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January 11, 2006, 6:55 am PST

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 I am new to these boards and recently had my third and last child about a month ago i am only 22 and just looking for advice on how to be a good stay at home mom. anyone have any kind of schedules activities ect ideas my children are 4.5, 2.5, and 5 weeks. I have been living with my fiancee siince i was 15 i left my home because it is so screwed up and just a walking live disaster I was basically sheltered my whole life. my aunt would do our homework we went to school came home and would have to sit there in the front room till it was time for bed so i have very little socialzation skills which is probably why i dont talk to any of my friends anymore or have met new ones i keep to myself here at home with my children but i want toraise them differntly i want them to know people to have fun to just be kids and to learn age appropriate things. anyway i am just blabbing so any advice would be helpful 

  

  

  

  

  

 
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January 11, 2006, 7:03 am PST

just curious to what others are doing

  

 I was just curious to what other four year olds we doing what they should know for kindergarden and things like that. 

 
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January 11, 2006, 8:26 am PST

thanks for responding

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Hi!  I'm a young stay at home mom myself,  I am going to be 23 next month.  I have a 3 year old boy and a soon to be 5 month old daughter.   Anyway, I do try to keep to a schedule, I think it is important for kids to know what is going on.  Every morning I do breakfast, and then he is usually off playing with toys and this is around the time my daughter wakes up so I change her and feed her.  Soon after that my son wants his clothes on too so that's what we do.  He does pick out his own clothes which he likes to do and I think it gives him control over what he wears, which is fine with me, all for independance.  So throughout the day there are activities that we do, for example he loves to color and look at books so he does that.  I even put time aside for when I read with him and my daughter.  He even helps with chores so that comes in handy when you can turn it into a fun thing to do.  Most of the time he is outside, although it hasn't been too much lately because it's quite chilly out there.  Lunch and dinner are around the same time everyday, unless we have to go somewhere or have other plans.  It is really not hard for my son to find things to do because he is constantly up and around.  I'm sure with having three kids it is much harder, especially with a new born.  Try to have crayons and books for your older ones when you need to tend to the younger one.  My son also likes to make forts, so maybe you can try that.  Like I said, I am young and new to this myself and am learning things along the way, I am in no way an expert, I just do things that work for us.  I'm sure your children have interests of some things so maybe help them to explore those a little more.  Hope this helps. 

i would love to get a schedule going but i cant even organize my house. thanks for the ideas my children also love being outside but it is to cold here with the baby to be out much and their dad dont get home till 7 or 8pm so they run through the house. again thanks for responding nice to hear from someone about my age with more than one child also.  

 
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January 11, 2006, 11:26 am PST

would enjoy chatting

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I am 22 mother of three from iowa also looking for some friends to chat with my email is  in my profile if you are interested in chatting
 
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January 11, 2006, 6:42 pm PST

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I know a thing or two about an unorganized home. lol  That's when I got my son to start helping pick up his toys.  And I know it's hard being home alone with the kids for a long time, my husband works 48 hours a week and sometimes goes into work from 5 a.m. to 4p.m. or 9a.m. to 7p.m. or even 12p.m. to 11p.m.  It is hard to keep the kids occupied for that length of time, especially when they can't go outside because it's too cold.  If you ever want to talk more, I am usually on this board.  Nice talking with you and take care.
  i am slowly getting there with the organization i have taken a zillion bags to goodwill today and tackled some drawers that were overflowing with junk. now i just have to go through kids toys and see what i need to get rid of and what to put up for baby. I like the fact that he has a set time to go to work that way the kids are used to him being gone on the same time if he doest go in on the weekend out daughter is usually questioning him on why he isnt at work she is so used to him being gone everyday.. i cant believe all three kids are sleeping already it is only 845. chat to you later if your on and take care.
 
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January 23, 2006, 8:16 pm PST

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How do I know if my children are learning?

Children are always learning - they just can't help it! Just like when they were babies and toddlers, you can discover what they are learning by spending time with them and observing the growth in their understanding of the world. Observation as an assessment (titled 'authentic assessment' and a big educational buzzword these days) acknowledges growth in understanding and skill level. Homeschooling allows for direct observation by the parents who knows their child better than anyone else. There is a smaller child to adult ratio in the home environment (compared to 1:25 or 1:30in schools) so it is easier to observe the progress of the child. Unlike standardized testing, direct observation by the parent doesn't give a 'snapshot' that attempts to quantify learning at one point in time. It is fluid and flexible and has no preconceived notions about what a child 'should' be able to do. You can look at the whole person and concentrate on what your child knows, instead of what your child does not know. 

Children are constantly asking questions so we know that they are thinking and curious. Everyone has their own internal schedule for learning (i.e. not every child is ready to read at the age of 5-some may start to read as early as age 3 and others may not be ready until they are 8, or 9, or 10) and we need to try to respect the internal schedule of each child. If you use a curriculum package with your child you will know whether or not they understand the material they are learning when you review the lessons with them and look at their work. 

