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November 14, 2005, 3:34 pm PST

Friendship

This is my little story and I am posting it here for anyone else who has the same problem and needs encouragement.  

  

I was best friends for a girl for nearly eight years. We did everything together. People even called us 'twins' because we were together so much. She had many problems such as borderline anorexia and depression. She was on the verge of suicide. I did my best to help her and I even invited her to church with me. She would have none of it. She had very low self-esteem and always tried to bring me down by insulting me or any other means. It got to the point though, where I would start to become depressed. I started thinking like her. Suicidal thoughts began to enter my head. It took me a long time to realize that, 'Hey, I can't save the world and I am only hurting myself by staying friends with her.' It's hard to end a friendship like that and I still think about her a lot, but be careful that you don't let them start to suck you down. Sometimes it's better to just let go of the friendship. 

 
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November 14, 2005, 3:53 pm PST

Looking for help

This seemed like the best message board to come to for help. I'm 19 and I am going to college. Most of my life I hid in a corner and remained quiet. Now it's gotten to the point where I'm sick of being the passive-aggressive 'shy-girl'. How do I change this?
 
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November 15, 2005, 1:35 pm PST

Defining Your Authentic Self

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However, I bombed out when I tried to answer that same question for Feng. All I can say is it's a mind-set that is tough to get out of. Mine was an interpretation by others from what they saw, it was not the real me. However, when I accepted the judgement of others, it became the way I described myself for years, so therefore, I became shy. Sounds complicated doesn't it? Sometimes we make things complicated for ourselves. I used SELF MATTERS to find the real me under all of the labels and faulty self talk, maybe it could help you too?
I'll try it. Thanks!
 
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November 22, 2005, 3:57 am PST

Homosexuality

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let me get this straight: you & that other chick that replied here think that because my mind is so focused on being straight & obeying God i'm really trying to hide my-self cuz im gay???...no...that's not it at all...that just doesn't make any sence to me...so does that mean that since ur so focused on being gay ur really straight???..ok i have no clue why u guys even brought it up cuz it doesnt make any since what-so-everGod doesn't hate people, he loves all the people that believe in him & if ur gay yes thats against his word, but i can't tell u if ur goin to Heaven or hell cuz thats his choicemy opinion is that ur closer to hell cuz ur doing the same sin over and over again...its just like if u kill sumone once then keep repenting & stuff & become a better christian u'll go to Heaven...or u keep killing ppl ur gunna go to hellGod says that if u keep doing the same sin over and over again u'll end up going to hellyes, i know every 1 has feelings & stuff, but what have i said so far that is cruel towards them??...all i said was "ewwwwww"then u guys accused me of being gayi dont hate gay ppl...i just think their decision is wrong but if they talk to me(as long as they dont hit on me)im ok with it & i'll talk & have a conversation with them but that still doesnt change what i believei am not full of disdain...im just speaking up for what God wants for every 1 & i can tell u right now..hes gosh dang proud of me& i dont care what any of u guys say right now im not changing my mind cuz a lot of ppl i know & especially the # 1 person God think that its totally wrong& im not scared of gay people if thats what u were saying

Look, Christianity is supposed to be about love and caring. Telling people that they are going to hell or that God does not love them is not the way to get them to change. I don't support being gay either, but that is their decision, not mine. That's between God and them to settle, but don't go around saying that God does not love them and crap like that. 

 
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June 12, 2006, 6:34 pm PDT

Hello

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At least you have family. I don't even have that. I have to live a lie with my family. I can't be myself. Therefor I don't even exsist.  My bio mother didn't even want me. Got rid of me right off the bat. Last night I just cried and cried. Tonight I can't cry, I am too depressed to cry. It really gets you no where.  on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being very happy I am at a 1.  I just don't want to live. Why should I ? I mean nothing to no body.  NO body has benifitted from me being alive. Not even me. I have given myself such pain for letting myself put up with this world for so long and fooling myself listening to others saying things will get better. They do not.  Some people were made to be popular in this world, but I am a reject and that I will always be. There is no dispute about that. I know...I have lived this life for 44 yrs. 

Liz 

You need to remember something. It doesn't matter what others say or do. You are worth something.  No one can take that away from you.
 
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June 26, 2006, 1:13 pm PDT

Depression

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But you have to be given it in the first place and I was not. I was born stupid, ugly and not wanted. And have been this way all my life.  I am sorry if I don't want to live. I mean nothing to nobody. Not one person has benifitted from me being alive. Not even my pleasure. I am full of disgust at myself.  I am garbage.  I am sorry for going on and on. I am making the point that I understand what people have been telling me all these years. And what I have experienced all these years. I am giving up. I am sick of it. Why should I live in this? I am worthless. I would rather not live than live and be tormented all my life. 

Liz 

If you don't believe in God you can ignore this, but I believe we were all created for a reason whether we see it or not. If we weren't worth something he wouldn't have died on the cross for all of us. It's so easy to get caught up in the bad things in life that we forget the good that we have done or that has been done for us. It doesn't have to be some dramatic thing like saving a baby or something, but maybe volunteering and helping a homeless person.

Try this: help someone else, chat with a stranger in line... it'll make you feel better to see another person smile because you talked with them. Little things like that...
 
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June 26, 2006, 5:02 pm PDT

Depression

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"1 cross plus 3 nails ='s 4 given"

PEEKABOO
Prayed by Sea

I see you
And this poet
Just prayed for you



That's pretty neat. I've never heard that before. 
 
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August 14, 2007, 4:45 pm PDT

Girls addicted to porn

How do you help women who are addicted to pornography? That is... the women who haven't been sexually abused, or virgins who are simply trying to validate themselves?
 
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October 8, 2007, 7:31 am PDT

Pornography

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why do you need to help them, why do you ask?  What makes you think they need help?
She has told me that she has never had sex before and the fact that she is relying on pornography, I'm assuming to achieve that intimacy, is a problem.  I don't think she has ever been in a serious relationship either.
 
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November 11, 2007, 11:34 am PST

Controlling Parents

How do you deal with controlling parents? I made the realization that I make many decisions based upon my father's approval. When I wanted to drive to the city, he told me to 'haul ass and that he would not be there if I got into trouble'. On another occassion he slept on the sofa, instead of talking with my mother, because he felt that she worked to hard. He called it 'leaning on her' in order to get his way. She went to the store for Halloween, out of her way, and bought him candy. The first thing he did was complain because it was not the candy that he wanted. He goes from exteme controlling to giving up completely. I don't know what to do about it.
 

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