Messages By: katrin

Quote From: nichelle81

OK, first of ALL... until recently I did not know what my daughter had. Second of all, your son is ONLY 21 months....you have NO clue what the future holds for you with a child who has that disorder. Savannah has terrible fits of rage, violent outbursts, and screams bloody murder when she doesnt get her way. DEAL WITH THAT!!! you havent seen anything yet. Im a 24 year old SINGLE mom with 2 spoiled little brats. I try to do the best I can. I DO spoil them sometimes because I love them, but its taking its toll! NO ONE who knows me will EVEN watch my one year old. (she was born a mamma's girl and a screamer!) IM ALL ALONE. I went to Dr. Phil for help because OBVIOULSY I felt I needed it!!! Can I get SOME credit?! People dont air their dirty laundry JUST BECAUSE! Do you think I want the whole world to think Im a jerk?! NO, but I DO Know I need help with dealing with my daughter. I cant handle it by myself. Dont come down on someone that had the nerve to even come forward! its a good thing! I HAD THE "BALLS" TO SAY ON NATIONAL TV WHAT EVERY OTHER FRUSTRATED PARENT IS THINKING, AND I WASNT SCARED!!!! be a jerk if you want, but i think I just opened up a whole can of worms...youll see. TUNE IN!!!! 

  

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I agree joyce it is truly too bad that the first info. many people will get about PWS will be from this seemingly ignorant, immature child who happens to have given birth twice. I can only hope that Dr. Phil yanks a knot in this mother tail, and saves her children.

Quote From: pickle427

I am in my 2nd marriage and only been married for 2 1/2 years.  I am 44 and my husband is 33.  We seem to get along great for a few days and then the s*** hits the fan.  It seems like when we don't agree it's world war 3.  He calls me names (something he learned in his first marriage) and then he tells me "If you don't like it here, get the f*** out!"  I feel disposable!  I do EVERYTHING for him... from taking total care of his children.... taking them to and from school, to taking them to their activities, checkign their homework, doing ALL the cooking, cleaning, laundry, yardwork, grocery shopping, errands, taking care of him, packing his lunch, preparing his plate...etc.  He goes to work, and that's it.  I am not working right now, but I do go to school.  When I tell him how I feel about something, if it's not how he wants me to feel about the subject the fight starts.  He has never actually cheated on me, but has gotten on the internet and put a fake profile on there to look at porn.  I caught him and he lied about it, then confessed.  He says he has not done it sense then, but who knows.  Everything we do is about him, his children, his family, his wants... heck we have sex when he wants to!  I almost have to beg when I want it...   He thinks I am being overly dramiatic and blowing things out of proportion.  Lat night for instance, he won a trophy and wanted to put it front and center on our fireplace mantle.  We already had something there, so I said we could put it on the left side of the mantle.  He got mad and threw a fit and put the trophy on his son's dresser and said obviously his trophy doesn't mean as much as my stupid pictures (which by the way, are family pictures).  He also wanted to put his plaque (a winning plaque) on the wall above the mantle, which has a family picture of our wedding, so I took the family picture down, put it where the plaque was hanging, on another wall, put the plaque up, put his trophy on the mantle and moved the family picture off the mantle.  He told me I was a selfish a**-hole and if he gets more trophies he is putting them there and if I don't like it, I can get the fu** out!  It seems like he makes all the rules and I have to like them, live with them, not say anything or get out!  Any suggestions????? Is this a doomed marriage too??????? HELP DR. PHIL AND VIEWERS......       Pickle427

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     My husband and are "newlyweds" also and I cannot even imagine calling him names or having him treat me the way the people on today's show are treating one another. It is a second marriage for both of us and after 5 years together, we are grateful each day to have each other. 

  

     I wish that Dr. Phil would do a show about people who DO get along and have a wonderful partnership as an example as opposed to people who constantly abuse each other. Maybe his viewing audience would benefit more from seeing the RIGHT way to manage a respectful and loving relationship. We have problems like everyone else does but we find ways to handle them. It's no big secret that name-calling and griping don't work in any way shape or form.  

  

     I think that the guests on today's show enjoy conflct and need it in order to feel alive in some way. Personal attacks are not any way to live. I feel sorry for them.  By the same token, I feel incredibly fortunate to have a marriage that works and works well. Our children feel safe and loved when they are around us and hopefully our relationship will serve as a gold standard of sorts for the relationships that they persue.   

  

     Dr. Phil, can you please do a show about the not so secret secrets of relationships that work? 

  

    Sincerely,  

  

Christine Welton of Greenville North Carolina. 

