Messages By: sheilas

I am with carter 79 and msmegan in their thinking.  I think that Brandi's family needs a lot of counseling before their children cause a lot more harm to people.  Daniels family have suffered so much and did not deserve to be attacked by Brandi's family.  They have no idea.  Maybe mom's health problems are because she realizes that she is partly to blame for Brandi's actions because of the lack of parental guidance that girls needs to be responsible and respectable.  The entire family needs help.  Get over yourselves and put your energy to good use.  Speak out to people on why your daughter felt it was her right to run her boyfriend over with a car because things didn't go her way and then try to cover it up.  Get help. 

To Daniels family, my heart goes out to you all.  It took great courage to be there and you didn't deserve that attack.  I am so sorry for the way Brandi's family acted towards you and I don't think they are capable being sorry for anything.  That entire family is in denial.  Speak out about the violence that ended your sons life and maybe teens will get it that you can't act this way.  Time will heal you pain and allow you to remember the good times.    

You obviously didn't see the attack on Daniels family.  How can you say that it is some what understandable for them to be full of hate and out for revenge.  Have you ever lost a child.  If some one killed my child I would be so full of rage.  I think they handled themselves very well.  This has to be pretty painful for them still.  Brandi was very good at crying on Q,  she looked pretty happy to be with Dr. Phil, pretty exciting to be on TV.  Spoiled girl gets a little more attention.  Have a little more sympathy for the family that lost a son.  He will never be back.  Put your self in his mom's shoes. 

Maybe your problem is that you are trying to hide the problem instead of tackling it.  You have to get rid of or deal with the problems in your life or the weight will not stay off this time either.  The problem isn't the weight.  I can't believe your comment that you would rather be an alcoholic or drug addict.  Are you belittling their pain and struggling, like the only one having a hard time in the world is you.  Get over yourself. 

No one can inspire you to start.  If it is so difficult to lose weight why do you think you could do it as part of the challenge?  Do it for yourself, you are worth it.  I am sure that you daughter thinks so.  You did what it took when you were pregnant, if you care about yourself you should be able to do it for you.  Your daughter needs you to be health now, after she is born is still important.  Respect yourself and your needs. 

It is 2 years of the childs life.  If you are confident with it and have really researched it, then it will work out.  Children adjust well.  I run a daycare and my kids are with me a lot longer then 30 hours a week.  Your baby will be fine.  They need to be socialized, it is healthy for them.  Do your homework though, research and check credentials.  And when your child is with you, give him undivided attention so that he doesn't feel so much seperation anxiety.  The dust and dishes will wait until he is asleep.  I truly feel that a mother should be home with their child but if that is not possible then do what you have to do but keep the childs needs at the front of your priority list.  Having a child doesn't mean that you can't have a life.  Good Luck