Quote From: amytuoriI want to say I am sorry for what I said in a earlier post. I was upset with my MIL at the time. She adopted my husband and his sister when he was three. Whenever we ( my husband and I ) make a decision she doesn't like or they argue she always throughs it in his face. She has said things like I didn't have to take you or I wish I would have picked a better kid out. When adoption is done for by loving ppl it is a beuatiful thing. Again, I want to apologise.
I have a hard time understanding people that throw being adopted in someone's face. I can't stand when people say, "I am adopted." I wish they would say, "I was adopted." Adoption is the way a child comes into a family. To me it makes no difference if a baby was placed in a family by natural birth or adoption, it is just the way they found their family. Adoption can be a beautiful thing. I know many a biological children that have rebelled against their parents and gone off the depend, but for some reason when a child rebels that was adopted, everyone says, "Well, you know, he was adopted." Give me a break! It has nothing to do with it. I know many friends and children that had been adopted that do not have the desire to meet their birthparents because they feel they already have parents. Did you know that only 10% of children that had been adopted want to meet their birthparents? We only see the stories on TV because they are different than the norm. Anyway, my point is that we have two girls, one by natural birth and the other through adoption. I know that people that have not gone through it themselves have a hard time understanding, but there is absolutely no difference in our minds between the two. They just came into our family two different ways. There spirits were meant to be in our home. We are so blessed to have them apart of our lives. I could never pick one over the other and it drives me crazy when there is a difference in other people's minds between the two. The adoption process, in my experience, has been nothing but a wonderful miracle.
