Messages By: themommie

I'm sorry but my first instinct reading this screams someone trying or currently in a relationship with the husband.  Who are you, a mistress perhaps? 

Three pages of comments already and the show has not even aired.  Here is the breakdown for you. 

Non-Pageant people 

1) You base your decisions on what pageants are like on the 10% of the pageant population that you see on TV. 

2) The 10% that normaly are on the shows are mothers and daughters that are extremly involved in pageants or made to look as if they only have focus on pageants. 

3) You see these pictures of little girls that have been photoshoped into little adults and think that is "creepy" 

4) You think that a pedifile is going to be lurking around every pageant waiting to ponce on little girls 

5) You believe that looks should not be something that children are judged on. 

Pageant people 

1) You feel that it is the same as a sport or other competition due to the "equipment", practice and professionalism needed to win and be a "name" 

2) You feel backed into a courner because of the negitive views of society about the activity of pageants 

3) You feel like it is not a fair representtation of what your children do because all that is ever shown on TV is the pageant part of the families life the pictures and videos of the child playing soccer, going to visit nursing homes going to school and doing thier personal best in the other aspects of thier lives are never seen. 

4) You think people that attack pageants are hypocritical because they are the same people sitting on the side lines at Little league screaming thier heads off at thier kids to make the goal or hit the ball. 

So that about cover it? 

I'm boy pageant mom, I'm also a soccer mom, a T-ball mom, a swimming class mom, a stage mom, a cuddle bugs mom, a homework time mom, a disabled veteran mom, a working mom, a theme park addict mom, a buys to many toys mom, A drop off at the bus stop mom, a dance class mom, a childrens theather mom, a volenteer service mom and so many other things but always a MOM. 

There are things that we do so much more in our lives than pageants or acting auditions BUT those will not be shown.  I don't like the negitive side of pageantry but when my son earns the right to go to a pageant or asks to give up a birthday present I was going to get him so he can have his birthday party at a pageant then I give in SOMETIMES. 

I don't do the make-up, hair, flippers or tans my Mom makes the clothes and I always make sure that I have tons of fees off so it is not something that is done without it being affordable.   The pictures from pageants and modeling and acting jobs are in the EXTRACURRICULAR scrapbook right along with soccer, t-ball and swimming .   

The interaction on this board is a lot of what I am in this between a rock and a hard place because of.  My child asked to do a pageant I ALLOWED it not forced not pushed ALLOWED him to do it .  My child didn't ask to do modeling and acting when he started he was 11 months old but he did show interest and enjoyed being photographed and apperently was learning what the other side of the camera does as well because when he got his first camera at 3 he was posing his friends and doing the "photgrapher stance" it was hillarious!  My child and I do talk now about modeling and acting jobs and I constantly tell him to tell me when he doesn't want to do something and he has and he didn't do it.  He also has NOT BEEN ALLOWED to do castings or bookings because of bad behavior or not finishing his work in school. 

I think the main thing is we all love our children non-pageant people and pageant people and we want them to be and do and learn and grow to thier full potential.  Some kids like the feeling they get getting on a stage or just standing the the middle of a group and being the one that is making people smile, laugh or just emote something.  These are kids that starve a part of their self if they don't get the opportunities to fill that desire and passion. 

Sports parents I am one of you too kid hated t-ball too much standing arond waiting his turn, loves soccer but I have more video of him danceing in the goal box and running after girls on the other team trying to give a high five than I do of him trying to actually play.  Kids like diffrent things and just because you don't get the excess that sometimes is a part of the extracurricular activity of pageants non-sports parents don't get spending $180 on sports equipment for a child that is going to play for 8 weeks. 

I am also a talks to dang much Mom ;-) 

If anyone is changing thier mind it would be me.  The reason I went on the show is because I hate the back biteing and nastyness that rips apart my heart and soul of the 10% that are just hateful and mean.  But on the other side I have puppydog eyes asking to get to go be on the stage. 

He did his last pageant the weekend after the taping because I had promised in Aug if he left me alone about pageants till then he could do this one in our hometown. 

Honestly the comments for the most part made by non-pageant people are heartfelt and have a purpose based on what they have seen.  The pageant boards and some of the attitudes make it such a toxic environment for me as a parent.  I have done well covering my hurt and anger at things that have been said about my son from him but have busted out several "Pageants Suck".  It just really is not something I can allow him to do anymore as I am fearful that it will become toxic to him as well.  Right now we leave, for him, on a good note he got to do a pageant he wanted to do and I explained that it was his last.  He pouted and what not but it had to be my decision that it was nice for him for the 1 1/2 years he did them but it is time to start soccer again so we really don't have time anyway.   

Thanks for the tea it beats the heck out of the vinagar I have gotten from some. 

Hugs 

H&H 

I'm sorry your son had a bad experiance but at least you tried it and do not make your opions based just on the media. 

