Messages By: logans_mom
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October 11, 2005, 11:21 am PDT
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October 11, 2005, 11:35 am PDT
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October 16, 2005, 8:26 pm PDT
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October 16, 2005, 8:41 pm PDT
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October 22, 2005, 8:17 pm PDT
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I know my husband and I are good parents to our 13 and 10-yr old boys and 7 yr old princess simply because we love them so much it hurts and continually question ourselves to search for and hopefully correct the flaws we see. And there are some aspects to our parenting that I wouldn't change for the world, like: not being afraid to apologize when we screw up (a hard thing for kids is realizing mom & dad ain't perfect anymore) and not being afraid to show simple affection and say "I love you" too much. But here's what does worry me: my husband's style can be and has been classified as authoritarian - i.e. he's a drill seargant. Hence, I am very easily persuaded to be the permissive parent, I guess to try and compensate for where I feel my husband is failing or lacking. However, I know this is most definitely what NOT to do, so I'm trying to be on top of that. The goals I've set and am working on involve doing everything I can to ensure non-stop communication to avoid our children being disciplined twice, for example and making the consequences for their behavior, positive or negative constant. The hardest, in my opinion is consistently rewarding the positive because, especially with three kids it's so easy to get into the rut of "Don't", "No" and "Why did you...?". My poor darlings have missed more weekly allowances than I can count! I'm glad their not me. If I'd not been paid once for my job, I'd have given notice...