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May 16, 2008, 11:03 pm PDT
 Quote From: shelleyhowell Ed, Every state in the Union has parent laws that cover such issues as spanking a child. There is nothing wrong with spanking a child to inforce rules. You usually only have to spank a child a few times for them to get the hint that you mean business. Spanking is in the bible and is very effective. I use it as the "last resort" punishment and it works. I have 8 children and all of them respect me and my husband. THANX FOR THE REPLY. I AGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAY BUT DISAGREE IN THAT "SPANKING" IS OUR "ONLY OPTION". AS I SAID IN MY POST, I ONLY SPANKED "ONCE THAT BROUGHT TEARS". MANY TIMES I HAVE "SWATTED BOTTOMS" TO GAIN THEIR ATTENTION, GRABBED THEM BY THE HAND, ASKED THEM "WHY" OR" WHAT WAS THE REASON" FOR THEIR BEHAVIOR. THIS IS TO TEACH THEM THAT WE RECOGNIZE THEM DOING SOMETHING "AGAINST THE RULES" AND EXPLAIN TO THEM THE RIGHT/PROPER WAY TO HANDLE THEIR SITUATION.
IF WE CAN'T TEACH THE RIGHT WAY, IN A RIGHT WAY, WE OPEN THE DOOR TO A LIFE OF THE WRONG WAY.
AS A CHILD, I WAS, BY TODAY'S STANDARDS, ABUSED IN EVERY WAY IMAGINABLE. I WAS SLAPPED, SPANKED (WITH WHATEVER MY MOTHER COULD GET HER HANDS ON-AN EXTENSION OF THE HAND SITUATION HERE). SHE SPANKED ME WITH SWITCHES THAT LEFT BIG RED WHELPS ON MY LEGS, ARMS, BUTTOCKS, BACK AND SOMETIMES FACE. MY MOM USED BRANCHES OF THE MAPLE/ELM TREES IN OUR YARD WHEN SHE COULDN'T FIND A BOARD/YARDSTICK OR BELT.
MY DAD ONLY RAISED HIS HAND TO ME ONE TIME IN MY LIFE-KNOCKING A LARGE CHUNK OF CHIMNEY PLASTER OUT OF THE CHIMNEY IN OUR HOUSE. HE SAT IN A ROCKING CHAIR FOR AN HOUR AFTERWARDS AND CRIED HIS EYES OUT. I HAVE NEVER FORGOTTEN THIS "MIND SPANKING" AND IT STILL BRINGS ME TO TEARS WHENEVER I THINK ABOUT IT OR TALK ABOUT IT. MY DAD PASSED AWAY IN 2001 AND I WAS NOT THERE TO SAY GOODBYE AND THAT I LOVED HIM AND FOR SHOWING ME MORE ABOUT "PUNISHMENT" THAT EVENTFUL DAY THAN ALL THE SPANKINGS, SWITCHINGS AND SLAPPINGS THAT MY MOTHER ADMINISTERED.
THANX FOR LISTENING. GOD BLESS.
ED BASS/BOONE, IOWA |
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May 17, 2008, 4:35 pm PDT
I WOULD VERY MUCH LIKE TO SPEAK UP FOR THE CHILDREN, AS I HAVE 6 OF MY OWN (INCLUDING GRANDKIDZ). I AM A PHILOSOPHER OF SORTS AND A POET. I EXPRESS MYSELF AT MY BEST WHEN I PUT MY WORDS IN RHYME.
THIS POEM IS DEDICATED TO ALL MY KIDZ AROUND THIS ROCK:
KIDZRPPL2
In our day-to-day, daily grind, Our children choose to misbehave. It's all in how we handle them, Their self-esteem we choose to save.
Children can become a handful , In their daily romp and play. They can be a little devilish, Acting up in their own little way.
It's all in how we handle them, That will help us to quiet the storm. Take some time to teach and counsel, And our lives will get back to norm.
Hug and love your kidz, each and ev'ry day, And keep their lives from turning blue. They will learn from our example,
BECAUSE KIDZRPPL-2.
ewbass 6:oo pm cdt 05/17/2008
THANX TO ALL MY KIDZ FOR MAKING MY LIFE ENJOYABLE AND A CHALLENGE TO UNDERSTAND WHAT I WAS LIKE AT THEIR AGE.
THANX FOR LISTENING. GOD BLESS.
