Messages By: hpheather

I watched you both on the show today and it remined me of myself. My mother was much the same way with me. I am 25 years old and I love my mother however she did not get the help I hope you will. She was very scared and still is much controlled by fear and thoughts consumed of bad futur events happening. I as an adult have broken away from those fears. I turned rebellious. and resentful, i have forgiven her but I am so limited in my relationship with her, that I barelry talk to her or have contact as I feel so violated when she shoves her fears on me. I have a joyful life without her and she is missing out and so am I on having something more as she has literaly emotinaly chased me out of her life. I dont like to talk to her as all her conversation is based on fear. She even goes to the exstnt of making crazy accusations at me....that are also based in fear. I hope you can hear from my experience and learn from it- My relationship is saddly very nil with my mother- as she has done to me, what you are doing with your daughter. The lack of trust and judgment my mother showed me, and the fear she tried to instill in me, left me with a very low self esteem, I lacked confidence to make my own decisions, beacause she did this I grew up being attracked to abusers- who treated me very much like my mom treated me...I was not able to stand alone- so I thought and was in a web of abuse and didnt know how to even set a boundary with even a friendship. ...I am still working on myself to this day and I now am happy marriede to a wonderful man - but I still have to watch myself not to slip into the old habits of thinking and living.  You may not realize how terrable of thing you are doing with your daughter but it is a horrible thing.

I watched the show and it appears that your daughter is seeking your acceptance more then the one whom she should really be seeking- GODS-I think you are a great example of loving the person but still rejecting the sin-she wants to hear that it is alright to live in sin, or should i say live in iniquity-but you continue to be the voice and exaple of GOD in her life- keep strong! stay in the truth and dont get watered down by others opionion, stay with the word of Jesus- I prayed for your family- and I know concering sin is hard- but we can do it- The bible says walk in the spirit and you wont comminit the lust of the flesh. it seems she was trying to not walk in the flesh so then she could walk in the spirit. I know if she reached for jesus and dicplined her flesh and practiced walking in the spirit she will overcome this spirit. 

Like a cat, desire is, if you feed it it getts bigger, and keeps coming back to get feed, the desire gets stronger and stronger. She must step by step put the word of god in herself, focus on the word speak the word of victory by faith over her life, pray and fast, and repent, and she will be made whole! 

It seems she is believeing a lie, that the desire for this sin is her, but that is not the way God created her-she needs to see herself in jesus away from the sin. god bless 

god didnt make us with sin, the desire is perverted and is from the devil, the pressure she is feeling is real, but there is a way out, its hard, but there is a way- the more she feeds the desire for sin, the more it comes back and the stronger it gets- she must step down the same wa y to get control back. 

and god love sus enough not to leave us the way we are when we come to him- 

How dare anyone speak against another, thats the devils job and here us humans are falling into the same deception. I have been spoken about much the same but worse as this young girl in school, and have become very antisocial because of it- i am learning how to get out of something that happened to me 10 years ago. i forgive those people but i dont like to remeber whats happened- years later the devil uses those words to eacho into me to hurt me and bring me shame, its awefula nd my heart goes out to her.