Messages By: reiryu

Wow, these mom's are in total denial about spoiling their kids.  Melissa lies and covers it up  by constantly changing her story and lying about hiding toys.  I don't think she is going to change one bit because she refuses to acknowledge that she has a problem and that her kids are going to turn out just like the other materialistic, control freak kids on the show. 

I think Parker is going to have relationship problems as he gets older.  People hate to be with someone who likes to manipulate and control them. 

Jacquie sounds like a typical teenage girl to me.  She just wants to fit in with her friends in school, but she's got to learn to be an individual and that just because everyone is wearing it, doesn't mean she should too.  She should adopt the phrase, I'm not a trend follower, more like a trend setter. 

I think these moms live in the "here and now" and don't bother to look to the future and the potential problem they are creating.  I think Dori uses guilt as an escuse to spoil her som.  Spoiling a kid is just lazyness in my eyes.  Disciplining children takes too much enery I suppose. 

I think you mom sounds a little deranged :p  Pardon my saying that, but she sounds like she's very overprotective and hates the idea of not having her children around.  So, she explodes on you and insults your parenting ability when you leave.  It sounds like her way of trying to get you to stick around.  I'd tell her that I don't appreciate the insults and if she doesn't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.  A good parent would encourage their children and point out the good things, not just berate them with negativity.  Whenever I feel like I'm not being a good enough mother, my father points out all of the good things I've done and tells me that I'm a wonderful mother I am. 

I once had a boyfriend who was too cowardly to confront me with problems, and wrote letters to me, even though we were living together.  I later confronted him face-to-face about it, but he just rejected the communication.  You can probably predict what happened to that relationship.  So it sounds like you mother has alot to say, but is too afraid to tell you face-to-face.  She's acting like a coward and a bully.  -And she needs to cut the cord because you are an adult now.  Plus, if you go out, try to find someone else to watch your son besides your parents if you don't already. 

Red flag!  Don't let anyone tell you that you are overreacting.  It sounds like he purposely withheld information from you (which is the same as lying in some cases) from the beginning.  And now that you've found out, he tells you that he didn't go.  Sounds like it could be another lie.  Sometimes cheaters will deny something until the day they die if someone doesn't tell them that they have evidence.  One time I told a boyfriend that I knew he was cheating and that I saw it with my own eyes, and he finally admitted to it, even though I didn't see it, someone else did.  He kept saying, "Who are you going to trust, me or them."  I eventually got tire of that line.  But I wouldn't do that over one e-mail though.  If the problem escalates and you start hearing about other things that may be going on, you get strange phone calls or more e-mails, or he starts coming home late all the time you might want to try to hire an ivestigator or something.  Because it could have just been a simple business meeting, I don't know, but he should have told you about it. When there is a break down of communication in a relationship, it can turn sour. 

I have a 3 year old that was born with spinal bifida.  My pregnancy came to me as a surprise and I never expected my child to have any problems.  Her father decided he didn't want to be there, and I was left with being a single mother, completely overwhelmed by the entire situation.  It was very hard and she was in and out of the hospital 2 to 3 times a month.  Although, somehow through all of the mess, she has turned out to be a very bright, outgoing, and happy little girl.  I try to encourage her to be independant and I don't want her condition to slow her down.  Everyone I meet is touched by her and suprised just how happy and strong of a kid she is. 

She is in a special needs day care where she gets physical therapy to help her walk, where she is doing very well with.  She can take up to 20 steps on her own, and she mostly uses a walker.  She is very fortunate becuase her spinal bifida was very low on her back. 

My family was very supportive and took me in and helped me raise my daughter.  Without my father and my sister, I don't know where I'd be today. 

I can see Matt's point, to an extent.  Society can be a little hypocritical when it comes to abortion and adoption issues.  I think the father should have the right to chose whether or not he wants his child aborted or adopted also.  I strongly feel that abortion should only be put in the hands of both parents, not just the mother.   

However, like Dr. Phil asks, "Is anyone thinking of this child".  I thought it was funny when he said he'd make a great dad... when he chooses to be one.  I didn't choose to be a mom, it just happened, and because I love my daughter, my own flesh and blood, I will do anything to love, care and provide for her.  I think he is already proving himself to be a lousy excuse for a father and I would recommend any girl I came across not to hook up with him if I knew him. 

Who cares what she told you, or if she lured you into a trap.  It's not about you and her anymore, it's about that adorable little baby.  It take two to make one, you know?