Messages By: r_u_4real

I totally agree with you. My sons divorce was final last week. They got married 1998. In 2002 she left him for another guy. Then she left that guy and went back to the other one. Then she left him and went back to my son with that guys name tattoed on her leg.  Without my son or us knowing about it, she starting dating this guy Dec. 28, 2004, she left my son for this guy in Jan. 30,2005. Then she left him for his brother, left his brother and went back to him. Then she left him for another guy. "ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER", at least in my sons case. 

Think of your kids, family & friends. "ESPECIALLY YOUR KIDS". What if your kids found you dead? That could mentally destroy them. If you kill yourself your kids are left without there dad. Then what if they found out about there mom cheating on you and thats what drove you to kill yourself. Then they end up blaming there mom. It could drive your kids to drinking, drugs, suicide or mental problems. The hardest thing a person could go through is burying a loved one or finding a loved one dead. My uncles DR. told him he was dying. My uncle couldnt deal with it. He borrowed his son gun and went out to the field behind there house and shot hisself in the head. His son came home and walked in the field and found his dad laying there dead and noticed his dad shot hisself with his gun. That happened over 30 yrs. ago and my cousin has`nt been mentally right since. "PLEASE>>>I BEG OF YOU DON`T PUT YOUR KIDS, FAMILY & FRIENDS THROUGH THAT". My son is just as good as a husband as you are. Him & his wife been married for 7 yrs and shes cheated on him with 5 different men. "SHE HAS PUT HIM THREW HELL IN THIER MARRIAGE". They have a 4 yr. old daughter. They recently got divorced a couple a weeks ago. Hes very upset & depressed to. They say "TIME HEALS EVERYTHING". Its going to take alot of time to get through all this. Talk to a counsler, friends, family, TALK, TALK TALK TALK. Dont keep your feelings in. "LET IT ALL OUT". Cry>>>Theres no shame in men cryin. "YOUR ONLY HUMAN". I know it dont seem like it now "BUT>>>YOUR GOING TO GET THROUGH THIS". 

I READ THE PAPER A FEW DAYS AGO. THIS GUY WAS ALWAYS IN TROUBLE WITH THE LAW. HE HAD DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON HIM SEVERAL TIMES, CHILD PROTECTION, EXPARTAS AND OTHER CRIMES. HE GOT CHARGED WITH SATUTORY RAPE AND ALL HE GOT WAS 5 YRS. SUPERVISED PROBATION WITH A SPECIAL CONDITION THAT HE ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH TO A POLICE OFFICER. "WELL HOW STUPIED IS THAT"? LIKE THIS GUY IS REALLY GOING TO TELL THEM THE TRUTH. "HE`S A REPEAT CRIMINAL". THIS GUY SHOULD HAVE WENT TO "PRISON". THIS GIRL WILL BE MENTALLY PAYING FOR WHAT HE DID TO HER WAY LONGER THAN HIS 5 YR. PROBATION. "TO THINK HE`S WALKING THE STREETS". ITS NOT RIGHT>>>ITS NOT RIGHT. THE LAWS ON SEX OFFENDERS SHOULD BE TOUGH. I THINK IF THEY SEXUALLY ASSAULT SOMEONE EVEN IF ITS THERE 1ST. OFFENSE THEY SHOULD GO TO "PRISON". BUT I ALSO THINK THAT THE PRISON SHOULD PROVIDE SOME TYPE OF THERAPY FOR THEM. "THERE SICK". 