ED BASS/BOONE, IOWA
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June 30, 2008, 2:49 pm PDT
MY GRACIOUS PARENTS & GRANDPARENTS,
I AM A 61 YR OLD PARENT OF 3 LOVING CHILDREN (38, 30, 26) AND 3 WONDERFUL GRANDSONS (11, 6, 2). I HAVE EXPERIENCED MANY EPISODES OVER THE YEARS WITHIN MY FAMILY AND WITH MY PARENTS AND WITH MY WIFE'S PARENTS. NOTHING LIKE THAT PORTRAYED IN TODAY'S SHOW. KENDRA AND ADAM ARE THE HEROES HERE AND BELLE....WELL, IF YOU WATCHED THE SHOW, YOU KNOW WHAT I'M GOING TO SAY.
THIS "BLESSING FROM GOD" CHANGED EVERYTHING--BROUGHT A WIDE SMILE AND TEARS OF "REGRET" (BEHAVIOR REGRET) TO BAMBI'S FACE AND A SMILE TO EVERY OTHER PERSON IN THE BUILDING!! INNOCENCE AND LOVE CHANGES ALL.
WE CAN LEARN MANY LESSONS FROM OUR CHILDREN-NO MATTER THEIR AGE!!
I HAVE WRITTEN A POEM (03-1996) ENTITLED "SMILES". I WISH TO SHARE THE LAST VERSE WITH ALL WHO CARE TO PRACTICE IT'S MEANING:
SMILES (4TH VERSE)
When anger gets our best Causing pain all the while, Let's talk out our problems, And solve them with a smile. ewb 03/1996
BAMBI NEEDS TO "BURY" THE HATCHET AND NOT THE IMAGE/THOUGHTS OF HER DAUGHTER AND GRANDCHILD. I PRAY THAT WHAT GOD DISPLAYS IN OUR YOUNG CHILDREN WILL REHABILLITATE BAMBI SO SHE CAN SEE THE NEGATIVISM OF HER THOUGHTS AND BEHAVIOR.
MY MOTHER EXHIBITS IDENTICAL BEHAVIOR AS BAMBI BUT, BEING 7 HRS AND A STATE AWAY, IT DOESN'T INTERFERE IN MY FAMLY'S LIFE.
IN MY "IDEAS, THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS", I HAVE WRITTEN THIS: "The reach of a young child's love is only a SMILE away. ewb 04/10/1997"
LET'S ALL LEARN TO SMILE AND SOLVE OUR PROBLEMS WITH A SMILE. AS DR. PHIL SAYS: "LIFE IS TOO SHORT!"
OUR CHILDREN SHALL SET US FREE!
THANX FOR LISTENING. GOD BLESS.
ED BASS/BOONE, IOWA |
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September 14, 2008, 10:55 pm PDT
LET ME FIRST SAY THAT THE "N" WORD IS A MISPRONUNCIATION. I WOULD CONFIDENTLY PRESUME THAT 99% OF AMERICANS, YOUNG AND OLD, DO NOT HAVE A CLUE WHERE THE WORD DERIVED FROM.
I GREW UP IN A FAMLY THAT REFERRED TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY WITH THE "N" WORD. I WOULD CONFIDENTLY SAY THEY GREW UP WITH THEIR FAMLY USING THE SAME TERM IN FRONT OF THEM.
THIS WORD HAS EVOLVED FROM BEING PASSED DOWN THROUGH OUR CULTURE WITHOUT ANYONE KNOWING THE HISTORY OR THE EVENTUAL HURT TO THE BLACK CULTURE.. THE JEST OF THE PROBLEM LIES WITH THE SOUTHERN "ARISTOCRATS"S" "FORMAL" EDUCATION.
THE "N" WORD ORIGINATED WITH THE SLAVE IMPORTERS MISPRONOUNCING THE WORD "NIGER". THE GREAT MAJORITY OF THE SLAVES IMPORTED INTO AMERICA CAME FROM THE AREAS ALONG THE NIGER RIVER AREAS. THE SLAVE TRADERS IN THEIR TRANSACTIONS REFERRED TO THEM AS "NIGERS". BECAUSE THE SLAVERY OWNERS DID NOT EVEN KNOW AN "AFRICA" EVEN EXISTED, THEY CALLED THESE SLAVES BY THE USAGE OF THE TRADERS.
THE TRADERS/OWNERS PRONOUCED "NIGERS" WITH A "SHORT I" INSTEAD OF THE CORRECT "LONG I". EVENTUALLY, DOCUMENTS AND SCRIPT REFLECTED THE ADDITIONAL "G" IN THE WORD.
WE CAN ONLY BLAME OURSELVES-REGARLESS OF OUR COLOR/NATIONALITY-FOR THE MISUSE OF THE TERM AND THE OFFENSIVE UNDERTONES IT INCURS.
