Quote From: windy66first of all i would insist that he tell you WHY he doesn't want to get married. is he afraid it will lead to having kids right away? i'm sure you've discussed that with him so that may not be the issue. what is the problem with 'sealing the deal' since you've been living together for 5 years already?
Perhaps you should insist on going to couples counseling so you can get some answers. maybe you could meet in the middle and come to some kind of agreement where you will both get what you want...he might be able to discuss his fears with a therapist. what you are feeling is normal and i don't think you are being unreasonable at all.
before you invest any more years in this relationship i think you should get to the bottom of things and find out why he is so scared to make your relationship 'official'. i don't think giving him an ultimatum will work though. he may shut down even more from that. good luck.
dr. phil is right. I had the same thing happen to me , the man I was with didn't think we should get married and I felt we should and he could not give an answer as to why?, by the time he got around to give it I got pregnant. and then it became a question of when now, but by that time I didn't want to anymore, and I eventualy Had a miscarriage. but that goes to show you how things can change with time.