I GUESS I`LL START FROM THE BEGINNING. I CAN`T REMEMBER HOW YOUNG I WAS WHEN I 1ST. WAS SEXUALLY MOLESTED BUT IT CONTINUED UP UNTIL I WAS ABOUT 16. IT HAPPENED ALOT. MOST OF THE ABUSERS WERE ON MY MOMS SIDE OF THE FAMILY. THERE WERE 4. THEN MY DAD, A GUY FROM SCHOOL AND MY STEPDAD. SO ALL TOGETHER 7. MOM WAS OVERWEIGHT AND VERY ABUSIVE. DAD WAS A SMALL MAN AND SHE USE TO BEAT HIM UP AND TAKE HIS MONEY AND LEAVE US KIDS WITH DAD.  I SPENT THE NIGHT WITH MY MOMS PARENTS AND "LIKE A KID" I GOT SASSY WITH THEM. MY MOM TOOK ME HOME AND MADE ME GET NAKED AND SHE HAD ME LAY ACROSS THE BED AND SHE BEAT ME WITH THE BELT UNTIL I HAD BLEEDING WELPS ALL OVER MY BACK AND LEGS. SHE USE TO SIT ON ME AND HIT ME IN THE FACE WITH A ROLLED UP NEWS PAPER. SHE USE TO TELL ME IF I LIE "ID GET A YELLOW STREAK ON MY BACK AND IF IT WENT ALL THE WAY DOWN MY BACK ID DIE AND BURN IN HELL". MOM CHEATED ON DAD SEVERAL TIMES. WHEN SHE WAS PREGNANT WITH MY BROTHER SHE WENT BEHIND THE HOUSE AND TOOK A ROCK AND TRIED TO BEAT MY BROTHER OUT OF HER. DAD DIED OF CANCER WHEN I WAS 15. I TOOK HIS DEATH HARD. "I STILLED LOVED HIM EVEN AFTER EVERYTHING HE DID TO ME, WHEN I WAS YOUNGER". MOM MARRIED MY STEPDAD 3 MTHS. AFTER MY DADS DEATH. I DIDNT LIKE MY STEPDAD,  DIDNT TRUST HIM AND I FELT LIKE IT WAS TO SOON FOR MOM TO REMARRY. HE HAD A SMALL SUITCASE FULL OF PERSCRIPTION & NONPERSCRPTION MEDICATION. HE USE TO OFFER MOM & US KIDS SOME. I NEVER TOOK ANY. I FEEL MY STEPDAD DRUGGED MY MOM & BROTHER. "THEY BOTH WERE MENTAL". HE WOULD VERBABLLY & PHSCIALLY ABUSE ME. "I HATED MY STEPDAD". HE USE TO TELL ME "FORGET ABOUT YOUR DAD. HES A BAG OF BONES AND MAGGOTS ARE EATING HIM UP". I TOOK A OVERDOSE OF PILLS THAT A GUY FROM SCHOOL GAVE ME. MY SISTER FOUND ME AND I ALMOST DIED. I WAS DATING THIS GUY. WE DRANK BEER, GET DRUNK & DO DRUGS. I RAN AWAY FROM HOME AND WENT TO HIS HOUSE. MOM CALLED THE POLICE AND I WAS IN JAIL FOR 4 HRS. "MY GOD I WAS SO SCARED AND AFRAID I CRIED THE WHOLE TIME". MOM & STEPDAD KNEW HOW SCARED I WAS AND THATS WHEN THINGS STARTED GETTING WORSE. I HAD TO DO ANYTHING THEY ASKED OF ME IF I DIDNT THEY WOULD SAY "WHERE GOING TO CALL THE POLICE". THEN I MEET A FRIEND OF MY BROTHER. MY MOM GAVE HIM A 20.00 AND TOLD HIM BUY HER SOME BEER AND FUN. WHEN WE`D GO OUT ON DATES HE`D NOTICE ID ACT ALITTLE STRANGE AT TIMES. EVERYTIME I SEEN A POLICE CAR I WOULD DIVE INTO FLOOR BOARD OF PASSENGER SIDE AND START CRYIN AND SAY "THEY`VE SENT THE POLICE OUT TO GET ME". SO IT WAS THEN WHEN HE KNEW SOMETHING WAS GOING ON. SO I TOLD HIM EVERYTHING. ONE NIGHT WE WERE LATE GETTIN HOME AND