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October 20, 2005, 1:37 pm PDT

What i have to say

I understand both sides of the familys.But this kinda stuff happens everyday.The death of the persons family sues the other family,and then try to move on with it.But daniels family is so upset that they want to do anything to reuion the girls family, because of what they have to go through everyday.The pain,and the memories,and just plain missing him.Daniels family is so mad,that they just put all the blame on her just to make things even worse.They say that she dosen't have a life.But whats life in prison.Theres nothing that she can do to bring him back.Of course she's sorry.she never meant to do anything like that.But teenagers do things like that everyday.Like for instince, A friend of mine died in a car accident 2 weeks ago her name was stephanie.She was driving, her boyfriend in the passenger, and his friend in the back.Stepehanie got hit on her side by a diesel truck at a two way stop and at 4 way intersection out in the cuts.She passed away,Her boyfriend with minor injuries,and his friend also died.How can something like that be on purpose.His friends family is sueing her family.Now whats that going to help she was going to turn 17 last monday,and i miss her soo much.But sueing or making these people life any worse isn't going to help.But all you can do is move on.And thats what i want to say to daniels parents.Im sure your going to hear it a million times.But look at your daughter, shes still there,she still needs your love too.As for the girls parents,I know your daughters life has changed majorley.So just be there for her.Because she has to live with this horrable guilt for the rest of her life.When she gets out of jail,shes going to have a major fear,because you never know how upset daniels family will get.So becarful,and be very patient.It happens everyday... 

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October 20, 2005, 1:42 pm PDT

thats not true

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Geez, nobody thought Ted Bundy fit the personality of a murderer, either.   What part of Daniel didn't jump out or step out in front of her haven't you and the other Brandi is innocent group grasped?   She left his home, parked down the street with her lights off revving her engine while Daniel and his new girlfriend stood in the yard looking at her wondering what the heck she was doing by not going home, when they turned their backs on her to go back in the home she came speeding down the road, swerved into his yard, made no attempt to hit the brakes, hit him and flung his body into a parked truck 58 feet down the street, swerved back onto the street and took off for home telling herself she couldn't have just done what she did.    You telling her family to keep believing Brandi's version of what happened isn't helping them and serves no useful purpose.   Did she probably just mean to scare him?  Most likely - she was 16 and  there's a report that she didn't even have a driver's license.   But it's pretty clear she never hit her brakes, she never sought help for him, and she's caused harm to his reputation and caused his family to feel they have to circle the wagons by putting forth the notion that he jumped out in front of her. 

The police said that there was brake marks from the drive way to the grass.But the police said it  coulld of been old.Which i dont understand.How often are there brake marks from the drive way to the grass... 
 
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October 21, 2005, 6:22 pm PDT

just a question

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everyone has a right to believe what they want but my comment to you is if you want to debate that she is innocent stand up for what you believe in and prove your point.  I am not scared to talk about it why are you?
Who is stephanie.Daniels mom?
 
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October 21, 2005, 6:48 pm PDT

I need some advice

I am 18 years old with a 4 month old baby girl.Im living with my dad,and the father of my child is also here with me.We have recently moved away from his job, because we left his moms house.The commute was to much,and he wasn't making the money (especially for the gas right now).MY dad is also struggling and were useless to him,and im afraid if we dont get any income, something bad will happen.And im scared to put my daughter in a bad enviroment.I have a grant for college,but i cant go to school because we dont have money for a day care.ANd my boyfriend can't watch her because he will (hopefully) be getting a job soon.SO i have a similar problem with todays show.But what do i do.SHould i go to work , or shool for an education?i just need some advice.I understand that everyone has their bumpbs in the road,but if you had a similar problem,What did you do?I dont want our relationship to split,because of my daughter,but please help me?
 
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October 21, 2005, 6:55 pm PDT

Wow..!!

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I just wanted to say something about today's show.  I am living proof that a stay at home mom can start a business.   Dr. Phil once said that a person needs a job that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning, I have found that job.  Last summer we remodeled our home.  I love to display our pictures like most families do.  When it came to picking out the wallpaper border, I thought of an idea.  I now create wallpaper border made from your personal photos.  I am sole owner and am actually a corporation.  I can't thank Dr. Phil enough.  My daughter just started high school, now I can be here for her these last four years of her schooling.  I would love to give anyone advice on how to get started, I was a medical assistant, and wanted something to keep me home, so now I am president of my own company.  Thanks for listening to me,,,and there is hope.  We were also and still are in a lot of debt, it helps me to know that I can make more money doing this for people, and have so much fun doing it. 

Jan

 

That is an awesome idea.I never thought of that.Well im 18 years old with a 4 month old baby girl.I think she is to young for her to be in day care right now,because i want her to be able to talk,so i know how her day would be everyday.I dont have any money at all,and im really stressed about it.I was wondering if you can help me?I would love to take any advice.I really do hope that theres hope.Please write back 

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October 23, 2005, 12:21 pm PDT

advice

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Just because he bought the computer with his own money doesn't mean he should have free reign of the internet. You are 100% right to be concerned that his porn habit could lead to him disrespecting women and feeling that sex is no big deal. He is only 15, of course he is going to deny that he has a problem!! But you are the mother, you must take this matter very seriously and contact a therepist for him and tell that person the whole story, including the underwear incidents. The underwear wearing, soiling, and hiding in itself is a complicated issue that he needs professional help for. If you don't make him go to see a professional, you are denying him the opportunity to become a healthy and well adjusted adult. He isn't going to want to go, but its up to you to make that non-negotiable. You've got to get tough.
You should probably stop paying for the internet.
 
