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Messages By: joy1107
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November 10, 2005, 3:37 pm PST
 Quote From: beirne I found out 6 months ago that my husband had been cheating on me. We are married over 30 years. He became friendly with a woman and after a long time they began an affair which has lasted over 3 years. He ended it when I found out, and since then he has done everything to make amends. However there are so many questions that I have, and he is getting very tired of answering them, he says it is time to move on. I just do not believe that he has told me the whole truth and while I do not think he is seeing her at the moment , i think in time they may meet and it will start all over We live so near to each other. I keep wanting to go and ask her her side of the story and then I stop myself. What do others think, should I go and ask her or should I leave it. I am so upset and I feel so betrayed by my husband and I want to move on and forgive but I am stuck. I can think of nothing else but his betrayal of me and my family. H e swears it is all over but how do I know. What experiences do other wives have about talking to the "Other Woman" -----You know what, until you know EVERYTHING about what went on and how everything happen from the beginning with your husband and that woman, you will never have a peaceful night of sleep! My partner cheated on me for 3 months and he end it before i found out and just 5 days later after he end it, i found out!! he didn't tell me everything and like your husband he was getting tired of answering my questions, so i let it go but everyday, every single second of the day all i can think about was 'what happened?' , 'how did it happened?' it killed me to think about stuff like that and finally 4 months later i called her and confronted her and she told me everything and even sent me e-mails that he sent her!!! Now i know everything and you know what i still think about it but it's not that bad and i think that knowing what happened from her point of view helped a lot. so yes i think you should go and get her side of the story and make her tell you what happened and how it happened, but don't be confrontational with her just let her know that you have some questions that needs to be answered! Believe me it will kill you slowly and you will regret it if you never go and find out what happened and what that woman has to say. Good luck to you!!! |
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