Quote From: mbsmmtI am sitting here watching the story about the woman with anorexia getting more and more annoyed. I know the woman on TV today acknowledged that she needed help and kudos to her for admitting it and trying to get better. I just wonder how putting her story on TV hurts others with the problem...they may think "she lived that was for 16 years so what is the problem?".
My Aunt is 50 years old and has been somehow living with anorexia for over 30 years...she has so many physical problems yet she thinks that the rest of the world is at fault not her. She eats nothing with any nutritional value...she is the most selfish person I have ever met. My mother and my grandmother (before she died) tried to get her into treatment. Her Doctor is an enabler...he has helped her stay this way. He has not even diagnosed her because she doesn't want to hear it...she won't go to any other doctor because they all call her on her eating disorder. I think her doctor should be sued for malpractice or maybe arrested for assisted suicide after she dies. My other Aunt bends over backwards to try to help her and she just uses her...it is pathetic. The anorexic one will allow the other to do so much for her that she becomes physically ill and does not take care of herself because she is so focused on the anorexic one. I have suggested that they commit her...have talked to my therapist about whether or not that could be done...but my grandfather (the only one who could do it) doesn't think she has a problem. He even brags that she is eating better then ever and gaining weight...complete denial! She acts like she is some super great Christian but as far as I am concerned she is a horrible Christian...last time I checked suicide was not among the Christian teachings. She manipulates our family and has contributed to the demise of the family unit that I used to love being a part of. She has ruined everything...God forbid anyone upset her! I can't even stand the thought of family gatherings with that side of the family and I used to love them.
I am glad that Kathy got help...but she has been every bit as selfish as my aunt. I hope she realizes the hurt she has caused her family and now will work extra hard to show them appreciation and love. It is so hard to be a family member of someone with this problem...it poisons every part of the relationship and the family!
Anorexia is a disorder...a disease, not something that someone just decides to have. Sure, it can start with a person wanting to lose weight, but it doesn't progress to someone being that thin without other issues. I do not think Kathy is selfish- what a terrible thing to say. If I were you, I would start focusing on how to help your aunt or other relatives instead of focusing on the aggravation she is causing you; to me, that is selfish. I mean, just how is Kathy or your aunt selfish? Do you think your aunt is selfish because she wants attention? SHE NEEDS ATTENTION! When I weighed 70 pounds it was because I was so upset with myself. And, do you know what keeps/kept me going, instead of killing myself flat out? God. My faith in God, that He had a plan for me, and Jesus, that His dying really did atone for my sins. What I tend to doubt, though, is that I really am sorry for being human and sinning. Everyone has trials, no one is perfect, and anorexia is a mental disorder. Think about what your flaws are, then think about having a mental disorder that made these flaws harder to overcome....would you be selfish for having a harder time dealing with your problems and having them show physically than someone else whose problems were masked? Honestly, I feel that you may need to stop harboring such ill wishes toward you aunt. Furthermore, why do you call her a horrible Christian? Making presumptions towards others' relationship with God certainly is not the best thing to do. Please, I am not trying to be rude, but you seem to very angry, and it is not helping you or her.
