Hi I am the 47 year old mother of a 12 year old boy. His father left when he found out I was pregnant. My son has met his father only once when he was about 9. He has not asked about him sense. Over the years we have had ups and downs and fortunately we have had more ups than downs.
However, over the last couple of years we are having more and more downs. He tells me that he doesn't care about anything. Last night was the straw that broke the camels back. I think we both need cousnelling. However, I don't want to jump into something that may be more harmful.
Let me describe my son to you. He is 12 years old and gifted. He is currently in a program for the gifted and doing reasonable well. He is receiving A's and B's. He is quiet and very respectful to people outside of the house. Everyone loves him and tells me how wonderful he is. I get to see the otherside of him. Because no one else sees this side. I think it is me and I have done something wrong in raising him. I do try to compensate for him being in a single parent situation and this is probably where I have made my mistakes in raising him. He has not had to want for anything that I could provide without going into debt to get it.
Last night he told me that he hated to me and always have and that I am too blind to see it. I can deal with this comment, because I know he is probably lashing out. What I can't deal with and what hurts the most is the anger that I saw in his eyes. Which leads me to believe that he may mean what he has said. This morning I woke him to get ready for school. He has not spoken two words to me. I need help or guidance in how to proceed. I am very frustrated and concerned. I realize that it is only going to get worse unless I can fix it or get us both help.
Frustrated in Chicago.
