like they have to hide anything or sneak out to drink. Instead of saying "Hey...Want to go back to my house after prom? I have a case of beer.....we can get wasted!"...they wouldn't even think twice about it since it's not "forbidden," yet, it's a natural part of their life. 
 
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October 7, 2005, 7:59 pm PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

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I agree with you that it is the parents' job to educate their children about sex. But what happens when the parents don't do thier job?? These are the kids getting pregnant and getting STD's. Unfortunately, we live in a society where many children are not planned and not wanted. Without proper education and access to resources, the cycle of teen mothers, generation after generation, will just continue.
My parent's NEVER talked to my sisters and I about sex, drugs, alcohol or anything of that nature....My sisters are 23 and I'm 20....none of us have had any children....We dont have STD's....I admit that I have gone out drinking a few times, but never got to the point that I couldn't walk, talk or handle myself in public. I have had sex. I'm sure my sisters have too, but we weren't raised in a family where sex was a huge deal and "oh no you'll go to hell if you have sex before marriage!" Our parents knew we were smart and had common sense, but most importantly, they trusted us to make good decisions without them having to ask where we have been when we would come home at 4AM. Parents just need to raise their children to be INTELLIGENT and have a sense of SELF-WORTH. That's about it. the girls out getting pregnant are the ones that have no respect for themselves. That's their whole problem. I believe your statement  "But what happens when the parents don't do thier job?? These are the kids getting pregnant and getting STD's." is very very very wrong.
 
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October 7, 2005, 8:34 pm PDT

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 A lot of my friends are bisexual, and I don't care in the least. It doesn't matter who you're attracted to: either way, you have a perfectly good chance of finding someone who will love you for who you are. Nothing else matters. :-)

Finally there's someone out there who isn't afraid to accept EVERYONE. About a month after we started college last year, my best friend told me he was gay. At first I was a little shocked, but I think I knew the whole time. It hurts me that he can be himself at school, but never wants to go home because we're from a very conservative part of Ohio. He feels uncomfortable around people, afraid to come out to his parents (although his little sister knows, and does not mind one bit). He shouldn't have to pretend to be someone he isn't just because some people in this country are uncomfortable. Just because he likes guys doesn't mean he's attracted to every one that walks by. I was raised as a Catholic. I went to the catholic school, was confirmed...the whole deal. Yeah, maybe I am going against my religion by supporting him (and all of his/my other homosexual friends), but I would never give up our friendship over something like this. We even became closer after he came out. He could finally be himself around me. I love seeing him happy. There's nothing mentally wrong with him...if some people may think that. I believe God makes everyone just as he wants them to be...and everyone has a purpose in the world. My friend was Valedictorian of our senior class, in NHS, make the dean's list in college and has tons of friends to support him. Some quotes that I remember from him are.... 

...."we the people means EVERYONE" 

...."Love is love...no matter what sex you are." 

I just wish that everyone could learn that everyone isn't like they are. Maybe they should go out and meet some gay men or some lesbians...just so they know how much they are like everyone else. They feel pain, sorrow, happiness, regret and anger. I know for a fact that if some of those ignorant people out there who dont care to accept the different people of the world  would meet my BEST FRIEND they would honestly love him just as much as I do.  
 
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October 7, 2005, 8:37 pm PDT

Homosexuality

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  ...Yeah... thats just stupid.
 Do you honestly think we just all woke up one morning and thought "Hmmm. I think I'm going to be gay and hated and shunned by all of society. I feel like having my own parents hate me." Cuz thats what you just said.
First of all, homosexuality has been scientifically proven. Its caused by a malformed gland in the brain. Homosexual activity is even seen in nature. It's a normal phenomenon as old as time. Secondly, as I said before, gays have been around since before Crist. Even King James (the one that wrote a version of the Bible) was gay. Thirdly, think about it. God didnt write the Bible, man did. At the time wars, and sickness was taking so many lives, they couldnt afford not to propogate. If you notice, nothing is ever directly said against lesbians, because you can hold a girl down.
   I believe in God. I believe that an all powerful being created Earth, man, and all the animals (even if it took a few billion years of tries to get it perfect). And I believe he loves us all; and sometimes, maybe just to spice things up, he gives us flaws.
 I know what the Bible says, but forget that for a moment and think like a human, not a Lutheran, or Catholic, or Jew, and think; Why would someone CHOSE to be gay? To be hated and meserable there whole lives. To never be fully accepted by society. To have that stigma and hatred follow them forever. To never truely be happy. To sometimes have to hide your true feelings your entire life. Who would chose that?
 I wake up almost every morning wishing I could just be happy as a girl; but I can't. No matter how hard I try, no matter how depressed and desperate I get. I can't help it. As a little kid, before I even knew what gays were, I knew I was different. Did I chose that? No. I live in North Louisiana, the center of the BibleBelt; where God is everywhere. Why would I chose to be this way? Where everyone stares just because I wear loafers and t-shirts.
   If you can honestly know a gay person, be their friend, and then turn around and tell them their going to Hell, then I truely pitty you more than them.
I'm wondering if that other person who you're replying to made a choice to be straight. I'm straight. I dont recall thinking to myself one day "should i be gay or straight?" I hate when people try to say that "it's a choice"....that's so ignorant. They need to come out of their little bubble and look at the world around them. The bible doesnt say "love one another....except the gays..."
 
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October 8, 2005, 10:21 am PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

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not saying that your wrong because i value your opinion just as i do mine but, you should read a message i posted about my best friend and how she got pregnant, and i can assure you that my friend thought she was in love and that this guy loved her too. i take serious offense to what you said about how parents need to raise their children to be intelligent and that those girls don't have any self worth. my friend has a tone of self value!!! and intelligence is not something that comes naturally. you can't raise someone to be intelligent, they have to become that on their own. so i suggest that you kind of think about what your telling people. because the statement that only girls with no self-worth get pregnant is not true. i mean if that was true wouldn't you have to call your mother a person with low self-value?
My mother didn't have me before marriage. She had already been married for 5 years. I'm talking about the teens who get pregnant. My mother was married...she can have unprotected sex whenever she wants. If you trust your children and raise them in a stable environment so they aren't running around with "the bad crowd"...they're more likely to not get pregnant. I dont mean intelligence like knowing your 50 states and crap...I mean knowing the difference between right and wrong....It's quite obvious you can get pregnant from having sex....It's obvious you need protection..you shouldn't have to teach that. Yes you can raise people to be intelligent. If the parent interracts with the child on a daily basis from birth they'll be so much more intelligent than someone whose children are neglected, for example. If a girl thinks that she has to have sex for a guy to love her or for her to be accepted with the "in crowd"...then she's got some self-worth issues....She's got low self-esteem.
 
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