Messages By: grace1159

I met a woman in our town and saw how she "seemed " to be needy. I noticed also that no one seemed to be helping her. I found out the hard way why! She is a chronic,  compulsive liar. I have tried to be a friend to her over and over. I would catch her in lies and tell her to stop lying to me. She never said an "I'm sorry" or anything. Just acted as if it never happened. She has told me some outlandish tales, from everyway you can imagine.  I found out that the only thing I knew about her was her first name. I don't trust anything else she ever told me. I was so angry yet felt betrayed that someone would take advantage of me like that and lie  to get what she wanted. She even had herself admitted to a psychiatric hospital to get a diagnosis so she could get a rent free apartment here in town, reserved for the functional mentally ill ! I blocked my phone from her but she has called from other places trying to get to me. I refuse to even acknowledge her at this point. I know that she will never have a friend if she can't quit lying and her past will catch up to her, which may be a jail sentence. pathological liars are very wise in the ways to cheat, lie, steal and fraudulently get things. Even if it belongs to someone else, this woman sees something she wants and  sets out to take it.  Well, she won't take me anymore. For her own sake, she needs to leave me alone. I am through with her lies and her!  

 Yers, teens think they can do anything "for fun" and not get hurt. They do not seem to have the remotest possibility or idea of death at their age. Tragically, that's what a friend of mine thought in high school. He was riding in the back of a truck, playing around with the other guys and accidentally fell to the ground. He awoke from the short loss of consciousness only to make it to his home then collapsed on the floor DEAD. Nobody knows what  'esactly happened but the result was the same...numerous family, friends and the whole school in total shock that he died at just 15. Do these kids really know what they leave behind? Years of grief for the loved ones.  Agony. Questions as to "why",? Hindsight is 20/20 as they say but those who die or are  severely maimed do not have the luxury of being able to use this option to go back and correct this.

How about a mandatory trip to a morgue  with a follow up to a funeral home to see up close and personal what they face. It's called """reality"""! I would approve of this before any got licenses to drive or reached high school as a required 'wake up call. It could save lives! Thanks for letting me share. I experienced this 33 years ago and it is still so clear, how distraught the family was and how empty such a useless death could have been prevented.                       Sincerely, Cynthia Laughlin

I think this man's name is not Benjaman but it does have some significance. maybe a relative he was very close to.  I also think that his age is not 60 but a little younger. He must have the date of his birth from another locked away memory.  Have the records of the DMV in southern states/southeastern states  been scanned from drivers license pictures or I.D. cards issued? The accent is really not discernable as it may have changed with the emotional trauma..something  related to psychiatric disorder. has he been allowed to search and look at mug shot books from the area in Ga. where he was found?

Hope something turns up soon for him and that he will be strong enough to handle the truth. I will be keeping up with this story . thank you Dr. Phil and staff for trying to help .