Messages By: saturn

I would like to comment about the show.  I did not get to see it because of having to work, but  

in signing in on Dr. Phil's web site I read up on the shows.  I am a 53 yr old women that has been married once and have since been divorced. In my previous relationship,  it was a very bad and demeaning one.  I am overweight and am in  decent health, but I am not looking.  Because of my previous relationship,  I am now happy being single.  I have my job and my family around me to support me.  If the right person does come along,  that person will do the asking.  I'm not going to do the looking.  I was brought up from the old school that the other person ask's first. I would just sit back and relax and that person, if he's good enough, will come to you.   

I just wanted to comment about the show.  In my experience of marriage, I was not forced to get 

married but I do believe that when my marriage ended, I got married just to get out from a heavy  

handed Father,  but I did marry a person with those similar qualities.  I have learned from experience , since my divorce, that I am happier being single, in this period of my life.  The strife  

and the emotion of being there and doing for another person is not there anymore.  I am a 53 yr 

women and  my choice in my life is  not having the strife and emotional upheaval.  It is a nice 

and great feeling.  

I was married for 23 years before I came to the realization that if anything was going to change   

that I was going to have to make that change.  I have now been divorced for 10 years now and   

have had a happier life then I have had before.  The memories are still there but he is not around   

to be able to threaten or emotionaly abuse again.  I  also stayed for what I thought was for the children, but I was wrong.  One is still having emotional problems in adult hood because of   

his lifestyle as a child.  Please don't stay because of that reason.  I would think that being blinded   

would be enough.  My abuse was mild compared to what you have gone through.  Mine was all   

mental.  I am enjoying life now being out of that kind of situation, and making my own decisions.  

I can relate to the couple that couldn't get anything right.  I  went through that kind of relationship

for 23 years before I called it quits.  Back then they didn't have the help they do now like  Dr. Phil

and the help you can get now for relationships that are almost destroyed.  I would say that the couple that won the games,  do stand a chance at recovering their marriage.  I will say that I tried to keep mine together to the very end, but it was all one-sided , and thats no way to have a realtionship.  I do hope that all three couples will recieve the help they need, and not break up. It is

better to be single then to be in those kinds of realtionships.  I just wanted to comment on the show, because it hit home with me.  .