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February 28, 2006, 7:32 pm PST

I thought it was just me

Quote From: geoherri01

My boyfriend and I have been together almost four years, I would be happy having sex every night- my boyfriend is the total opposite! He can go a week or longer without the desire for sex...I used to feel like it was me that I wasn't attractive enough or that he didn't want me but now I think it's all about him. Anybody with this problem?

I have the same problem with my husband. We dated with a sort of long-distance relationship and we had sex every night we were together, then after the wedding I realized that his once or twice a week thing wasn't a phase. Finally I just let him know that I will go to bed earlier than him and I will amuse myself without him. Very often, he gets involved. Very few men like the idea that they are replacable and like even less knowing that their manliness is being replicated without them in the very next room.

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February 28, 2006, 7:38 pm PST

What an ego!

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If you don't want us to cheat or buy "Just 18", then act like wives. Remember what the Bible says; that the person who caused the sin faces a greater punishment than the person who committed the sin. Hence, if you refuse to let your husband touch you and he cheats on you with his secretary, you've no one to blame BUT YOURSELF because men NEED sex.

I mean, you wouldn't let us do our business on the rug, right? It's the same thing. It's a natural function that WE GUYS HAVE TO HAVE AND CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT.

I have a friend of mine who is 79. Back in the day when he was married, his wife wouldn't let him touch her because she thought sex was disgusting and only for procreation. He was lucky to get a twice a year. This forced him to go to every nudie bar in the San Fernando Valley.

He says that she STILL doesn't get it.

Yes, it's wrong for men to cheat and it's wrong for us to use porn-especially if we are married. HOWEVER, we would do neither one if WOMEN PUT OUT.

That is the most self-absorbed load of entitlement I have ever heard. Well guess what, women have needs too. We need to be loved beyond what we can do for you. If a husband doesn't tell his wife at least weekly how treasured and loved and beautiful she is, some other man will and he may get the sex. But guess what? For the most part, we don't cheat. Because we see that sex is not food or oxygen; it isn't a need. The sex drive may be second only to hunger and breathing, but it is not a need. Any primate capable of walking upright is also capable of staying upright when aroused and in the company of the preferred gender. If that weren't true, rape wouldn't be a crime.

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February 28, 2006, 7:46 pm PST

Differing Sex Drives

Quote From: autumn70

do what feels right in your heart , don't listen to what everyone tells you because their not living your life you are and if you live your life for everyone Else you will never be happy .
I had a friend that didn't know what sex she liked and she just went with her feeling and ended up with another woman it's all what the heart tells you not what people tell you no one knows what you feel but you.

I read a great quote once from a woman who refused to be labeled gay, bi, or straight. She said "The people I have truly loved, and there have been few, I loved not for their bodies but for who they were as people. Some have been men, others women, but they all had in common the ability to captivate me." I may have the exact wording wrong, but I liked the jist of it. Judging people by what's in their pants is no way to choose a life partner, and if the limitations aren't pre-set on you, then it would be a shame to impose them upon yourself.

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