Messages By: airabell

Quote From: rena8837

I have just read Dr. phil's book I am 40 years old 5'7 260lbs married with two boys I have been overweight my whole life I won't go to any of my kids school fuctions because of fear they will be made fun of because of me my son's are very loving and tell me all the time I'm not fat and they get upset when i try to eat right they think I'm not eating i remember when i was having my first child I prayed everyday that he not have a weight problem because i didn't want him to live the way i have and thank god neither child has a weight problem but I want to beable to play ball with them or just have fun I won't go to six flags or anything like that with them because i can't fix on the rides and it is not fair to them they didn't ask for a fat mom I read the book and i started doing the things i needed to to get healty but i got very sick so i have a question when u stop eating sugar do u get sick do u have withdraws like people with other addictions and i tryed to stop thinking of food but it seems that all I think about it is nothing for me to sit down and eat a whole bags of kisses and i hate that about my self. when i was reading the book the only thing I could think of about my payoff being was I was the fat one in the family thats where i fit in. All my sisters and brother are all normal size and my mom and dad. I even thought about weight loss surgey but that out of the question no insurance. and i really don" think it would work because u still have the eating disorder but i want to loose the weight i want to be around to see my kids grow and have familys of their own but I really don't have a support my husband is happy with the way i look probably because he knows he doesn't have to worry about anyone looking at me but I'm tried of living in this fat shell I want a life what i really need to know is it normal to get sick when you stoping eating sugar because i didn't know if there was something wrong or just going thur withdraws  

  

                                                                                 

Quote From: shecreed

DUDE!!!    SERIOUSLY!!! 

 

i am OLD and walked amany aroads   and i am here to give testimony 

 

 

I AM A BITCH CUZ I AM A DOORMAT!!! 

 

i ALWAYS give EVERYONE *ONE* opportunity to prove to me....  their intentions 

 

and i am here to CONFIRM and VERIFY..... that FACT IS FACT!!!  givem an inch and they take a mile 

 

that is human behavior....  go ahead dr. phil, look it up   it is like that mentality of parking spaces in a parking lot....   you know it and i know it!!!  people love power!!!   and they do it aggressive and passive aggressive   both are the SAME!!! 

 

power power power 

 

no matter how it is asserted, it is push push push 

 

willful willful willful 

 

people do these things in a passive aggressive and NOT SO passive aggressive way and it is CLEAR TO ME when they do these things and push THEIR AGENDA on me and throw me aside what their intentions are!!!  i ain't blind  didn't fall off that turnip truck yesterday  nope nope nope 

 

i do consider myself a bitch and i do KNOW it isn't my fault  sorry   fact is fact 

  

i am only a product of those around me and merely REFLECT their behavior and inability to see pass the nose on their faces   i just calls them like i sees them 

  

i don't mind being called a bitch....   and i will wear it with honor    WHY???   cuz, the other *bitches* gave me that badge and pushed that power on me    through their behavior shall i return their HEADS!!!   ah, reward   ain't it grand???    

  

get what ya give      

  

and truth is this........................   ready???     passive aggressive behavior is WORSE than anyother behavior!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   that's right ...you heard it here first!!!    this is gospel   authentic 

 

why is passive aggressive worse???   because those that behave that way, are DECEPTIVE  and that is the most dangerous!!!      

 

that is the snake in the garden    that is the half ass way    no pain no gain   no guts no glory 

 

LAME!!! 

 

reveal and shine the light   bring it to daylight and it can't be denied!!!    to around the bush and through the backdoor........  and there will be a price to pay  yep yep yep 

 

 

sheryl  

 

 

Quote From: pntballer

 I've been dating a woman only 2 months..  but my gut was telling me something was not right. Things did not add up.  She had gone out of town once before to visit a friend.. that time she gave me all the info about it.  Supposedly, 2 months before we met, she had ended a relationship. 

There had been times when we'd be online chatting (even though we are local) and messages would be delayed. Like she was busy... Once in a while we'd be on web cam and it would look like she was typing something else but when I'd ask, she'd say she was typing in her journal.

Then, this past weekend she supposedly had a business trip.  She didnt provide details like before. She didnt call when she landed or txt message. Later in that evening she left a message saying she wasnt feeling well and was going to sleep. But she shut her phone off. That wasnt normal. I saw she read my messages in the middle of the night. But she didnt respond. She didnt send a good morning like normal. I didnt hear from her until noon with a short msg.  Then she called in the afternoon for about 1 minute but was very short and quiet.  I didnt hear from her again that night. She again, that night, shut her phone off.  

You'd have to understand that we communicate many times during the day via txting... and phone calls.

She had given me her garage code because my coat was at her place.

She had left her laptop.. it was open.. and yahoo was on.  I admit, I was wrong, I violated her privacy and I read her yahoo message archive.

What I found out was that I was right. My gut was right. I've always picked up on little details that dont fit, etc.

As it turns out... she was still seeing the man she told me she was done with via online (he lives elsewhere). They had been communicating daily.. (phone and yahoo) She was meeting him on that trip, it wasnt a business trip.

A first when i confronted her when she got back, she denied it completely.. I didnt tell her how I knew. She kept denying..  asking why I would question it.. I told her my gut.. and named a few specifics.. very few..  After a day of this..   I then admitted how I knew..  that I read her yahoo archives.

Now, her focus is only that I violated her privacy. And how could I do that. How hurt she is because of that because an ex-husband many years ago stole her diary and tried to use it in court against her. She has said she was sorry.. but the only focus now seems to be about her and how I violated her privacy.