I KNEW NO BETTER UNTIL I WAS A SENIOR AT LOUISIANA HIGH SCHOOL. OUR TEACHER, MR. RICHARD PULLIAM, SET US ALL STRAIGHT ONE DAY WHEN THE WORD WAS USED ONE DAY IN CLASS. HE, AS I AM TODAY, BECAME IRATE AT THE USE OF THE TERM IN IT'S REFERENCE.
WE KNOW IT'S OFFENSIVE TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY AND WE USE IT TO INCUR HURT AND BAD CONNOTATIONS , TRYING TO RAISE OUR FEELINGS OF "BETTER THA YOU". WE SHOULD ALL REFLECT ON THE FEELINGS WE HAVE EXPERIENCED THROUGH OUR YEARS WHEN WE WERE ADDRESSED WITH A DEROGORTORY NAME AND PUT OURSELVES IN THE SHOES OF A BLACK MAN WHEN HE IS REFERRED TO WITH THE "N" WORD.
THE "N" WORD AS IT HAS BEEN WRITTEN AND USED IS AN EXAMPLE OF A WORD THAT HAS BEEN ACCEPTED (?) AS PART OF OUR DAILY LIVES. ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF AN ACCEPTED WORD/TERM INTO OUR CULTURE (USED FREQUENTLY ABOUT 15 YEARS AGO) IS "RAD".
I CHALLENGE ANYONE READING THIS TO ASK AS MANY PEOPLE/FRIENDS, YOUNG AND OLD, WHAT "RAD" MEANS AND WHERE IT DERIVED FROM.
I PERSONALLY TRY TO STAY IN TOUCH WITH LIFES'S MATTERS AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. THE WORD "RAD" IS ACCEPTED INTO WEBSTER'S DICTIONARY AND dictionary.com . ACCORDING TO dictionary.com, RAD MEANS: adj. Slang Excellent, Wonderful.
AS A READER HERE, DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT THE ACTUAL TERM MEANS OR WHERE IT DERIVED FROM?
THE WORD "RAD" IS A SURFING TERM GENERALLY USED WHEN REFERRING TO GREAT SURFING MOVES OR SOMETHING THAT WAS GREAT OR AWESOME. IT IS THE ABBREVIATED TERM FOR "R"-EALLY "A"-WESOME "D"-UDE.
NOW THAT YOU KNOW MY PERSONAL FEELINGS AND THE HISTORY OF THE "N" WORD AND, OF COURSE, THE HISTORY OF "RAD", WILL YOU PROMISE YOURSELF TO RESEARCH WORDS, SAYINGS, REFERENCES, ETC. SO THAT WE WILL NOT HARM, INFLUENCE, OR DESTROY THE FEELINGS, EMOTIONS OF OUR FELLOW MAN.
"LIFE IS SHORT..." IS A REGULAR USE BY DR. PHIL. WE ALL SHOULD ALL CONSIDER IT AND TAKE IT TO HEART AND TRY TO BE POSITIVE AND BETTER OUR RELATIONSHIPS AND LIVES ON THIS OLD ROCK IN IT'S SPIN AROUND THE LIGHT IN OUR LIVES.
THANX FOR LISTENING. GOD BLESS.
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September 15, 2008, 2:02 pm PDT
Quote From: 1FAMLY LET ME FIRST SAY THAT THE "N" WORD IS A MISPRONUNCIATION. I WOULD CONFIDENTLY PRESUME THAT 99% OF AMERICANS, YOUNG AND OLD, DO NOT HAVE A CLUE WHERE THE WORD DERIVED FROM.
I GREW UP IN A FAMLY THAT REFERRED TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY WITH THE "N" WORD. I WOULD CONFIDENTLY SAY THEY GREW UP WITH THEIR FAMLY USING THE SAME TERM IN FRONT OF THEM.
THIS WORD HAS EVOLVED FROM BEING PASSED DOWN THROUGH OUR CULTURE WITHOUT ANYONE KNOWING THE HISTORY OR THE EVENTUAL HURT TO THE BLACK CULTURE.. THE JEST OF THE PROBLEM LIES WITH THE SOUTHERN "ARISTOCRATS"S" "FORMAL" EDUCATION.
THE "N" WORD ORIGINATED WITH THE SLAVE IMPORTERS MISPRONOUNCING THE WORD "NIGER". THE GREAT MAJORITY OF THE SLAVES IMPORTED INTO AMERICA CAME FROM THE AREAS ALONG THE NIGER RIVER AREAS. THE SLAVE TRADERS IN THEIR TRANSACTIONS REFERRED TO THEM AS "NIGERS". BECAUSE THE SLAVERY OWNERS DID NOT EVEN KNOW AN "AFRICA" EVEN EXISTED, THEY CALLED THESE SLAVES BY THE USAGE OF THE TRADERS.
