Messages By: dabny1957

Hi Becky!

 

Nice to meet you and to hear from others like me.  It's rough.  I hate being on SSI and Mediciad!  IF I can ever get thing under better control and pain bearable, I want to one day get back into the work force and be a tax paying citizen again.  It's very demeaning being on SSI .  People like to think we are just lazy.  I'd like to know what the doctors feel we arre to do, roll over and croack?  I don't think so, I want to be able to go north to see my grandbabies! It's bad enough they had my grandsons baptism yesterday, and they never even let me know they were having it!  I called my son to visit, and he was saying he had to go, to get around for Alex's baptism.  They couldn't wait until we (my bf and I) go back up north in the May  for the summer!  Anyhow that is another story

 

I also once have tried suicide,  about 7 years ago, but not due to my health, from going through a divorce.  Where was DR. Phil back when I was married? LOL  I think he could of saved our marraige!  We both was being stubborn. But we are at least friends now. That is another story.

 

To get back on track here.  My heart, I've had CHF and Atrial fib.  I've had a few cardio conversions and an ablation.  I am crossing my fingers, since the last conversion last June,  it's stayed normal.  But it is getting the time of year it usually goes back into Atrial fib.  I don't think the time of year has anything to do with it. But, it's just the way it has worked for me. 

 

Man we both have had the bad stuff at a relatively young age!!!  It would be nice if we could do like they do with automobiles when the bodies bad , but the insides are good they just replace the bodies and visa versa. lol

 

With my back I have degenerative disk disease, which causes siatica,  and then the rest of me has rheumatoid arthritis.

 

I go to get started on pain management on friday, since there are no neurosurgeons in state of FL that takes medicaid.  With my heart I do not know what they can do for me, but will see.

 

I'm glad you dropped a line.  I was starting to think that no one came to the message boards as much anymore.  I'm glad to know someone is out there!

 

Hugs,

Deb

some reason on the feelings on my last post, it put weird.  I know how some might view me as weird, but I didn't put that.  I don't remember putting anything there. lol oh well, kaka happens!

Hey it works both ways.  Depending on where and who it's coming from.  I've heard and seen it work out where the man has more rights and the women has none, like moi in my divorce.  Then I've also seen where it works the other way around.  In either case which ever one has the high horse and has the complete rights and gets everything needs to have their attitudes adjusted.  I do agree that whatever the man has made for himself PRIOR to the relationship that the women shouldn't have any parts of it, only the part of it that was made after the marraige.  The same would of if it was the other way around, the he wouldn't had the rights to hers stuff.

 

Me, I lost my parents home that they worked for years to make nice and to turn over to me when they passed away to my ex, he wound up with everything.  The judge wouldn't even listen to why  pr what the problems was in the marraige (verbal and emotional abuse).  I couldn't afford a lawyer was my only downfall of losing everything!

I agree with you.  Since my divorce/, the guys I've went wtih that is there main concern.  My ex didn't have a pot to piss in when I married him, I sure didn't marry him for his money. hmmm maybe that is why he married me! LOL like yea, right.  I can say when I married I my family wasn't rich, but they wasn't poor neither.  Anyhow I do agree that men can't see a women for more than a financial invsetment. We are, but so are they, but we both are so much more than that!  A soulmate, a comforter when a long day is done, a companion to enjoy life with doing small things, along with a once in a great whil a big thing, and much more.

I wanted to add, that was an emotiona trip of it's own, losing the house that I was raised in and that the ex and I raised our kids in to the ex.  I just wish Dr. Phil was around then or had himself  known in PA.  But then the ex was being stubborn and wouldn't go to counseling with me to my pastor.  So after I left then I was the stubborn one.   If  I wasn't being so stubborm from having feelings hurt, I would of relized or thought, Two wrong's dosen't make a right! 

 

But yeah, if she expects half or more of  things acquired privious to the relationship, then she needs the attitude adjustmet.   What I seen they both could use it, and of course that is why they are seeing Dr. Phil. to get some fine tunning, to see if they can get something to work for them BOTH, not one or the other.

Hope your having a good week!

How are you all doing today? 

 

Not really too bad at the moment, here,  just kind of chillin.  I was in agony a couple hours ago, with my back and Sciatica!  If I can get it to where it doesn't hurt as much, I'm afraid to move, cuz when I move it starts in again.  Somethines ya have to move though, ya know? LOL one of those things!

I am so worried, upset and sickened for these people!  They are a walking time bomb, if they don't get something drastically done! 

 

I have a serious weight problem too!  I don't have the problem with the weight as they do.  But was saddened, me was, I could also see myself getting to that point.  After years of losing and gaining, we get tired and fed up then say to heck with it!.   I am currently 234.  I currently also have a couple co-morbilites and disabling issues (CHF, hisotry of Atrial Fib,  Fluctuating BP from high to low, degenerative disk disease, hypothyroid) mostly all steming from being overweight, and yoyoing most of my life.  Three auto acciedents back in the late 70's and 80's doesn't help things either.

 

I think if I was to gain much more, I would not be here, typing to you all.  I already feel so uncomfortable and unhealthy!

 

The show, I wound up crying, not only that I pictured myself as them, but for them, that it has to be so hard to be like that!  And I worry for their very life!   I''ve seen it over and over people weight until it's too late!    PLEASE don't do that, you all are worth so much more for yourselves!  There is so much world to go out and see!   There's a whole knew you inside and that knew you wants out, show the world to real you inside!  If you treat your insides

 

With the child, if the parents/ grandparents  don't have the stuff in the house the child won't be tempted or bugging for it, if they can't see it and they know there isn't any in the house.  I have that problem with my bf,  He keeps buying all these goodies, and then wonders why I have a hard time trying to lose weight,  Let alone a child.

 

I once told my neice, when she was little, but old enough to understand, that if she EVER let herself get REAL big to where she had a problem with weight, I'd kick her butt!  Ya know though, she never has gotten big, even after having a child.  Her dad, my brother was never heavy until after he got married.  Now he has diabetes, and neither of her brothers in school was usually heavy,  So it is surprsing she never turned out big.

 

Anyhow,  I'll keep all the folks that was on the show, in my prayers!  Prayers can work wonders!!

Well, made it to Pain Management day before yesterday.  The doc there changed my Tylenol 3 to Morphine, and a form of Hydrocodone and Tylenol (actomidophen(sp?).  So hopefully I won't have as much pain.  Only thing is I don't like the idea of being drugged.