And I'm sure your son is a real cutie Patootie :-) 

Have a great day 

I think the problem for me was that you try to be yourself and be supportive of everyone and live that It is Fun thing and inside you feel like you have a million knives ripping you apart cause you know that tommorrow someone is going to be saying horrid horrible things about the kids. 

I just know that if I allowed him to continue he might see the ugly side and I don't want that for him. 

You did good. 

I am kinda laughing here cause you know how editing and all goes the one thing I keep laughing about seeing in my head happening is I said my son is a talented dancer and then they taped when my son was doing the wild run and fall down and jump around thing he likes to do to "Make Um Laugh"  It would look pretty goofy but he was having fun and that is what matters ;-) 

Yes there are wonderful things that happen for the kids in pagentry and hopefully people are seeing that from the open disscussion here.   

For me there was the seeing my child enjoy himself  GREAT part but then the pain and hurt I had to hide from him.   

So like everything there is good and bad It was good for us for a while cause the joy my son was getting from it was outweighing my pain.  Now for US it is not the right thing but in no way does that mean it is wrong for everyone and I just wish the toxic people would be gone so those of you doing it for the right reason and laughing and loving it would be emotionaly safer and less critizied. 

Continued luck and health to your children and your family 

I thank you for your compliment about my son I think he is pretty charming and adorible myself :-) 

The thing that confuses me is the comment about my "disturbed visionfor him".  If you will read back through my posts you will see that I have allowed pageants until the last one he did because his enjoyment of being on the stage was outweighing my dislike and angst over the toxicness of things that I was experianceing. 

He actually has taken his crown to school for his NAG the vote Campaign he did the week before the presidental elections he also visited the Veteran's nursing home, 3 other nursing homes in the area, the City's Halloween celebration and helped out at Wal-mart's Haunted house giving out stickers to kids that promised to "Nag The Vote". 

When he took his crown to school the number of boys that wanted to try it on and have thier pictures taken with it was equal to the number of girls BUT that is because at the age they are now kids do not judge eachother based on gender biases the way adults do. 

No he will not being doing anymore pageants and not because I am givign into some archic gender bias it is because I feel the people that are toxic and mean spirted are too much a negitive to continue as it may be heard or experessed to him one day. 

He quit ballet becuse he had advanced to a level that required far more seriouseness to his classes than he wanted to give but he still continues to dance to musicals on TV and music playing anywhere he is just one of those kids that likes to dance for the joy of dance. 

He also fly's his Ohpa's Piper Cherokee Warrior, plays soccer, T-ball (which he is good at but finds boring right now with the whole standing around waiting his turn thing), he loves doing science experiments and at the time of the tapeing we had to make sure not to film in the area where several of our science experiments were still laying outon the floor.  He is the youngest member of our local art league and has won awards for his art to include being now at the state level of the National PTA's Reflections contest for his photographs of the Moon. 

He has been modeling and acting for quite a while but I would not say that he is going to be or is a Star in that sense he has done some work and he has a pretty good booking rate.  For someone to thingk thier kid is going to be a star other than in thier eyes does not know or understand the true nature of the acting and modeling world.  He has not booked jobs where the casting director told me after the audition how "professional" he was because as Dr. Phil has stated before child actors and models are window dressing they book jobs based most times on what the parents look like or the age range, hair color or ethnicity of the part.  That is something that sets kids up for failure in this industry the precieved notion that they can make it big or whatever just cause they are cute and have a great personality.  My son knows that if he wants to do an audition all he can do is do his personal best and enjoy himself book the job or not.   

If I had the ignorance to put on my child the pressure to become something you are so correct that that would be deluded.  Right now in this moment he is going to grow up to be a (take a deep breath ;-) a FiremanAstronaughtAnimalDoctorHelecopterAndPlanePilotRockStarDancerTeacher and two or three things that come in and out of the mix :-)  My only goal for my son is that he grows up experimenting, learning, growing and experiancing as many things as I can allow him to experiance that he wants to try. 

Have a nice day :-) 

Hunter was modeling and acting before he did the few pageants he has done.  He did not do them for a year when he was 2 because he discovered scissors and gave himself a reverse mohawk.  (LOL it was the day before his KidsRus shoot and I had to call his agent to tell her he wouldn't be doing anything that season trying to not laugh my butt off cause I had to be the seriouse we don't play with scissors mom) 

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And while I have you all here PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE if you do visit Hunter's site click on t he links to the Operation Military Pride links on his site and see if you might be able to sign up even if it is just as a one time Holiday train supporter.  Thanks 

Julie 

I tried coffee this morning OH not a good idea I get caffiene toxic and so now I'm all spastic... BUT annnyyyhooo 

The show is on at 7pm here we will be having birthday dinner for the Mamason and I prefer to watch this anyway after the pea goes to sleep I don't think it will be appropriate for him to watch. 

I'll try to swing by after that. 

Hugs 

Hollie