Quote From: jbush316Hello all! I am watching my TIVO'd Dr. Phil today. And my problem is the lack of the big "O" during intercourse alone. Now the problem really is that we were each other's first and married at a very young age. I did not want to hurt his feelings and thought I was the failure for never getting "there." So.... I faked it.... all the time. And now almost 6 years later, he thinks he rocks my world, and I do realize he can make me orgasm with oral or manual stimulation, but I do not have the heart to tell him that's what I need. He thinks he's excellent and I love him and do not want to admit that the intercourse alone is not enough. I have been lying for 6 YEARS!! How do I express I need more without bursting his bubble or making him feel awful and angry that I have lied??? Please help!
Deperately seeking a good sex life...
I completely understand where you're comming from! i just got done emailing dr phil about the same thing. I also never orgasm while having sex, its not that the sex isn't good, it's just that as you call it "manual stimulation" really gives me that "sexual high" i find that i must masturbate in order to get that big "O" in with the rest of the wonderful action. although im not in the same dellema, my BF knows what i need, we discussed this a long time ago, and he's ok with that. So im sorry i cant help you, but might i sugest something? try to introduce masturbation as a form of play in sex, you dont nessiserily need to tell him what its for, just make it a kind of, "hey lets try this..." and if he likes it, then, hey, you both win.
here's hoping you find a way!
ps, yes i know i can't spell...