WE WERE WALKIN IN THE DOOR AND MY STEPDAD DIDNT SEE MY BOYFRIEND AND MY STEPDAD WAS GETTIN READY TO HIT ME WITH THE BELT WHEN AND MY BOYFRIEND STEPPED IN FRONT OF ME AND MY STEPDAD PUT THE BELT AWAY. THEY GOT INTO A BIG ARGUEMENT. MY STEPDAD SAID "IM GOING TO CALL THE POLICE AND YOUR GOING BACK TO JAIL". MY BOYFRIEND SAID "GO RIGHT AHEAD. YOU AINT GOING TO CALL THE POLICE, BECAUSE YOUR ABUSING THIS GIRL". STEPDAD WENT TO BED. MY BOYFRIEND SENT ME 12 DOZEN PINK ROSES, BOX OF CHERRY CHOCOLATES, CARD FOR VALENTINES DAY. MY MOM & STEPDAD ATE THE CANDY WHILE I WAS AT SCHOOL. WHEN I CAME HOME THEY GAVE ME THE GIFTS. I WAS UPSET ABOUT THEM EATING THE CANDY. I WOULD HAVE LIKE TO OPEN THE CANDY MYSELF AND I WOULD HAVE SHARED. WE ALL GOT INTO A BIG ARGUEMENT, SO THEY WENT TO THE STORE AND BOUGHT A NEW BOX OF CANDY AND MADE ME EAT THE WHOLE THING. MY STEP DAD HIT ME IN THE SIDE WITH HIS FIST. MY STEPDAD AND I GOT INTO A BIG ARGUEMENT. HE TOLD ME "HE HAD PLANS FOR A FEW OF HIS FRIENDS TO KIDNAP ME AND TAKE ME TO TEXAS". HE SAID "HE WOULD TELL MY FAMILY THAT I RAN AWAY FROM HOME AGAIN, AND THAT THEY WOULD BELIEVE IT BECAUSE I RAN AWAY FROM HOME BEFORE". THANK GOD "THAT NEVER HAPPENED". MOM HAD TO TAKE ME TO THE DR. BECAUSE OF MY SIDE HURTIN & BLEEDING". THE DR. PUT ME IN THE HOSPITAL TO TAKE MY APPENDIX OUT. WHILE ON THE MEDICATION I STARTED "YELLING & SCREAMING. GET HIM OFF OF ME HES HURTING ME ETC.". THE DR. TOOK MY MOM & BOYFRIEND OUT IN THE HALL WAY AND SAID "I DONT WANT HER GOING BACK TO LIVE WITH YOU". MY BOYFRIEND AND & I WERE GOING TO BE GETTIN MARRIED IN A MTH. SO I LIVED WITH HIS PARENTS. "ALTHOUGH WE SLEPT IN DIFFERENT ROOMS". MY KNIGHT IN SHINNING ARMOR>>>"MY HUSBAND". WE WERENT ON SPEAKING TERMS AND DIDNT HAVE MUCH TO DO WITH MY FAMILY. THE ABUSE DIDNT DIDNT STOP THERE. WHEN I WAS 4 MTHS PREGNANT MOM & STEPDAD & SISTER & BROTHER STAGED A KIDNAPPING. THEY ALL WENT AND TORE THE SCREEN OFF MOMS DOOR AND RAN SACKED THE PLACE. MOM DROVE HERSELF OUT OF STATE AND TOOK A ROCK AND HIT HERSELF IN THE HEAD SEVERAL TIMES SO SHE WOULD BLEED, BRUISE AND HAVE A KNOT THEN TIED HERSELF TO A BRIDGE. IN THE MEANTIME THE OTHERS CALLED ME AND TOLD ME MOM WAS KIDNAPPED. I WAS UPSET CRYING ETC. "4 MTHS PREGNANT". SOME PASSER BY STOPPED AND HELPED MOM AND CALLED THE POLICE & AMBULANCE AND TOOK HER TO THE HOSPITAL. THE POLICE QUESTIONED HER SEVERAL TIMES AND EACH TIME SHE TOLD SOMETHING SLIGHTLY DIFFERENT. SO THEY KNEW SHE WAS LYING. MOM WAS SCARED AND FINALLY ADMITTED THAT THIS KIDNAPPING WAS STAGED. THE POLICE WAS GOING TO GET THE FEDERAL POLICE INVOLVED SINCE IT