Messages By: ntspec

It is tough to sit on your hands and keep your lips shut when all you want to do is help your friend with her children.  The fact that you realize that SHE needs to parent them and you try to stay out of the way is more than most would do.  However, is it possible that your friend is just completely overwhelemed and has no idea what to do or even where to start to fix the problems?  Maybe you could think of and organize a game where all of the children get to play, WITH THE PARENTS.  I think this is the most important part.  As parents we sometimes have a tendancy to tell them "go play" either at the park, at home, with siblings, whatever so that we can visit with our friends or have that blessed 10 seconds of peace. ;)   Maybe the children miss playing with mommy and by misbehaving they get more attention from her than if they were to behave.  Anyway, try involving the children in whatever you are doing and be patient.  It might help. :)

I saw a different side to Grant today that I I guess I just did not see before.  The first time he was on I thought he was some self-centered, egotistical, control maniac.  My thoughts were NOT complimentary.  However this time instead of wanting to stand up and shout "HANG HIM!" I paid more attention to what he was saying and his body language.  He loves his wife, I have no doubts.  Yes, I still feel that most of his expectations are unreasonable.  But watch how he angles his body towards his wife not away.  Watch how he becomes fidgetty or almost blushes when he becomes uncomfortable with a question.  I don't think that he WANTS to be like this, he just doesn't know how to be any other way.  We all have things to learn through out life.  The day we stop learning is the day we die.  

 We all have our own opinions regaurding the "duties of a wife".  As a stay at home mom of 3 children, I find that even my own expectations are more than I can meet.  I could never NEVER do half of the things that Grant expects his wife to do and I am lucky enough to have a husband who is not only not critical of what I do or how I do it, but he will do it right along side me.   

My hope is that Grant and his wife come to a common understanding of what CAN be expected to be achieved from both partiesand that they both continue their hard work at bettering their relationship with one another so that their children can benifit from their hard work as well.  ( Don't think that their kids won't grow up just like mommy and daddy ;)  ) 

Yes, alot of holidays are based on pegan beliefs but this woman is totally unbelievable.  She did SOME research and took what SHE wanted from it instead of the whole truth.  Peganism is not SATANISM!  There is no heaven and there is no hell.  There is no "god" and there is no "devil".  Yes, there are multiple gods/goddesses and not all of them are "good" in the traditional sense. Be that as it may, I suggest that if someone like that is going to pick and choose what they want to retain from the information that they gathered and put such a negative conotation on it, the ones around them who DO celebrate the holidays will have a much more positive and enjoyable time.  It is what you put into it.  It what you GIVE to others that makes theholidays so wonderful whether you be Christian, Pegan, or whatever else.  And on that note.... HAPPY HOLIDAYS just a tad early to all!