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October 23, 2005, 12:27 pm PDT

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My daughter is 13.  She is very pretty (too pretty).  Her father & I got divorced when she was 5.  I remarried  a man with 2 daughters age 11 & 9, 5 years ago.  Her real father doesn't see her on a regular basis.  He works second shift, so that leaves weekends and most of them he's too busy with his own life.  My husband has been so good to her.  He loves her and treats her like is own daughters.  But I think her craving for male attention is because she is missing that from her real dad.  I sometimes wonder if I hadn't divorced him, would she be different now.  She gets phone calls everyday from at least 5 different boys & she's on the phone all the time.  We limited her to 1 hour a day, but she still manages to sneak more time.  I bought a device to record the phone conversations.  OH MY GOD, was I shocked!  It's like she's two different people.  She's telling one boy how much she loves him and she hates to see him flirt with other girls, then another boy calls on the other line and she tells him she loves him and doesn't like the other boy, then she clicks over to the first boy and says "I'm sorry Baby, that was Tommy, he just wont leave me alone.  Can I call you back my mom wants me.  I love you, Baby".  Then she clicks over to the second boy and says "I got rid of that pain."  My biggest question is how do I handle this with her without letting her know I've heard every word she said???  If I let her know I've been listening she'll never tell me anything again, and we have a pretty open relationship compared to most.  She pretty much tells me everything. that's why this just shocked me.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated! 

Im a very young mother,but my daughter is only 4 months old.But if i knew she was doing things like that.I would stop paying the phone bill.Just one good advice is.Dont ever lock your kid inside the house.Because the more punish you give them.The more bad they'll do behind your back.Just use your cell phone for your calls.And if you do take this advice.Sleep with the phone in your room. 
 
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October 23, 2005, 12:39 pm PDT

What?

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Just wanted to say that you sound like the exception rather than the rule: that is, you're happy with your baby because you're independently able to provide financially and emotionally for the child and your individual maintenance. Sounds like you have also successfully reconcilled to the fact that the father of your child is not in the picture either financially or emotionally.  

  

To me, those youngsters who get in your circumstance and then rely on welfare or put the burden on their own parents to meet all their needs give all young single parents a bad rap. 

So what... 

Im a young 18 old mother, of a 4 month old baby girl.IM not on welfare,and i dont ask anybody in my family for nothing.I go to school everyday,and i work at nights.I provide for my child.Yes, i was young, but you dont need to put young teens down.You have a lot of them trying,and working hard to support their children,like the other young girl.And theres a lot of teens that just are useless and get rid of their children.So i dont rely on nobody and i know there are many other teens that are the same.so as you can see,im a single parent that didn't get a Bad Rap,as you would call it.So i think you need to rephrase your quote. 
 
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October 23, 2005, 6:15 pm PDT

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I think daycares are great, but how do I get my 2 1/2 year old to stop crying when I drop her off? I have taken her to 4 different babysitters in the past, but when I would drop her off she would look me in the eye and tell me "NO MOMMY, NO!!" She was obviously scared out of her mind at all 4 different places.  Then my parents took her and my son (1 yr old)  on vacation for 3 weeks. After they got back that's when I decided to put them in daycare. Now when I drop her off she just cries, but not as bad as before. But she still cries everyday and I don't want the other kids thinking she's a "cry baby". It's also really starting to get to me because I can't understand why she's doing this. I need some major advice.  

  

Also after I get home my son does not let me put him down. He screams until he makes himself sick or even blue in the face if I'm not holding him. He never did this before my parents took them on vacation. Any tips on getting him to relax before he throws himself into an anxiety attack? 

A lot of kids are like that. you just have to let them know its ok and let them feel comfortable.What i did was talk to them before i dropped them off at the babysitters.This is what i'd say. 

Mommy is going to go to work today,and so my friend ******* is going to watch you for a little bit,and ill come pick you up in a little bit.There are lots of friends there that are waiting to play with you.Do you wanna go??? 

and they usually say yes.But if they dont you just gotta talk them into it...Good luck,hope my advice works... 

Sheena (california) 
 
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October 23, 2005, 6:18 pm PDT

daycare

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Obviously, society believes little ones that young are old enough for day care as most of them accept children starting at 6 weeks old. This is really something that you as a parent can decide on, you know your child better then any one and if this is the direction that you are looking at then you need to make sure you check out the centers around you and get as much info about them as possible, make sure there is an open door policy meaning that you can stop by anytime even unexpected and know the state regulations and teacher/child ratio. Some kids adjust well and others have a harder time with it. I don't know what your daily schedule looks like, whether you are a working mom or stay at home mom but there are places with play groups where you and your child can go together and it can be a good thing, I have experienced this as well as with story times at the library and getting involved in mom's groups and church groups, there are alot of options, it is just a matter of looking into them and figuring out what would work with your child and what you are comfortable in doing. My children have not gone to daycare and they have no problem socializing at all, my little one is a little shy at times but only at people that she does not know which is a good thing I think and she is more on the wuieter side just like her daddy, very social and energetic but a little shy at times, nothing wrong with shyness, I was shy as a child as well and got along just fine in school. Also, maybe you can have another child come to your home for a little bit to give him a play mate, These ae some options that could possibly work as well, just do what you feel is right for your child.

my 4 month old baby girl is going to daycare.Its actully really good to get them around people.Because around the age 2-5 they'll scream,because their not use to staying with people.So when their young and they dont have a saying when there a baby,is actully really good.But be very carful who you leave them with these days.You cant put all your trust in a stranger. 

sheena (california) 
 
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