Messages By: polly54

I agree with Diana & More Wifestyles. I do believe that there is still hope for Kelly & Grant.  Someone mentioned the possibility of Aspergets & I see that also as possible. My son has Aspergers. Grant not getting it & seeming to be in his own world seems symptomatic. They both seem to love each other. I was also hoping for Dr. Phil to offer help for them for counseling, but then I thought perhaps he didn't because Grant was still so confused. My husband & I were helped years ago by reading Love Languages. We found out a lot about each other & about ourselves through this book.   I think that Grant & Kelly still have hope to fix their marriage if they would both get individual & then marital counseling.  Grant needs to get that ring back on as it is a symbol of commitment. But, if he has Aspergers, then I can easily see him not wearing it for a long time because to him it represents everything going well in his  marriage. If he has this condition, then in his heart he can only wear the ring when the marriage improves, or he will be going against himself, in his striving for perfection, which is very symptomatic of the disorder.                      Patric ia

hi Nichelle,

    Maybe since you have Aspergers, you can help me to help my son. He is 24, on SSI & Medicaid. He sees a social worker & a psychiatrist, both whom know nothing about Aspergers. The government is extrememely slow & not educated on our needs. I am actually going to look for a counselor myself to see if I can find someone who knows about Aspergers to get help to help him. There is a specialist down the street, the only one around, but he is not on our insurance & doesn't take Medicaid. This is quite upsetting, so close but not able to get the help needed. My son is quite rebellious. He knows he has problems  & this makes him angrier. He didn't do well in special education in high school so we know he can't handle college. He hasn't been able to hold down a job, has lost 3 in the last few yrs.  Our Bureau of Vocational Rehabilitation doesn't stay with him long enough. As soon as the coach stops working with him, our son goes downhill.  I am wondering what is next. I know more about Aspergers than the specialists around here,  but I  don't know how to help him anymore.  We do all the typical things, having him repet what we say, roll playing. I have read all the books in the library & follow the advice, but  the advice doesn't help the rebellion. He lives with us & has to be in the right mood to help with household chores. Today is his 3rd day of depression over a matter that a neuro typical would have released with in an hour & gone on with  whatever was next, like house work.

 

I wish I knew what to do, but no one else seems to be able to help much either.

 

So, I hang in there one day at a time.