Messages By: leogirl

I just told my husband this morning "I can put up with a lot of things from men but if you EVER cheat on me, you won't have a chance to walk out the door...the neighbors will witness you flying head first out the window".   I even went as far as to say  (not seriously) that I would rather him beat the living crap out of me than to cheat on me...I could probably at least forgive him for that.   

I absolutely cannot deal with a cheating man.  You know the old saying...once a cheater, always a cheater.  My dad cheated on my mother and my ex-husband cheated on me.  I just think there is no excuse for cheating whether it be a man or a woman doing the cheating.  (And we all know that women are just as capable as men are of cheating) 

I am two months into my second marriage and I have to say...I am a little scared now.  It looks like ANY man  (or woman) is capable of cheating.   My husband however, is a wonderful man!  I have noticed so many things that I have in this marriage that I didn't have in my first...which was a total disaster by the way.  My first husband cheated CONSTANTLY and I attributed it to us being married so young.  This time, we are all about pleasing each other...whether it be cooking dinner, cleaning, sex, you name it.  We also have long talks EVERY night  in bed.  We make a concerted effort to be with one another when we are not working and NEVER go out without each other.  I know we haven't been married for very long but we have already discussed how we are going to keep the lines of communication open no matter what.   

My heart goes out to all of you that are in the middle of a divorce.  I have been there and it is not an easy thing to go through. 

And to all of you who have "married boyfriends"...SHAME ON YOU! 

~Jenn 

ALL of my inlaws are annoying!  Not only do they show up at my door uninvited  (almost daily)  but they raid my refrigerator  (and leave their mess for me to clean), use my phone,  leave their kids there for me to babysit, use my garage as their own personal storage facility and even ask to borrow my car 2-3 times a week!  Last week, they showed up at my neighbor's house  (whom they only met ONCE) and asked to use their washer and dryer.  If that wasn't rude enough, they didn't even bring laundry detergent!!  My husband is always saying "why does my family have to act like this?"   I always say to him "how on earth did I marry in to this family?"   Most of the time we joke around about them but in reality, they are very annoying and impossible to get rid of!  I need to hire a pest control company to come and clean house.  :-) 

~Jenn 

I made it a point to talk to my husband last night about this cheating subject.  I asked him first why he cheated on his ex-wife.  (They were divorced in 2000).  He said that she stayed at home with the baby but didn't clean, cook or EVER have sex with him.  I also found out from his family that she was also abusive toward him.  I asked him "am I doing everything right to keep you happy and in OUR bed?"  The response I received was hilarious.  He looked at me like I was insane and said "h*ll yea baby.  You make me feel like I am wanted and needed.  You make me feel like I am the sexiest man alive."  (I weigh appx. 110 and my husband a quite a bit overweight but is still VERY sexy to me!)  His personality is the type where he loves attention and loves to feel like he is #1 in my life...which he is.  I know he was wondering where all of this came from so I told him it was on Dr. Phil.  Of course he laughed, rolled his eyes and said " you are watching way too many talk shows."  :-) 

~Jenn 

I talked with my husband last night regarding the whole cheating subject.   I asked him why he cheated on his ex-wife (they were divorced in 2000).  He said that she wouldn't cook, clean and refused to have sex with him.  His family also told me that she was abusive toward him.  I asked him if I was doing everything that I needed to do to make him happy.  He looked at me as if I were insane and replied by saying "h*ll yea baby!  You make me feel wanted and needed.   You go over and beyond to make sure that I am taken care of.  You make me feel like the sexiest man alive."  (I am 110 and he is quite a bit overweight but still VERYsexy to me).  Of course, it is a two way street.  He makes me feel the same way.   I told him about the show and the only response I received was "you are watching way too many talk shows."  (with a grin on his face)  :-) 

~Jenn 

Back in August of 2003,  my ex-husband moved back in with me...we were going to give our relationship one last chance.  I found out in October that I was pregnant and we were both thrilled.  We rode to work and back together every day and things seemed to be going great.   I found out around February that he was smoking crack cocaine every single day!  I begged and pleaded with him to stop but it only got worse.  I tried to get him to get help but he was adiment that he did not have a problem with it.  After the baby was born, I just couldn't take anymore.  The night before I threw him out, I found crack cocaine on him and tossed it out the car window.  I told him that was the last straw...if he so much as looked high, he was out!  The very next day, he missed an ENT appointment that I had scheduled for out little baby to have tubes put into his ears.  I threw him out that day and never looked back.  When I started dating my husband (that I am married to now) he made comments about my drinking too frequently.  I never realized that I had turned to alcohol to relieve the pain that my ex-husband inflicted on me.  I am now married and have not had a drink in quite a while.  Since my ex-husband and I split up, he has stopped smoking crack and is doing very well.  I feel that sometimes stressful situations tend to cause certain people to turn to alcohol and drugs instead of constructive methods.  Thank God that we are all happy and healthy now.  :-) 

~Jenn