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Testing, like many other educational concerns, should be a personal decision. Some questions to consider before making this decision include: which tests will be used and why, how might the testing process affect the learner, how will the test results be used, and are there less intrusive alternatives that can be utilized instead? Testing, in the home environment where parents are always very aware of how well their children are doing, is unnecessary and intrusive. Testing is under fire from many teachers and educators, and many educational establishments are attempting to eliminate standardized testing in their schools. Very careful consideration should be taken before any testing is done to children for any reason.  

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What about higher education?

Homeschooled children can and do attend college and university. Many homeschool through the elementary years and attend high school to get their diploma. Others homeschool through the high school years and obtain credits through correspondence schools and virtual schools. Many universities and colleges in Ontario are starting to prepare admissions policies for homeschoolers. However, even if a college or university does not have a specific policy, homeschoolers have still been able to gain admittance to many of these institutions. Another option for homeschoolers, who do not have a secondary school diploma, is to attend college or university as a mature student - age 21 for university and age 19 for college - since the criteria for the admission of a mature student is different than it would be for a student under the age of 19 or 21. It is recommended that you determine what the admissions policy is for homeschoolers (if a policy exists) or determine what the admissions policy is, in general, for a particular college or university that you are interested in attending. It is also a good idea to speak to the Registrar to inform them of your particular situation in order to determine what criteria is necessary for you to gain admittance. 

In the United States, hundreds of colleges, universities and vocational institutes all over the nation are accepting homeschooled students. In fact, many actively recruit home schooled students because of their creativity, independence and ability to work on their own. Most are thrilled with these intelligent, responsible, capable young people and many are actively recruiting them. Most of these institutions value ability and attitude over formal transcripts, diplomas or GEDs. Most libraries and bookstores carry a wide assortment of books, directories and guides that will help older homeschoolers get information and prepare for this next step. On the other hand, many homeschoolers ultimately choose an apprenticeship over formal schooling as a faster and more satisfying entry into their adult lives. Cafi Cohen's book "And What About College?" (Holt Associates, 1998) and Grace Llewellyn's "Teenage Liberation Handbook" can be great helps to families working through these decisions. It should be noted that college is not necessarily the only or even the best route for every young person. Going to college without a clear idea of what you expect to gain can be a very expensive form of self-discovery. And for many teens who already know where they are headed, apprenticeship opportunities and other forms of 'on-the-job' training can be a faster and more satisfying entry into their adult lives. And remember, the decision to forgo college is never irrevocable. Most institutions highly value older students, since they are usually enthusiastic and focused on learning. 

Some well-known homeschoolers include: John Quincy Adams, Winston Churchill, Alexander Graham Bell, Albert Einstein, Agatha Christie , Astronaut Sally Ride, Noel Coward, Mark Twain, Thomas Edison, George Bernard Shaw, Benjamin Franklin and Theodore Roosevelt. 

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See our pages on University/College Information for more details. 

I was looking for your info you refer to here and on these posts and cant find it i am interested in homeschooling my children but am totally lost at how to go about it and if it would benefit them or not my oldest is 4.5 

  

 
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January 24, 2006, 7:07 am PST

thank you

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what are you looking for? What do you want to know? I will help in anyway I can.

I guess i am curious of what i should be doing to help her learn more and what she should be doing she can write her name knows her letters and can count to 20 but reading other peoples posts it seems like she should be doing more she knows her phone number and knows how to get most places we go by memory i guess what should i work on how do you do it i also have a 2.5 year old son and he just is not interested in learning any thing 

  

 
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January 24, 2006, 7:17 am PST

i to am a young mom

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I know how that can be...im 19yrs old and i have a 5 mth old daughter..and yea the social life is basicly gone...and i do as well get kind mad at my boyfriend when he can go out and be with his friends and all and i have to stay home with the baby...and she is his daughter and all...oh he spends time with her and me and all...just get mad i have to stay home with her all the time and don't get a day or even a night to myself with out her...i love her with all my heart..but every mother needs a break every no and then 

  

to help with the social life...if you can't go any where with your friends and all that..have them come too your home and hang out and what not....that way you'll have a lil bit more of a social life and you can still be with your baby... 

of three children at the age of 21 but having your friends come over depends on your friends i guess ifi they have no children they probably wont want to hang out around a baby at least none of mine really did after a while i was on my own with no social life nobody to talk ot but my fiancee no family (my family is really crazy) so now i am here on these boards trying to talk to people and maybe find some cyber friends to chat with it gets so lonely with no adult conversation or outings.
 
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January 25, 2006, 8:49 pm PST

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sorry if i spelled it wrong i was just wondering if there was any web sites about homeschooling that were fairly inexpensive she is in preschool but her preschool seems to be more of a daycare and i was wanting to work on things more at home any help is appreciated
 
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January 26, 2006, 6:30 am PST

thank you both

for the help any other help or ideas would be grateful not doing it full time just to help her learn more than preschool is and to get my 2.5 year old started on learning any thing is grateful you can even email me at bnks_ngl yahoo,com
 

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