WAS A FEDERAL OFFENSE. I DONT KNOW HOW MY STEPDAD DID IT "BUT HE TALKED THE POLICE OUT OF CALLING THE FEDS". THE POLICE DIDNT PRESS NO CHARGES. THEN WE FINALLY ARRIVED AS THE POLICE WAS LEAVING AND THEY TOLD US WHAT MOM DID. "I WAS PREGNANT. I WAS UPSET & WORRIED AND HAD TO MAKE A LONG TRIP OUT OF STATE". MOM & STEPDAD & SISTER THOUGHT THEY WOULD GET MY BROTHER TO GET A DIVORCE. THEY ACTUALLY GOT MY BROTHERS WIFE TO DATE MY STEPDAD ON THE SIDE. NOT ONLY DID MY BROTHER & HIS WIFE GOT A DIVORCE, BUT SO DID MY MOM & STEPDAD. MY STEPDAD LEFT MY MOM FOR BY BROTHERS EXWIFE. MY MOM WAS DATING THIS GUY. MY MOMS BOYFRIEND, MOM AND HER SISTER HAD A SEXUAL 3 SOME. MY MOMS BOYFRIEND LEFT HER FOR HER SISTER. I HATED MY STEPDAD. I JUST HATED HIM. HE GOT CANCER. IM VERY SORRY TO HAVE TO SAY THIS "BUT I WAS GLAD THAT HE CANCER". THEN HE DIED. "I WAS GLAD THAT HE DIED". I TOLD MY MOM, SISTER, BROTHER THAT OUR EXSTEPDAD DIDNT DESEARVE TO BE BURIED. HE NEEDED TO BE PUT ON A TRASH PILE AND LET THE BUZZARDS GET HIM. THEY ALL WENT TO HIS FUNERAL "I DIDNT". I ALSO DIDNT UNDERSTAND WHY THEY WENT. FOR YRS. I HAD SUCH HATERED TOWARDS MY STEPDAD. I BLAMED HIM FOR THE BREAK UP OF MY FAMILY. WELL AFTER ALOT YRS. PASSED "I FINALLY FORGAVE HIM". MY SISTER & MOM HAVE A ROCKY RELATIONSHIP. WE HAD TO PUT MOM IN A NURSING HOME CAUSE SHES GOT ALSHEIMER & SCISOFERNIA. ITS HARD. I GOT ALOT OF QUESTIONS FOR MOM. MY BROTHER ALSO HAS SCISOFERENIA. IM SCARED TO BE AROUND HIM AT TIMES. HE HASNT TAKEN HIS MEDS FOR YRS. AND YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN HES GOING TO GO OFF. HE ASKED ME THE QUESTION "HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT BROTHERS & SISTERS HAVING SEX TOGETHER". I TOLD HIM "ITS WRONG". MY SISTER AND I DONT SEE TO MUCH OF EACH OTHER ALTHOUGH WERE TRYIN TO WORK THINGS OUT. WE EMAIL EACH OTHER. EVERYONE TOLD US MY HUSBAND AND I WE WOULDNT MAKE IT 6 MTHS WE`VE MADE IT "28 1/2 YRS". WHAT A BLESSING TO HAVE SUCH A WONDERFUL HUSBAND. HE HAS STUCK BY ME THROUGH THE HARDS AND GOOD TIMES. HES BEEN A GOOD PROVIDER, HUSBAND, FATHER, GRANDFATHER, HES HONEST AND LOVES HIS FAMILY AND VERY DEVOTED. FOR ALL WHO HAVE BEEN PHYSCIALLY , MENTALLY AND SEXUALLY ABUSED IN ANY WAY. THERES HOPE FOR EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU. HANG IN THERE AND TAKE CARE.   

Many of us are grateful to "DR. PHIL & OPRAH", for doin shows like this. I`d also like to let everyone know that "MONTEL" did a show today and interviewed the abusers. The 2nd part of his show is tomorrow, in case you all would like to tune in "CHECK YOUR LOCAL LISTINGS".