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November 1, 2005, 3:57 pm PST

I AM THURSDAYS SHOW!!!!!!

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 Hello Dr. Phil:

I am very worried about Thursdays show.  I saw a preview for it last week and it appears that Michelle is an abusive mom who happens to have a child with PWS.  My son with PWS is 21 months old and I have met or conversed with hundreds of PWS moms over the last two years.  They are all soo very loving and dedicated to their children, they have found ways to cope with PWS without abusing their child at all.  They have also been kind enough to share their stories with new moms like me so that my son can have a brighter future with less problems.

I hope to God that you found some of these moms and not just the abusive one, from the 10 second clip it appeared that your segment on PWS is about child abuse and NOT about PWS at all.

Please, please, please do all that you can to help Michelle, BUT don't confuse her with the typical PWS family! 

Thank you.

Joyce

OK, first of ALL... until recently I did not know what my daughter had. Second of all, your son is ONLY 21 months....you have NO clue what the future holds for you with a child who has that disorder. Savannah has terrible fits of rage, violent outbursts, and screams bloody murder when she doesnt get her way. DEAL WITH THAT!!! you havent seen anything yet. Im a 24 year old SINGLE mom with 2 spoiled little brats. I try to do the best I can. I DO spoil them sometimes because I love them, but its taking its toll! NO ONE who knows me will EVEN watch my one year old. (she was born a mamma's girl and a screamer!) IM ALL ALONE. I went to Dr. Phil for help because OBVIOULSY I felt I needed it!!! Can I get SOME credit?! People dont air their dirty laundry JUST BECAUSE! Do you think I want the whole world to think Im a jerk?! NO, but I DO Know I need help with dealing with my daughter. I cant handle it by myself. Dont come down on someone that had the nerve to even come forward! its a good thing! I HAD THE "BALLS" TO SAY ON NATIONAL TV WHAT EVERY OTHER FRUSTRATED PARENT IS THINKING, AND I WASNT SCARED!!!! be a jerk if you want, but i think I just opened up a whole can of worms...youll see. TUNE IN!!!! 

  
 
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November 2, 2005, 6:25 am PST

PWS IS WHAT IT IS......

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I have a 17 year old son with PWS, and yes, he has all the things you mention about your daughter.  It's part of having this syndrome.  I was quite upset when you said, "SINGLE Mom with two spoiled little brats".  Is that really how you see your children?  If that is the case, I only have pity for you.  You even say YOU are the one that spoiled them, and then say you love them?  I feel it's a shame you didn't contact Dr Phil on "how to deal with special needs children", rather than bring PWS into light in such a negative manner.  Just from reading your post it is very obvious you need a LOT of help, I can only hope Dr Phil was able to offer you the help you need.  You sound like a very angry young lady, and I can only hope your children don't suffer from your anger.  I will be watching the show on pins and needles.
What?! how on earth did I bring PWS to light in a negative manner?! IT IS WHAT IT IS LADY! I told it like it is, im sorry if you cant handle it....I went on Dr. Phil and told the truth. I went on that show because that is what my daughter has, and because the producers called me to do so. My kids are spoiled because others spoil them as well and I do once and awhile...so what. I admit I have ALOT to learn about PWS. ALOT. That may be part of my issue. And Im working on it. Youll see what you see on TV, but you have NO clue what my life is like on a daily basis. So have pity or whatever it is you say you have on me.....whatever. It seems to me like you are more concerned with HOW I MADE PWS look on National TV. I will also be watching the show on pins and needles. Have a nice day.
 
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November 2, 2005, 6:35 am PST

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This is such a hard topic and I'm sure that you coming forward is truly a cry for help. I commend you for that. But... I don't believe a way to get a child to understand something, PWS or not, by hitting is the answer. You yourself call both of your children spoiled brats, that attitude is negative. You need to find positive things about your children. Plus, you being a single mom at 24 is not your children's fault, it's a crutch for you to justify the things you do. My mother raised my 3 siblings and I on her own with no help what so ever from my dad or the state. I also have a brother who has a mental disease. My mother never called us spoiled brats nor hit us in the head or face when we acted up. Yes occasionally we got a swat on the bottom and I'm sure well deserved. I don't think the whole world thinks you are a jerk but some people really disagree with your tactics and you having the "BALLS" to come forward and airing your dirty laundry as you stated, comes along with criticism from people who disagree. You can't begrudge someone for stating what they feel and automatically get on the defensive... you put it out there for discussion. I can only try to understand what you may be going through and I really hope you find the answers you are looking for to help you and your daughter. Try to think more positive. You have taken the first step in getting help... that is never a wrong thing. I'm sure you love your children and want to do right by them... continue the march!!! Good luck to you and I will be watching the show!
Yes..it is a hard topic. and a confusing one at that. And Yes, I know I need help. and with that help I will be able to control my anger and frustration. I have ALOT to learn about PWS and I think that is part of the problem. And your right, the critisism comes with going on TV. I even said it myself...I certainly know whats coming!! :-\  I was just soooo upset because the show hasnt aired and people are being so rude! Geeze atleast watch first, then critisize. One thing you were not right about is that I use my age as a crutch and it is not. I am who I am, I dont need to justify anything. Thank you for your post, you got your point across without being rude. and I appreciate that.
 
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November 2, 2005, 12:30 pm PST

Nichelle

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 Nichelle:

I am sorry if my words upset you.  You need to understand that just because you feel that your situation is "the way PWS IS" does not make it so.  Your situation is tough, no question, but the way you have chosen as the adult to deal with it is abusive and wrong.  All I am saying is that there are many, many PWS families out there that deal with the situation without abusing their child.  It is NOT easy for them either, single or not and many of them are. 