THE TRADERS/OWNERS PRONOUCED "NIGERS" WITH A "SHORT I" INSTEAD OF THE CORRECT "LONG I". EVENTUALLY, DOCUMENTS AND SCRIPT REFLECTED THE ADDITIONAL "G" IN THE WORD.
WE CAN ONLY BLAME OURSELVES-REGARLESS OF OUR COLOR/NATIONALITY-FOR THE MISUSE OF THE TERM AND THE OFFENSIVE UNDERTONES IT INCURS.
I KNEW NO BETTER UNTIL I WAS A SENIOR AT LOUISIANA HIGH SCHOOL. OUR TEACHER, MR. RICHARD PULLIAM, SET US ALL STRAIGHT ONE DAY WHEN THE WORD WAS USED ONE DAY IN CLASS. HE, AS I AM TODAY, BECAME IRATE AT THE USE OF THE TERM IN IT'S REFERENCE.
WE KNOW IT'S OFFENSIVE TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY AND WE USE IT TO INCUR HURT AND BAD CONNOTATIONS , TRYING TO RAISE OUR FEELINGS OF "BETTER THA YOU". WE SHOULD ALL REFLECT ON THE FEELINGS WE HAVE EXPERIENCED THROUGH OUR YEARS WHEN WE WERE ADDRESSED WITH A DEROGORTORY NAME AND PUT OURSELVES IN THE SHOES OF A BLACK MAN WHEN HE IS REFERRED TO WITH THE "N" WORD.
THE "N" WORD AS IT HAS BEEN WRITTEN AND USED IS AN EXAMPLE OF A WORD THAT HAS BEEN ACCEPTED (?) AS PART OF OUR DAILY LIVES. ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF AN ACCEPTED WORD/TERM INTO OUR CULTURE (USED FREQUENTLY ABOUT 15 YEARS AGO) IS "RAD".
I CHALLENGE ANYONE READING THIS TO ASK AS MANY PEOPLE/FRIENDS, YOUNG AND OLD, WHAT "RAD" MEANS AND WHERE IT DERIVED FROM.
I PERSONALLY TRY TO STAY IN TOUCH WITH LIFES'S MATTERS AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. THE WORD "RAD" IS ACCEPTED INTO WEBSTER'S DICTIONARY AND dictionary.com . ACCORDING TO dictionary.com, RAD MEANS: adj. Slang Excellent, Wonderful.
AS A READER HERE, DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT THE ACTUAL TERM MEANS OR WHERE IT DERIVED FROM?
THE WORD "RAD" IS A SURFING TERM GENERALLY USED WHEN REFERRING TO GREAT SURFING MOVES OR SOMETHING THAT WAS GREAT OR AWESOME. IT IS THE ABBREVIATED TERM FOR "R"-EALLY "A"-WESOME "D"-UDE.
NOW THAT YOU KNOW MY PERSONAL FEELINGS AND THE HISTORY OF THE "N" WORD AND, OF COURSE, THE HISTORY OF "RAD", WILL YOU PROMISE YOURSELF TO RESEARCH WORDS, SAYINGS, REFERENCES, ETC. SO THAT WE WILL NOT HARM, INFLUENCE, OR DESTROY THE FEELINGS, EMOTIONS OF OUR FELLOW MAN.
"LIFE IS SHORT..." IS A REGULAR USE BY DR. PHIL. WE ALL SHOULD ALL CONSIDER IT AND TAKE IT TO HEART AND TRY TO BE POSITIVE AND BETTER OUR RELATIONSHIPS AND LIVES ON THIS OLD ROCK IN IT'S SPIN AROUND THE LIGHT IN OUR LIVES.
THANX FOR LISTENING. GOD BLESS.
I WOULD LIKE TO ADD THE FOLLOWING FROM "WIKIPEDIA" ON "NIGER RIVER": It is often assumed, without evidence, that Niger derives from the Latin word for "black", niger, but it would have been more likely for the Portuguese explorers who first wrote this name on their maps to have used the Portuguese word, negro, as they did elsewhere in the world. In any case the Niger is not a blackwater river, which was the motivation for all other rivers that were called black. (See Rio Negro.) Some have rationalized that 'black' may have referred to the color of the people living on the river, but this did not happen to any other river in Africa. Therefore it would seem that the similarity between the name Niger and the Latin word niger is either coincidence, or that knowledge of Latin influenced the spelling of an indigenous name like ngher.
THANX FOR LISTENING. GOD BLESS. |
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