Messages By: spiritwolf

I was truly touched by this story and it brought tears to my eyes.  To have a second chance at life is something so many do not get.  I am a spiritual person but not through the views of Christianity, and I do not believe in miracles..or do I?  Miracles are nothing short of Magick, for through magick (I use a K to differentiate between stage Magic) as we Wiccas practice, it is also a sending out of prayers and lighting candles for those in need to aid in healing, to aid in spiritual comfort, similar to those who light candles in a church, or kneel down and pray to their God.  So, there are minute differences.   

I also believe there are no coincidences in life.  That things do happen for a reason, even death.  But, for this couple, as you have said Dr. Phil, "...kissing through and oxygen tube..." now that's love... 

I pray for their lifelong happiness for who could better understand each other than those who have gone through the same fears, anxieties, and life regenerating experience. 

I missed the show, but I do try to read about them when I have the opportunity...I am glad I came here this morning. 

Brightest Blessings 

Elizabeth 

I, as well, suffered being in too many relationships that were not only emotionally abusing, but physically and spiritually as well.  I know once we are in these relationships it seems like we will never be free of the torment, the fear, the anguish and depair, yet there are ways out.  For me, it was extremely difficult because I refused to bring my family in to any of it..I decided to leave of my own accord and did suffer at the hands of my first husband.  Being an active alcoholic and drug addict during those times did not make matters any easier...yet, growing up in a dysfunctional family where dad was an alcoholic was even more difficult...what I thought was normal was actually so very wrong on all levels..but it was the only life I knew and I thought it was.  After getting clean and sober (over fifteen years now) and many years of therapy, I was able to discover that there is so much to life and that to allow others to suppress our living, our being is so not right.  Many people who do this to others are on a power trip or have some sort of mental disorder themselves and have even at times grown up in dysfunctional families as well.  It is no excuse for treating someone you supposedly love the way they do.  I totally understand your fears, your hesitations, and your doubts about yourself.  But don't you feel just wonderful now!!!  To know that you can be who you were truly  meant to be..to be who you want to be...to have freedom!!!!  What an awesome feeling this must be for you and I applaud you for having the courage to get out.  It is not an easy thing, frightening to say the least because change causes fear in most.  But, it was for the best and it will only get better from here. 

Many Blessing to you and Dr. Phil and his wife as well..... 

Be well, Be safe, Be Happy 

Elizabeth 

I have tried quitting four times in the past two years to no avail.  I even spoke with the Pulmonary specialist and explained to him that it seemed so much easier to give up the drinking and the drugging than it is to quit smoking.  He agreed and just told me to keep trying.  I do not have a problem with my lungs so to speak.  I have cold nodules and we have to keep an eye on them for the next two years to make sure there are no changes in size or quantity.  If there are no changes after two years then I can just forget about them.  They are basically benign...basically?  Hmmmm  Anyway, I suffer with bronchitis at least twice a year, my eustachian tube is always blocking up on me even when I do not have a cold or sinus infection, or bronchitis, but I know that if I could only quit these things would get better.  I am going to try accupuncture through the same office where I receive my Reiki treatments and see if that works, if that doesn't work, I will have to seek out something else.  I have had friends get hypnosis, yet they had to continue with the hypnosis every now and again to keep it working. 

So often now when I am smoking a cigarette I realize how much I am not enjoying it but am having just the hardest time. 

I do not know what else to do.  I joked about it one day to my SO and said, they have rehabs for alcohol and drugs, why not have a rehab for smokers who want to quit?  I wish they did.  I know that if I could get past one month I would be okay, but I can't even make it past two or three days. 

I will check this message board more frequently to see if I can discover how so many others have quit successfully.  I need help 

Elizabeth 

Although in my previous post I had described a difference between miracles and magick, there is little difference. For those of us on a spiritual path it is about the healing vibrations that are accepted through a universal divine.  I do not believe in God per say, but many goddesses and gods.  Yet, I pray and light candles for those in need of help, whether it be physical, emotional, or even spiritually.  This is the same thing as going into the church and lighting a candle and kneeling down to pray.  I seek assistance from the universal order of things.  We all have that power of healing within us, we just need to tap into it.  As children we are stiffled and all those things that we are told were only imagination could have in fact been quite real.  We are then instilled with what adults believe to be normal and our abilities to truly dream and believe in the unordinary are squashed.  I believe that Dr. Phil has offered so many people so much help.  There are never any right or true answers and it is up to each individual to decided.  Do they want to get well?  Do they want to stop the abusive patterns in their lives?  Do they want the help to begin with?  And if not, why would they be on the show to begin with.  People have choices and Dr. Phil presents them with ideas and ways out of various situations and offers his help.  It is up to the participate as to whether or not they will accept the hand of  healing, so to speak.  I do not believe he gives false hope, for we all look for hope in times of darkness.  We all look for that beacon of light that perhaps things will get better.  He does not tell them that truly, in deed, in fact, this is the 'CURE', but gives them the opportunity to try something different that may  help.  If we do not seek out the answers we may never know if we could have done anything to change our circumstances or situations.  Dr. Phil offers those opportunities if not for anything else but the "hopes" that it will work.  So many people are not given the chances that these people have had.... 

BRAVO Dr. Phil....YOU ROCK!!! 

Been there, done that!!!  Shamica and Marlon truly did not give the relationship enough time to bloom, to develope, especially developing that friendship.  Trust me.  My first marriage was one month after we met each other.  I was in college and met this guy who worked in the cafeteria and knew my friends.  We partied hardy together and then one month later we were getting married.  That same night I was beaten into a corner and accused of stealing money out of the cards because we should have had more than there was.  We got married by the Justice out in my parents back yard.  I wanted out that night!  What have I done??? I asked myself.  I spent the next eight years in a physically abusive marriage, expected to be submissive to his every want and need and the heck with mine. I wound up getting extremely sick because he would not allow me to go to the doctor's because we couldn't afford it, yet he took darn good care of himself.   

Although Marlona nd Shamica say they love each other..do they truly know what love is?  They did not have that get to know you period, the fun, the laughter, venturing into new realms of activities and traveling together.  Getting to know each others good habits as well as bad, and the list goes on.  I feel that because of children, couples stay together that shouldn't.  I do hope that they are both serious about wanting to be together and truly loving each other "unconditionally".  This is a hard one to call, I must admit.  I can only hope that they make it and even if they don't, maybe they can begin to "date" each other and begin again the right way.  It is important that each maintain their individual interests and goals but offer support and guidance for each other along the way for that is also how a relationship grows.  To include each other in their endeavors.  Not a day goes by I do not let my Significant Other know how much I appreciate him and am grateful that he is a part of my life and he does the same.  There is no fighting, no bickering, just love, support, compassion and much love. 

Best wishes 

Elizabeth