Messages By: flitrflies

Good for you and your wife!! Great info too! 

When my hubby and I go to bed at night, we have a rule, no clothes. I can relate to you, the closeness and the calmness being skin to skin makes us become ONE. That's what I look forward to at the end of my day. Feeling the warmth of his naked body, and him holding me, I become so relaxed and I feel so secure, there's no better feeling!  Even if we had an disagreement that same evening, all stops, we hold each other, tell each other we love one another, and we snuggle.... everything else doesn't matter anymore.  

FUNNY ... I think I was in wrong forum ..... laugh, sorry! 

it's a natural part of life.  

traditional sex or non traditional.    LOL   

I'm glad too hear that so many other parents are open and honest with their children. plus you could always start with books and movies and ... tv  shows    like DrPhil's :o)   

 THANK YOU DR PHIL 

wake up America....CANADA....kids   need to feel comfortable with their own bodies and feelings/emotions,    curiosity killed the cat. 

It's unfortunate that your little sis is a mommy at 15  :(   It'll be tough, but I'm sure with a strong support group she'll do well.  

You're so cute. But it's true !!! 

Cleanliness is next to godliness .... something like that. 

One should take pride in themselves and have respect of their mate, wash up...when it comes to special kisses.....  

However, when you are having WILD sex, hey go with it, that is what subconsciously turns us on as humans anyhow, the blended aroma of sex juices ! ! ! 

I just saw the trailer or the new Uma movie ..... and I quote, "we have sex on very piece of furniture in the house!" Something to those lines anyhow. But you see where kids are getting info from?   

The images .....the music videos and the list goes on.  

If I could have sex on every piece of furniture .... and you say 15 is too young for sex talk ? 

Attitude plays a part.  I find sometimes you have to give them what they want to get what you want.  

Just do whatever turns you on, don't be shameful. Whatever works for you, that is the right thing to do.  

Be inventive, experiment, there is so much info out there, if you seek it, you'll find it. But if you have a stuffy attitude, I mean isn't the whole experience a great feeling. Having someone bring out your intimate side. Perhaps WILD side. Relax ..... enjoy each other 

People who are here to be judgmental and give your negative opinions GO AWAY ... you can't imagine how these ladies lives are, everyone deals with their issues in their own way. Right or wrong.  

Yes they need help...but they have to want to help themselves first..... 

When I left my 10yr marriage, my life went to hell. Long story. I always smoked joint at the end of my day to relax and hopefully sleep well at night. But when everything fell apart in my life and I didn't know if I would be able to get through the next day, everyone around me was 'skiing the rails' ... I never thought about snorting coke, or taking pills, just my weed, it was all I need ..... to relax. Cocaine does wonders to help a person.  

Cocaine has made a huge come back from the 70's. That's what I was seeing. Growing up lots of people smoked weed. That's all! Yah some did Acid, mostly we would gather at the end of your day drink some beers and smoke  a joint! As I got older more and more of those friends started snortin Cocaine. I hated it. I told people not to do in front of me. I never touched it.     When all the changes in life started 'scaring' me, I honestly didn't know how to get through the day. Stressed out, emotional breakdowns, my mind was thinking all the time. Thoughts wouldn't stop. I couldn't sleep. I couldn't function. People around me were telling me what to do. Choices, decisions...what in the world was I going to do. I think I cracked, but somehow I had to act like I was somewhat 'normal' ...sane. How would I do that. If I smoked weed during the day, I would''t be able to be efficient, productive ( I was a manger), people would see my red eyes. I noticed people who were high from cocaine. Man they were alert, and stress free, they were happy! This girl a met...she asked me if I wanted some while we were working one day, (i quit my management job b/c it was too much for me to handle, when I should have just taken a leave of absence and got help) nooooo I got a new job while my mind was out of wack, unstable and met this girl. She was having a blast living life....I thought I'm alone now, no responsibilities, nothing. No one but me now! At this time I started taking these relaxing pills after work. At work, she asked me if I wanted a bump....what was that, a little snort of cocaine! At first I didn't think it was affecting me. I was still mentally unbalanced but my thoughts didn't bother me. That was it, everyday like 6 times a day, just a little 'bump' . just through the day, when I was with her. Night times, I hooked up with a guy....we connected spiritually, emotionally, in every way!  

Growing up he went to raves and partied hard he was working hard and having a little fun on the weekends. He had had is addiction to lots of drugs....but now he was getting away from all that. I moved in with him. He was my crutch. I wasn't responsible. I wasn't being consistent in my kids life's (they lived with their father, hours away from me).... He told me everyday to call my kids, he told me I had to get them back. That I wouldn't survive if I didn't fight for them.  That was the problem. I didn't know what to do .... I didn't have me kids. Long storey there. 

So while trying to figure out how i the world I was going to get my kids back with all the hard details to iron out. He was by my side. While I was at work during the day...I was bumpin coke. If my boyfriend ever found out he lose it. So I hid it. WOW I was doing much better. Working on getting my kids, which took 1.5 years and feeling now worries with a wonderful guy at my side supporting me how ever he could. Now I was looking forwarding to getting high while I was working. 

I dunno what made me stop, honestly. Life was great just as it was. One day I just quit that job. I just went into work and quit.   

I haven't done cocaine since. No pills, nothing! I don't even smoke weed anymore. Maybe I had a dream ... bizarre really.  

A little over a year ago I was granted sole custody of my 3 kids and got married to that wonderful guy and we have a baby girl!  Life is wonderful.  

Like I said I don't know what happened to me, and today sometimes...everyday I thank back to how I wasn't stable and realize how grateful I am for all that I have and that my kids are with me.  

My mind goes nuts on me every was and awhile....my kids help me to focus and keep it together. 

Addiction just grabs hold tightly and becomes the bestest friend.  You can't judge people,  when you haven't lived in that person's shoes.  

Fear is a weakness, be a true friend. 

first.... Tracy gives us gals with the same name .... a bad name....Honestly, from the way I see it, she's money hungry! That's totally wrong, for her to be spending her sons inheritance, especially to take him to court, or declare him 'incompetent'. That's awful. Kinda makes me angry. The friends are prolly just trying to make Marc open his eyes to her evilness and greediness. I mean big deal if he wants to share with his buddy. He's being generous. Maybe he wants his buddy to share in his fun along with him.  

That is so wrong (I'm watching the show right now) to DELCARE MARK INCOMPITENT......NICE MOTHER! 

OMG................I'M SO ANGRY WITH THIS WOMAN. SHE'S JEALOUS, SHE WANTS THE CASH. PLAN AND SIMPLE..................ANGRY 

IT'S NOT HER MONEY........... 

second....my dad passed away 2 years ago this November. He and his partner shared a company. He had no will. NO WILL. My step-mom, still married to another guy, therefore my dad and her were common law, she got a widow's pension. My brother and sister and I got nothing, nothing from the company, nothing. My dad's partner said there was no money in the company. YAH RIGHT. At that time I was going through  support and custody battle, which ended up costing me money I didn't have. So all my strength and energy went into that, I couldn't fight for my dad's money. And brother and sister, I guess aren't fighters.......GET A WILL   it's not fair to family members when everyone doesn't get a share to what they are entitled to.  

GET A WILL BECAUSE MONEY MAKES PEOPLE EVIL ........ allot happened in my family, my brother, sister and me don't have anything to do with my step-mom or her sons....that's a novel in itself.