Messages By: juno3618

This is such a great time in my daughters life, because she is going to high school next year, she has great friends, she loves God and she has a boyfriend who is sweet.  My daughter is 13 and by no means what so ever is permitted to go on dates with her boyfriend, however this and every relationship is in opportunity to teach her how to communicate, what to look for, identify with, not identify with and be safe learning, because she is still in my presence.  I still firmly believe that school and family come first in her life. I wanted her to learn that you need to get to know people first before you fall in love with them, and get to know them ask questions, it's ok.  I also want her to learn that her choices matter, and she needs to make alot of them  so we talk alot, and she doesn't like it very much, but she also knows that if she can't present all the information for what she wants to do, like who, what, when, where, why, how, what time does it start and end, and how are you going to get there and get back then we have no communication and she doesn't get her way.  She also does alot in her life, she goes to school, church, violin, home and we do alot together, so time is filled with constructive positive things than doting on seeing her boyfriend, and if she wants to see her boyfriend as a reward for getting her chores done (with supervision) then so be it, I have another daughter who is 9yr old that I can spend time with while she is with her boyfriend.  I hope this is helpful and would welcome any other ideas, but this is what works for me.