Messages By: mrsmae

Hi I am also new to this site...and am typing this to find out if anyone can help me find a result. Or give me any advice for that matter. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now and well @ first we did want a child but now were both not to sure and very confused about the matter that is. Not that it's a bad thing to conceive or get pregnant but to follow the steps and then raise the child. Since we did have a bumpy past and now are future looks brighter together I would think he would want a child with me. Now I'm not to sure...I guess we need to discuss alot more things and figure out what would go on and happen if we were to get pregnant or if it would happen and not be planned. Not saying that we would get rid of it but we would love it to peices forever. I want a child with this man don't get me wrong but now I think he doesn't want to be with me forever because he says to me that we should wait...but what is waiting? Does it mean forever with him or forever not having a child with him? Please help me get some answers and figure out how to get him to want foreverness with me and a family...only if I knew he would for sure promise stay with me forever. But there's always that doubt in the back of my mind. I love him so much I don't ever want to lose him to another person or lose him period. 

Thanks for reading my worries! 

Hello again, 

Just wanted to make things very clear about my situation on having a child. Don't get me wrong my b/f and I would stay together and love all and everything about our child(ren). I was just saying that even though nobodys perfect @ anything, my b/f and I would have no doubts in having a child but for now I'm saying it would be better to start a family with a home. not an apartment. But my b/f and I want a child but, then again it would be nice to wait until another year...I'm not to sure on what would be the best thing...guess I'm just going to have to wait and if it happens, it happens!  

First off thank you for replying to my messages on here! My boyfriend and I have thought about marriage and a family after and a family and marriage. I personally believe in getting engaged if I was pregnant and then @ least I would know marriage would happen afterwards. But getting married to him before the baby arrives would be ideal for me aswell. He has said to me that he would be getting me a ring as soon as he gets the money for it which would be sometime this month...or even putting a depoist on one would be good enough for me. But in all honestly I want a child with this man because we've talked about it for a long time now and I think it would a perfect time for it to happen if it was to happen...NOW would be good! How do I get him to hurry it up on the process because I am excited for it to happen...but I know good things happen to those who wait! 

Thanks again for taking the time to read my message(s). 

Hi all again...I just am worried and confused about what should go on with the people now a days and the decisions that they make in there lives. Don't get me wrong we all make some familiar mistakes in our lives as well but thats because we all have to learn somehow.  If I lets say get pregnant  with my fiancee and we don't work out...I am alright with that because I will no matter what be there for my child no matter how, no if, ands, or buts. I will also have my child's father in his or her life as well because I believe that that should be a rightfully decision to do for them (the child) because they have no say until they're 18 and no matter what there is only one father for my child for life! Another confusion  that I have is that I know I need a counselor for my problems, you know someone to tell all my issues and ask questions to...this isn't any harm if I would need a counselor before I get pregnant is it? I would think that getting the help now would be better then later...because later seems to always to either to late or never! Thats what I've Learned anyhow. Please anyone READ THIS AND RESPOND...I want to listen...and if you have and similar issues please spiel!  

 Thanks once again for listening!