Quote From: philosophy

I have watched the Dr. Phil show today and I was saddened.  Maybe it is because I can't seem to make relationships in my own life work.  Heck, most of the women in my family, it seems ,cannot make marriages work.  I am divorced, my mother has been married twice, my sister has been married twice and is now going through a divorce, and my grandmother was also divorced and remarried.   

  

My marriage ended after thirteen years and it was painful.  I went through a three year long relationship later and we ended it recently.  Maybe there is something in my genes?  I don't know.  I am trying hard to make sense of everything without trying to be bitter.  I have several friends that don't even believe in love.  I don't think that I am at that point, yet.  But-- 

  

Marriage?  I don't know if it is even worth the gamble. 

  

  

Quote From: niclee

Hi My name is Nichole and my husband is Tom.  We were recently on the Roadshow Challenge this morning.  I find it kind of disturbing that people are so judgemental.  I read through these messages and all of the sudden people are so quick to put someone down and praise their own relationships.  I feel that if there were cameras in everyone's house we would all see something that we didn't like.  The fact that one woman says her marriage is so perfect now but this is BOTH of you and your husbands SECOND marriage.  So obviously you had problems in that marriage that you felt were not worth saving.  This is my FIRST marriage and I am putting my self out there to say OK I'm not perfect, but I do love my husband and I want to know what I can do so we do not end up in divorce.  I will not GIVE UP and I will make sure we go to all ends to mend our marriage.  My husband and I are worth it.  So, I don't feel that anything the woman is saying about her second marriage has any validity to it, because you know what you failed once TOO!!  Please just let me say this that for every 5 to 10 minutes you see us fighting, there is also 15-17 HOURS of us laughing and having a great time.  My husband and I kissed a lot and showed a lot of support towards each other during the show, but you will not see that because it was edited.  Please keep in mind as well, we are human beings who make mistakes.  We pick ourselves up and learn from these mistakes.  We have a lot going for us and our marriage is better now that we have admitted our faults.  I feel sad for the people who want to always live in denial and will not admit that it is hard to be in a marriage and NO ONE is always happy, I don't care who you are.  Everyone has bad days.   

  

Thanks, 

Nichole 

Quote From: mariejosee

Hi everybody..  I have been very confused lately.. My husband  and I have been married for 4 years.. just had a baby, 5months old .  Already have a 12 years old son from previous relationship..    Everything was fine until  my husband  started to have a anger probleme  with me .   We have fight all the time  if I give my opignon.    But  if I agree to everything his way then it's good..    When He get's mad he always call me  bad names. like  "B" word..  "C'' word  etc...  anything you can think of..     At first he wasn't like that he would just  lose patient easly..   That it  but now since he lost his job after the baby came he  getting worst.. .   He call my other son of 12 years old . lazy ,, coach potatoes ..  I tell him to stop because this is not good for his self- estem.     He take  this  lightly..   I try to talk to him many time make him understand ,  read  books about this..   nothing work ,, the minute he is mad he start again..    He even don't really say he is sorry .   He think  I give him reasons for getting like that ,       What I don't undertand is why he can be the nicest person   in  the day   with stanger  and in close door so disrespectful..   Last time we got  in a big fight he pushed me ,, with the baby in my arms.    That's when I realise !!!    it's getting pretty bad ,   I told him never do that again of I would leave him...    3 weeks after that he called me again names....   IF he love me why can he change.     I love him but very desapointed and have a hard time to forget and forgive him.  He know this hurt me so much  ,, and still does it....      I told him to go in therapy  but he once told me he think that's bull"""'    is there's hope  in this marriage .  Maybe this is because of his lost job....  I hope  ,,   I would feel guilty to leave because of my little baby... who would be without a father.... so young  .    

Quote From: ssmith_13

I for one agree that it seems that some of the men have no self esteem of are not happy with their own life or career and end up taking it out on their wives!  These men all seem to have little patience, though some of the women guests could as well open their ears and listen better.   In my own situation since the communcation sucks, I tend to try and read between his lines!  Does it work, sometimes, and sometimes not! 

  

I seek advice on what to do with a hubby of 6 years who know that he is working for himself and quit smoking a year ago, seems further and further withdrawn from connection to me - continually says he does not care, angry or has something spiteful or disrespectful to say everyday.........its too hard on the head and I am not sure I can continue to play strong one trying to salvage this marriage. 

  

Why do men get cokcy after the get what they think they want and act as if you had no part to play in it..i gave up my freedom so he can have a work van.we have only one vehicle now, feel i need permission to use it and so the saga continues...............i ask viewers whats wrong with men who seem so low on themselves that they turn it all on to their partners and even try to create a wall between wife and her adult child....that is not his......