Messages By: bitburg

Thank you so much to all the people who posted messages here for me. Nice or mean I have taken the time to read everybodys opinion and take all said into consideration. I apologize that I said the kids were brats. They just act that way sometimes, I DO Love them and Ill do my best to handle the situation. I should not have been so negative in my postings...I guess I was just blown away by all the meanies who hadnt even seen the show yet. Thanks so much to the nice, positive, people who left such great messages. It IS appreciated. "you get more flies with sugar then with vinigar" (not that anyone wants flies! but you get my point! :)Thanks again to everyone. 

Sincerely, Nichelle 

    Hi , my name is Melissa and I have known Nichelle for over nine years. We have been through so much together that when she told me she was going to appear on the show I supported her when others criticized and ostracized her . I was there when she met Savannah's dad. I was there when she went on her first date. I was there when she foud out she was pregnant. She was in my wedding and helped me in the worst of times. Nichelle , the person you saw on Dr. Phil today knows she needs help. The Nichelle I know has an extremely hard time admitting it and I applauded her for getting the help (which let me inform you she is). 

    I have almost 5 children . One has autism with developemental delay and Verbal delay due to the hospital he was being born at screwing up in the labor process. I know what she deals with. Her and I handle things differently of course all people do, but, noone on this board has lived with her for a time, known her for as long as me and has seen the things she does exceptionally well.i lived with her and Savannah for a time about 4 years ago.Nichelle was doing it on her own and doing well.What you saw is the worst of it. Noone saw how she freaked when Savannah fell and hit her head and I had to go get to to rush to the ER. (She was with her Grandma when it happened before you think ill and she tripped.) Nichelle freaked all the way to the hospital, almost passed out when she had to see her daughter get stitched up and cried and cried that she should have been there. Though she was working at the time and couldn't have been. 

    You haven't seen the Nichelle who holds her daughters head high by telling her how beautiful she is. She tells her her smile is the best and encourages her in many ways, brags about how well Savannah does in school and rarely ever  freaks out. I agree she takes it to a point sometimes, but how can anyone judge when she is going for help and is in fear of losing her daughter now that family members who have never been there, have turned their backs. Can you imagine being in her shoes?  

  My developementally delayed son is my bright light. He has taught my whole family things we didn't know were possible, he is such a gift that when I think of it I cry. I almost lost him at birth and know how hard it is to know you can't change things, only try to help. Do I get frustarted? Yes. DO I get sad? yes. Do I cry ? yes. Would I take him back ? Never , never , never !  

    Be proud of Nichelle for somethings. She never has had government help.Her and I have this in common. SHe doesn't blame anyone for what happened to her Savannah but tries to help her. Even if she has a few issues, we all do. The people who love her and love her girls will stand by her and try to help her. We will do what we can for her. I know what you saw looked so bad but remember you didn't see the Nichelle some of us know so well.....  

Nichelle, 

In my opinion, I think that you are totally letting your child get over on you. For one I understand that you are a single Mother of two and you are only 24, but let me tell you something. I am am also a young Mother of two. I am only 21 years old. But, I feel like this if you really want your daughter to stop going on like she does then you need to buckle down and get yourself some guts! I totally understand that it is hard for you to deal with your little girls violent tantrums but, as a parent sometimes you have to go through a lot just to get to where you want to be. Eventually she will get tired of throwing her tantrum and calm down and if its that bad put her in her room until she can calm down. See my kids are one and two yrs. old perfect ages for throwing tantrums but, I can assure you that they NEVER carry on like that because I made it clear that I am the Mother and when I say no, thats what I mean and there are no if -ands, or buts about it!!  Somewhere along the line you need to teach your daughter self-disapline and you also need some yourself! No one ever said that being a parent was easy. Let me break it down for you.........no, I am not a single Mother but, I am the one who is home with my kids all day long and i teach they right from wrong eventually you need to teach you daughter that NOBODY in this world gets everything they want just when they want it. But let me also say this if you dont feel like you can handle your childs tantrums just that much try changing what she is eating. You are the on in the house buying the food so buy healty food change your eating habits and change hers. Instead of eating chips for a snack and getting mad when your daughter is right there ready to eat some with you why not try eating fruit for a sncak or something like that. In my opinion your whole situation is all about self-control and you need to get some and install it into your daughter. Cause let me tell you anytime there is something in here to eat or drink my kids want if I say no, I dare them to act up, you really have to get on you daughters level and let her know whos boss! To me it looks like right now she thinks she is, she is 6 yrs old and I can promise you she knows that if she wants something and you tell her no all she has to do is throw a fit and she knows she will get. My two year old is smart enough to know what to do to get what he wants so I know she is. You shold have nipped whats going on in the bud a long time ago, and if you dont get some self control to get her where she needs to be it will only get worse.