The only reason we are concerned is because your kids need you to be the grownup and handle the situations responsibly and our children with PWS do NOT need PWS to be portrayed by a family that is totally out of control when we spend every waking minute trying to handle our indidividual situations with maturity and control.

I am sorry, but you are NOT the right person to portray the "typical" PWS family at this time.  I do think that you can be and hopefully with Dr. PHil's help you to be an in control adult when dealing with your own situation.

As one PWS mom to another, I applaud you for getting help and wish you the BEST of LUCK with learning to control your temper and anger. 

Joyce
Well I just thought your words were a little judemental. and I dont abuse my kids. I HAVE apnked her with a belt YES, but its on rare occasions. Its mainly my "mouth" that is the issue. I yell alot. and I do say mean things. I dont mean them, they just come out because IM SOOO MAD. WHen savannah is doing something she isnt supposed to be I CALMLY tell her once or twice to stop. Then she just does it anyways and looks at me to see how far she can push me. After 4 or 5 times I get mad and yell. My kids have NEVER EVER had marks or bruises of any type, (maybe from playing) but not from me. And as far as I remember....Dr. Phil was looking for someone with PWS. Not a "typical" PWS family. Im not even sure what a "typical" PWS family is because we are all different. Wait until you see the other girl they are going to show footage of tomorrow. Thats not typical. I dont think. But that family does ALL they can to help her and she is still out of control. It is some pretty scary footage! Its sad to watch. I am going to a PHD therapist and getting the help that I went to the show for.
 
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November 3, 2005, 6:55 am PST

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hey nichelle, 

   im sorry for what i wrote earlier it was a mistake too confuse the situation you have too understand what i seen on the preveiw made me upset now i know it is hard too be a mom i am a new mom but understabd what i seen really upset me. I hope you get all the help you need for you and your daughter becasue you both need it i hope you did not get too upset for that im am trully sorry please get help for savannahs sake god bless 

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November 3, 2005, 7:06 am PST

THANK YOU :-) FROM THURSAYS SHOW

Thank you so much to all the people who posted messages here for me. Nice or mean I have taken the time to read everybodys opinion and take all said into consideration. I apologize that I said the kids were brats. They just act that way sometimes, I DO Love them and Ill do my best to handle the situation. I should not have been so negative in my postings...I guess I was just blown away by all the meanies who hadnt even seen the show yet. Thanks so much to the nice, positive, people who left such great messages. It IS appreciated. "you get more flies with sugar then with vinigar" (not that anyone wants flies! but you get my point! :)Thanks again to everyone. 

 

Sincerely, Nichelle 
 
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November 4, 2005, 8:28 am PST

THANK YOU :-) FROM THURSAYS SHOW, NICHELLE

THANK YOU :-) FROM THURSAYS SHOW

Thank you so much to all the people who posted messages here for me. Nice or mean I have taken the time to read everybodys opinion and take all said into consideration. I apologize that I said the kids were brats. They just act that way sometimes, I DO Love them and Ill do my best to handle the situation. I should not have been so negative in my postings...I guess I was just blown away by all the meanies who hadnt even seen the show yet. Thanks so much to the nice, positive, people who left such great messages. It IS appreciated. "you get more flies with sugar then with vinigar" (not that anyone wants flies! but you get my point! :)Thanks again to everyone.  

  

Sincerely, Nichelle  
 
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November 4, 2005, 8:30 am PST

THANK YOU :-) FROM THURSAYS SHOW, NICHELLE

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I have been reading some of the post regrading Savannah. Nichelle is ripping everyone who has offered a kind word.  She comments in a couple of her post she has 2 spoiled brats. I understand her 6 year old has PWS. But knowing that why doesn't she keep healthily foods in the house? Lunchables are so high in sodium.  I really think child services needs to look in on this woman, she may be abusing her other daughter. Is she taking her anger out on Savannah because the dad is not around or because of her condition. 

Nichelle remember your the one who spoiled them.  NICHELlE GET THE HELP DR. PHIL OFFERED, STOCK YOUR HOUSE WITH HEALTH FOODS, INSTEAD OF FATTY FOODS.   

  

  

( I posted this yesterday or the day before....you just couldnt see it due to all the posts.) THANK YOU :-) FROM THURSAYS SHOW

Thank you so much to all the people who posted messages here for me. Nice or mean I have taken the time to read everybodys opinion and take all said into consideration. I apologize that I said the kids were brats. They just act that way sometimes, I DO Love them and Ill do my best to handle the situation. I should not have been so negative in my postings...I guess I was just blown away by all the meanies who hadnt even seen the show yet. Thanks so much to the nice, positive, people who left such great messages. It IS appreciated. "you get more flies with sugar then with vinigar" (not that anyone wants flies! but you get my point! :)Thanks again to everyone.  

  

Sincerely, Nichelle  
 
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December 10, 2005, 12:23 pm PST

THANKS, from NICHELLE...

Hello, everyone. I took some time out last week to write a quick note to all of you, however it was never posted. I have no clue why.....what a waste of time that was! Well, I wanted to write and thank ALL of you who took the time to write. I have read ALL messages and appreciate them ALL. I ESPECIALLY appreciate all of you that came on here and stuck up for me. THANK YOU. Im glad to have the support of so many. You guys made my day.  Dr. Phil and his wonderful staff have done wonders for us and things are moving along beautifully. Savannah is going to get involved in some play groups and such and Im leaving for 3 weeks to train for a new job. While Im away Ill have lots of time to regroup. When I return Ill have a great paying, wonderful job. So once again..thanks. HOPE THIS GETS POSTED, This time........
 
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