Messages By: cmckinney4

May not have been in any real danger?  THEY WERE TAKEN FROM THEIR MOTHER AND FROM THE ONLY LIFE THAT THEY HAVE EVER KNOWN!  What kind of lies did he tell them?  That mom does not love them or even worse, that she is dead or going to hell because she does not believe the way we do now?  The man is a kidnapper hiding behind a religious group.  He deserves to be put away along with anyone who is harboring him or hindering the mother from seeing her children.   

When a person goes into treatment for anything from Alcohol, Drugs, Gambling etc-one of the biggest issues is "what about my friends?"  You need to have a united front with your family to continue the treatment after leaving the facility-going to meetings, random drug tests, one on one counseling for the addict and the family members.  It is very hard because the addict cannot see that the "friend" was actually part of the problem by enabling-whether it be by supplying, or denying to the parent/guardian of the addict.  Here is an example that I have seen:

The parent/family of the addict contacts the other parent/family of the friends.  Tell them that the child is being treated for the addiction-go into details-pot, OTC meds, etc-give dates and places where child was getting the items.  Explain that until further notice, you do not want their child to contact the addict. No email, phone calls, pages, text messages, letters, contact through other friends etc.  Explain that under no circumstances will any of those things be allowed to take place.  Also, be prepared to get a temporary restraining order.  This can and has been done.  (Check with the laws in your town/state/provience) .   Most parents will have no problem with your requests, but  Be ready for the whole "not my kid, my kid would never do that, you are pushing your problems on my child etc".  Turn to the support network through the treatment facility/support group-ALANON, AA, etc .  There are plenty of other parents that have gone through this and are more than happy to support you in protecting your child.   If you have to, as I have seen send a certified letter in the mail to the childs parents, explaining what has gone on if it is too hard to face them.  I have seen parents who have taken the friends to funeral homes and asked them to pick out what they wanted their friend to be buried in and if they want matching caskets because that is where their child is headed if they do not get treatment. 

Unless that child and their parent/guardian is prepared to go to the meetings and abide by your rules, then they have no business in your childs life.  Have a unitied  front with your family to protect the child. 

If this show does anything today, it shows that no matter how "gorgeous, hot what ever " that someone thinks they are, the true nastiness shows its self every time.   Dyson is a little boy in a mans body.  The cheating, thinking that she needs to accept that he "likes the hunt", little boy playing a man's game.  Wonder what the reception was when he got back to their hometown?  Wonder how it felt to explain to his family-parents etc-his true self.  I hope that his wife runs, not walks, but runs to an attorney and gets counseling for her self esteem.   

I agree with you that the ball is dropped and that is what you hear about-you never hear about the children that are rescued and taken care of, you never hear about the parents who get their @#$% together.  I feel that too many times, people get into a "well, screw it" mentalaty and do not report because of a "bad incident" or the fact that "someone was not taken care of".  There has to be other resources out there. 

The one hope that I have is that no matter what, the children are taken care of.  I am an abuse survivor and I would never ever wish anyone the pain and agony that I went through.  For all who are advocating for the children and for all of the survivors, my prayers are going out to you.