I know I was wrong in doing that. But, am I more wrong than she was?  In lying to me the whole time? She claimed she loved me.. yet was telling this other person the same. We supposedly were exclusive. And, yes. we specifically talked about that.

thanks....

Was I that wrong in comparison to her?

Quote From: mansonmash

i am  24 year old. My parents were divorced and married 2 times. The last time he leave I took against my dad and with my hate have made him hate me back. Now i find out that my mom is the liar and always has been. All the things she tell me and convince me that my dad has done are all lies. she feed my head with garbage and i believed it all. Now i see all my life she blackmaled me into thinking bad things about my dad.She is a compulsive liar and thinks she do nothing wrong. Now I am afraid to try and patch things up with my dad because I think it  to late. If I take this to my mom then i am afraid i will loose both parents. My mom need help very bad. How could i be so stupid to hate my dad  and believe my moms lies about him. i made a mess of my life and now this.

Quote From: morningmare

 Hi,
I have a beautiful daughter who just happens to be Fat!  She is al least 100lbs overweight.  I can't seem to help her in any way, as she just gets upset with me, and gets hurt feelings.  She has 2 kids, and now they are gaining weight..I really want to help and just don't know how.  If anyone can help..please do so!  Thanks...

Quote From: celynny

I have read Dr. Phils book..and it is great. It is a great resource of knowledge and information, and he uses terms and metaphors that make it easy to apply it to your own life. Ideally I should be dropping weight left, right and center, but I'm not.   I'm 5'2" and I'm295lbs. I am so overweight that my health is deteriorating, and I can see it happening by the day. I'm depressed and overwhelmed, I hate how I *feel* and I hate how I look. At this point in time I would love to say I'd do just about anything to lose the weight, but I can't seem to get my mind and body working in the same gear.   I excercise at a gym, and I was really gung ho about it. I wasn't seeing results, even though I was eating right and making sure I was being honest about what I needed and what maybe I should/could pass on. I was giving it my honest effort, and then for no reason, I stopped going...   I went to try on wedding dresses about 3 weeks ago. I looked at myself in the mirror and everyone was saying I looked nice, but the whole time I was standing in the 3-way mirror I was crying inside, sobbing in my heart, wishing I had a knife and could just cut myself OUT of my fat.   Its not just the way I look, but the way I feel. I'm so trapped, I've always been trapped. I was 180lbs at age 12. I remember going on the ski trip and being so shamefully embarassed that I had to tell my weight to the ski instructor so he could size my skis. He even said loudly 'you're not really 180! I mean 150 maybe, but not 180!' I was mortified in front of my whole class. I just eat whenever anything goes wrong and I'm tired of it, but I dont know how to change it.   I dont know what I'm writing about anymore, its getting to the point where I'm not able to function in my day to day life! I find myself getting angry, so angry I just want to scream or throw something. I feel like sometimes I'm going to explode from all these negative emotions and finally I'm just sick, sad and tired of being who I feel I am on the outside.....I dont think all of these problems would be as prevalent if only I could feel better about my health, fitness and the way I look on the outside.   I'm tired of being fat. I'm tired of being lonely and depressed. I'm tired of being judged. I'm tired of not living the life of a 21 year old! I'm just tired of it all. I feel like a useless waste of life sometimes... I need a plan...I NEED a plan.   Does anyone have any advice? I'm desperate for something to change..

Quote From: catina119

i really feel that we as a united front need to demand changes in the way things are in this country. i was just reading that 30%of adults 20 and over are obese and 16% 16-19yrs old are also considered obese. this is way to much. i know that becoming overweight is something many people can control but some just cant do it on their own. whether it be the knowledge of health eating or the control to stop eatting or using food as a drug in sorts or whatever the reason the need to help is crutial. i myself have looked into the centers who claim if you buy their food and come see them weekly they will help you lose weight and this i believe can help but the problem lies in the fact that the cost is more than most can pay. i myself can feed my family one week with just slightly more than what they want me to pay for one week of food for just myself. i cant take the little money we have towards it. then the insurance companys (some maybe not all) wont help with these cost or those to go to the gym or a nutricianist and make it difficult to get the surgery. the cost to get someone healthy early on is less than the cost of fixing the other problems that go with obesity. like heart problems, asmtha, diabetes, ect. if the insurance companies would just put out a little effort early than maybe this problem with obesity wouldnt be such a problem anymore. this isnt going to go away that easy. the 30% of adults are unfortantly showing their kids the same way of life. so the 16% of children with the problem are just going to rise. the numbers arent going to go down unless we do something about this. i dont have the answer to everything but what i do know is we need to rally against the insurance companys to demand more coverage for us. we need to make groups with in our communities that are free where we can come together and help each other out. find people in our communities who will donate their time and knowledge to helping our communities to become heathier. for so long i have let people push me around and decide my destiny but not any longer. I WILL STAND FOR EACH AND EVERYONE  OF US BECAUSE WE DESERVE IT. i am going to try to start a community health group that will hopefully help. i urge everyone to start one in their community. do it for you and do it for those who arent strong enough yet. I am going to start  tring to put this together. if anyone in columbus ohio or surrounding areas would like to join me in making a place  like this than please feel free to email me at catinahawaiidreamin@yahoo.com thanks and please remember the only way to make a change is to stand up and do it. have a beautiful day.