Messages By: fritangela

Please help me. I am the single mom of a 17 year old girl. The first week of summer a boy down the street came to the house and started talking to her. He told her he was 19, I felt like he was a little too old for her, but she really liked him and all they were doing was talking in the yard at my house or his parents. To make a long story short he isn't 19, he's 23! My 25 year old son found out and went to his parents home and told them to keep this man away from his sister!! My daughter was heart broken, didn't eat or sleep for days. Mad at me, mad at her brother, and mad at the world. He soon disappeared from his parents home and she convinced herself he was living in a box somewhere. This went on for 2 months, Wednesday night on a routine walk she ran into him. He was doing a neighbors yard, he no longer lives with his parents but has moved in with a friend and his mom. There is a reason men aren't suppose to be with young girls, my daughter is so hungry for the attention of the man she won't listen to me anymore. He said things to her a boy can't equal. He made a few attempts to kiss her in the past and always wanted to hug her. The kissing never happened but recently she confided in me she wishes it had.This is a girl I have had no trouble with in the past. At this very moment I don't even know where she is...but I have a good guess. What do I do? This man is not a good influence. Did I add she is a virgin and he isn't. He has no job and gets high....I am so inexperienced in anything like this. Do I just listen to her when she wants to talk but not inter fear? I'm afraid if I stop her, I'll lose her!!!

 I am a seventeen year old mother. I am posting today to urge all parents not to ignore any and all signs of your son or daughter being sexually active. I struggle everyday wondering how did I get here? Even though my son is  the biggest blessing in my life, I wonder what my life would be like if my parents would have put a stop to what and where I was going in my life. I was dating a man that was 23 years old when I was only 15. And well I got pregnant two months later. I was off doing drugs and anything else you could ever imagine. But my little boy is what saved my life. So I just hope that all you parents out there really understand that by you ignoring any signs can put them in my shoes- a teenage mom raising a son by myself, struggling everyday. I wonder what my life would be like if my parents would have done something to prevent me from chosing the wrong road in life! I've been wanting to get my story out there to reach teens and parents and make them understand sex is such a big responsibility. You have to be ready to take the consequences that comes with sex. Alot of teens are lucky they didn't get pregnant, but for those of us who did, we must take responsability for our actions. I hope I did some good in writting this.  

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Perhaps you could share this message you posted.  

Too bad they are not listening to what you are saying. They are very fortunate to have a mature 18 yr. old willing to patch things with them. 

Your emotional health is very important, I beleive you'll make the right choices! God bless! 

My daughter has girlfriends that come and spend the night, however, when things get pretty chaotic while they are having fun, they seem to lose repect for my house and damage it. For instance, I heard alot of laughing and loud noises and I came up to see what was happening.  They said "sorry" and told me to look around the room.  What I saw was a hole in the bathroom door, as big as a softball"  I was shocked.  My main question is, how long and what should be the punishment for this? I do know who really did this but since it happened in my house and I was not witness to this I can not make the parents pay for this. Can anyone tell me what kind of grounding I should do. Because my daughter needs to realize and maybe she will tell her friends to be more respectful of her house since she's getting the punishment. 

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I have an on going serious dispute with my spouse which is causeing us personal problems.

My children have been trained by my spouse to only eat Nuggets, PB&J, Frozen Pizza, and Raviolis.

When we make other things they refuse to eat and our dinner becomes a big fight. My spouse has just conceded and fixes them what they want. I am of the belief you control what they eat, when they go to bed, who they see, ect. I feel that the children are out of control. and we have lost. I always have to look like the big bad dad, forceing them to eat other things.

My spouse is a wimp.

Dr. Phil, 

As the mother of a gay son, I feel my son is still my son, we love him, and God loves him, that is all that matters.  If the rest of society has a problem with it, that is their problem.  I feel gays are misunderstood.  My son has openly brought home his mates, most of them we did not like to their tempers and anger management issues.  Well, he is with another mate right now, and I love him like a son.  I will admit at first it is a very hard thing to deal with, but I understand that this is not a choice.   As for the lesbian woman and her sister on your show, the mother and sister are not trying to understand where this woman is coming from.  I understand the mother and sister are hurting, but the woman is hurting also.   Some of the sweetest people I have met are gay, they are the same as anyone else, their sexual preferences are just different.  I feel there need to be more shows about this subject, you can not possibly cover everything on this subject in one show.  Thank you Dr. Phil for talking about this subject. 

As a faithful Catholic I belive firmly in "hate the sin love the sinner" that said, the Catholic church does not have a problem with a person being "gay" "lesbian" but when that person acts on it sexually it is considered a mortal sin. I know gay and lesbian people who are choosing to live a celibate life without ever engaging in any form of sexual act, is it a difficult life? Yes, but we are talking about your mortal soul and in the long run this life is nothing compared to our life in Heaven, do you want to be in Heaven or Hell? God has made it very clear that it is not ok to have sex with the same sex, if God wanted it that way there would be no aids, what type of God would allow that? A man and a woman were made just right to come together in marriage and have children, that is from God, if God wanted same sexes together they would be able to have children together and they would not be able to give aids to eachother. 

I think that we need to pray for gays and lesbians that God will give them the strength to live celibate lives and not act on their sexual needs, there is way more to life than sex. 

I am sad bc I see alot of posts from people talking about how homosexuality is a sin and all this stuff. Not everyone believes in the bible, not everyone is christian, catholic, baptist or whatever... 

Once apon a time marrying a black man was a "sin" in society's eyes. It was illegal state to state. Then finally they legalized it. Now when you compare it too homosexuality they say "you can't help what color you are but you can help who you are attracted too". Talk to my great grand father...who was treated as badly as gay people are today just because he was black. He will tell you differently. So why would you want to bash someone just because of who they love?  

God says "who with out sin cast the first stone" and "don't judge unless you want to be judge unless you want to be judge"....