Messages By: jeanniej70

This is my first post.  I hope I do everything OK. 

I put friend in quotes because I can't really say this person is a friend, yet, or if we can really be friends.  I sure could use some advice, because I am feeling pretty crummy about this. 

I felt like this lady was Heaven sent, when I met her about 3 months ago.  I had just lost my neighbor, who always cared for my animals and plants when I travel.  This new lady lives very near me, is a retired veterinary assistant, and when I met her I thought "wonderful" - she's a nice lady, I can't have too many friends and maybe I could get her to watch my animals, when I travel.   

I asked her right out, within an hour of meeting her, if she would be interested in caring for my animals, and told her I would pay her and what I had always paid my neighbor.  She agreed, and said she'd be happy to do it anytime.  I wish I had left it at that, but instead, I tried to cultivate a friendship with her, and it is not working out.  Not for me, anyway. 

We have next to nothing in common, but that isn't the biggest problem.  The biggest problem is our  lifestyles conflict.  She stays up nearly all night, and sleeps until at least noon (usually later) - I am an early riser and by the time she gets up for the day, I am down for my daily nap/rest.  When I get up from my rest/nap, I do any chores, that I have left undone, fix my dinner and then get on my computer (I have a volunteer job, online, which admittedly takes up too much of my time, but I love it).  I am on the computer, unless I have a social engagement, until it's time for me to go to bed. 

I guess what it all boils down to, is I have no time to be friends with her.  I put forth the effort before I knew about her habits, and we have had a few awkward moments, like when I woke her at 9:00 am, and she woke me from my nap a couple times (not a good idea lol) and by the time we learned of each other's lifestyles, I felt like if I didn't try to continue with the friendship, she would think, and I would feel like, I was just using her to care for my animals.  Plus she IS a very nice lady. I'd hate to hurt her, but I really resent it when she calls and wants to come over to visit, or just wants to yap on the phone for a while, when all I want to do is work on my computer.   When she comes over and interrupts my compter time, it means I am up until all hours, trying to catch up with the work I didn't get done because we were visiting. 

What in the world am I going to do?  I have one animal that is diabetic and needs injections twice a day.  There are any number of people who would be happy to see that they are fed and cared for, but finding someone willing and capable of giving shots is not all that easy.  I'm afraid if I start blowing her off, she will no longer be willing to care for my animals and I travel quite a bit.  All of my children live away and I go to visit at least one of them, every month and am gone for 4 - 6 days.  Boarding my pets is cost prohibitive, not to mention a hassle. and very traumatic for them. 

Any suggestions?  

  NOT WHAT I THINK BUT WHAT I KNOW= 

NO BREAST IMPLANT IS SAFE! 

I KNOW THIS ALL TO WELL AND SO DO 

LITERALLY HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OF WOMEN LIKE ME;WHO WERE ROBBED OF OUR PRECIOUS;PRICELESS HEALTH;LIVES! 

DEATHLY ILL FROM SILICONE POISONING;SILICONE ASSOCIATED DISEASES! 

ALL FROM BREAST IMPLANTS! 

WE ARE PROOF OF THE UGLY TRUTH! 

NOW THAT YOU KNOW THE TRUTH IN LOVE 

THE QUESTION IS WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO? 

YOUR CHOICE COMES DOWN TO THIS 

I'LL PUT IT IN THE QUESTING YOU PRESENTED 

WHICH WAS (WHAT DO YOU THINK)? 

BREAST IMPLANTS;A COUPLE OF NICE LOOKING BREASTS 

OR YOUR PRECIOUS PRICELESS HEALTH/LIFE? 

SO,WHAT DO YOU THINK? 

THE ANSWER WILL BE EITHER THE EASIEST BEST DESCION YOU'VE MADE IN YOUR HEALTH/LIFE! 

OR THE ANSWER WILL BE THE MOST DIFFICULT WORST DESCION YOU'VE EVER MADE  

WHICH COST YOU YOUR HEALTH/LIFE. 

HEALTH AND MUCH  HAPPINESS OR  LOSS OF HEALTH AND MUCH REGRET 

 I  WOULD HATE TO HAVE TO SAY iI TOLD YOU SO, 

REMEBER I TOLD YOU NOT JUST WHAT I THINK,BUT WHAT I KNOW. 

IN TRUTH AND LOVE 

CINDY;DEATHLY ILL FROM SILICONE POISONING;SILICONE ASSOCIATED DISEASES 

FROM BREAST IMPLANTS! 

ALSO A CHRISTIAN,I LOVE GOD;LORD JESUS;MORE THAN ANYTHING OR ONE! 

 ALSO  A SINGLE MOTHER/MOMMY OF 3 BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS; 

MY BELOVED GIRLS I LOVE MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF! 

(  ironically i used to have my own personal business in home health care;helping,loving,serving others;;i'm sicker than all my patients combined! God is good,see i still get to help,love,serve others much like i used to,but also in a whole new way! as i refuse to live or die from this silicone madness ;silicone sadness all in vain! ) 

I USED TO BE SUPER WOMAN; AND SUPER MOTHER AND MOMMY 

I STILL AM A SUPER WOMAN AND A SUPER MOTHER AND MOMMY, 

just in a whole new way, 

Praise and Glory be to God not I. 

LOVE,CINDY 

Ok, I need help with this one. My friends have given me advice, i've looked up advice on the internet and I just can't figure this out. I've been going to school with this one guy for 3 months now and i've had the biggest crush on him for a bit - about a month. I can't tell if he likes me or not, but he walks with me to my car everyday, asks if I'm going and some days even waits until I'm ready to go even though he could just leave. My classmates and I went out one night and he seemed to make his way to me for the majority of the night. If I shifted he shifted too. Maybe this is just my preception of things. Anyway, i finally got the nerve up to ask him out and we went out for lunch. It was great! He offered to pick me up, pay for lunch and then even said that if he wasn't going out of town we could have hung out for the rest of the afternoon. We stayed for about another 45 minutes after our plates were taken. He dropped me off and said that we should do it again sometime. Today at school it was as though nothing happened. We were buddy buddy again. I thought we had a great time and I was hoping he'd ask me out, but there were a lot of other people around. Was he just nervous? Should I except him to ask next time we're alone or should I ask him again? Or should I drop it? 

Please help!