Messages By: mlrocz

I was just in the hallway at San Jac community college(Houston, TX) on Wednesday and this girl was going on about how she can't stand history and government courses.  It was obvious that she believed they were not essential to her education. 

I loathe to see women bashing women on topics that would have been handled by men less than a century ago, that's less than 100 years ago folks.  Young women (13+) today frown at feminism but we can't stand to let our rights go by the wayside.  Please don't forget how far women have come...and don't take freedom to do as you wish for granted. 

I wanted to breastfeed but after one month of trying it was evident that my daughter wasn't getting enough milk.  I don't see why people can't look the other way when they see a breastfeeding mom.  Sure, moms can be discreet, and for then own safety should cover themselves.  For anyone that finds they can't eat because the woman at the next table just started feeding her child:  I suggest you ask the waiter to move you. 

For those breastfeeding:  I suggest as much discretion as you can muster.  With all of the "cover ups" available today, I don't see why you would "flaunt" what's flabby after childbirth. 

BTW, for those that mention that men should have a say:  This should stay between women, as should the abortion topic. 

years ago parents decided it was a good idea to teach sex education in school.  It is a good idea, and it's necessary. Condoms can be issued but the kids should be warned that they don't last (look at Kenickie in GREASE).  Not all parents talk to their children about sex.  Maybe because of embarrassment, they don't care, or maybe they just don't think they have to worry.  Whatever the reason adults tend to forget what its like to be a teen, and can't relate. 

I finally had the talk about sex with my stepdaughter just this week.  She's 13 and very social, but her mother still hadn't talked to her at all on the subject.  I find it irresponsible because her own mother got pregnant with her when she was only 15. 

One thing the schools don't cover is the fact that the feelings you have leading up to sex are wonderful and exciting.  The problem then is girls (especially), who have been taught that bad things happen to girls that have sex early, or without protection, think sex is bad.   BUT why do things feel so good when they're kissed? touched? talked to in that sexy way?   MUST BE TRUE LOVE.      

Please educate your children in addition to what our schools are doing.  Condoms or no condoms, some will have sex anyway.  I know that my husband and his ex were both in some type of sex ed class before getting pregnant at 15, and I don't know about the ex, but my husband is an intelligent, loving person.  How would you describe your teenager? 

When it comes to responding to a child, it doesn't matter much to me what the parent thinks. 

Want to know why? 

1. When I worked in retail, parents often asked me to tell their children to stop doing things because they believed they would listen to me. 

2. I've always talked to other people's children as if they were my peers, and my friends kids appreciate that and respect because of it. 

If a child kicks me or disturbs me directly I will let him/her know I don't appreciate it.  I don't look to their parents unless the child is out of control, refusing to let me be.   

IF a parent in front of me in line is busy (talking with cashier or something) I will tell their child to calm down so that their mother can hear, or accomplish something.   

It is totally appropiate to talk with a child if they are engaging you in some way.   IT IS NOT appropriate to offer unsolicited advice (unless mom is pulling hair out), or to go out of your way to approach and reprimand someone else's child (it's mom and dad's responsibility. 

In response to your statement about modesty.    This shouldn't be the issue when we are talking about feeding children. Have you ever tried to use a breast pump?  I don't mean the nice expensive ones like hospital grade, but the kind most women can afford.  Hell, if my let down ever happened I would get about 4 ounces in over an hour.   That's ridiculous.  I might as well have the baby on the breast every other hour.   BTW, we are one of the few countries that would rather see a woman using a bottle than showing a little skin. (of course, some of you will be quick to say that makes America better) sheesh. 

Sex issue.  The point is that teens DO often have sex.  Condoms may be useful if they're going to do it anyway.  BTW, it is a BAD parenting practice to instill fear in your children.   

FUNNY NOTE:  My parents were both very very well disciplined...guess what?  They decided not to be too hard on me.  We were asked to leave a restaurant before and never come back.   I know they were embarrassed, but do you see how their own upbringing backfired? 

I saw the clip of this show and I'm sure its going to upset me to watch. 

Women, just because men treated us on the whole like slaves for centuries does not mean it is what God intended. 

IF you honestly believe everything you read, for instance that woman was actually made from Adam's rib, then maybe you don't have a problem being told what to do by your man.  It doesn't make sense to me though, I know I wasn't made from man and that empowers me to realize I'm here to make up my own mind about how to let people (men) treat me.    

BTW, my husband is a loving caring individual, and an excellent father.  He does as much of the house cleaning and he listens to me.    

I have helped my husband at work B4 when it was allowed. 

I'm in school you dolt and taking care of my child when my husband is working.  Face it, life with a partner is about give and take. You can't just work outside of the home and expect to do zip for your spouse (goes either way) 

What does child support have to do with keeping kids from their father?  Child support was instituted so that mothers or fathers could run the household financially as if the parental unit were still in tact.    

Sounds like you have a problem with women period.  I suggest you wear the dress and get some nice pumps to wear the dress out on the town in. 

The Bible was written by human beings.  Some said they were told what to write by God.  Other people have said they were told things directly by God, yet they are considered crazy. 

I questioned what my parents raised  me as (Catholic) because the church teaches that God hates some people and loves others.  We are to tolerate those people even though they are going to hell, only many people do live with hatred in their hearts.   God doesn't need us to go to church and tell our "sins" to another human being, he wants us to look up toward him and tell him ourselves.  I was made the same way man was. God had the design for women from the female god that sits beside him.  You belittle women and put yourself in a lower place just saying that aloud. The God most of us were taught about is vengeful, but that is not true. There is a hell, but it is on Earth.  I'll see you on the other side. 

BTW, I was using the bible reference as an example of how we learn to believe things are true.  I wasn't implying that all god fearing folk are still backwards in the household. 

1.  You can't put your life on hold just because you have kids.  Life continues, and you must continue to grow as well.  If you don't have a good education you will end up in what Mr. Bush considers to be a very American fashion - working three jobs - yes, he did tell a woman she was very American for working three jobs all her life.  What a world we live in. 

I have been married for 8 years come this December and lived with my husband 12 years come this February.  There are no problems with my marriage that could lead to divorce.  

2.  My kids are 13 and 6 months, what do you think they are doing when I'm in school?   

All I have to say is the Bible has a lot to say. 

Don't take things too literally...it is not meant for you to take everything literally 

Maybe it's how I was raised, but I never have helped clean dishes at anyone's home. 

I was lucky on the role thing.  My husband came from a family of women, Mother, three sisters and one brother, all older.  He had a father figure untll he was 15 but he considers all the time spent with him as bad.    All of this molded my husband into the wonderful father and partner I now share my life with. 

I grew up in an unusual household myself.  My dad is an avid reader, a history teacher, opera lover, and conversationalist.  The first time I saw people watching sports on the holidays I was shocked.  We NEVER watched any sports at home, I'm lucky my husband only bothers to catch occasional home team games.