system shut down & depressed... that's how I feel.... I'm not HAPPY and hanging on every word my H says anymore. It's like my H is punishing me for disciplining the daughter... however when he's out of town working he tells the kids "whatever she tells you to do is just like I'm telling you to do it... I want you to follow the rules, go to bed when she says, etc"... then turns around and does the opposite of the rules, so everyone's confused. He just can't believe that she would be manipulating him, blames it on her "age"... however she brags about disrespecting me behind daddy's back to her older sister, mother, and in her diary.
Every time she gets in trouble from our household, she calls her mother and cries, then the mother yells at my H. So he could be trying to avoid having that happen, and instead I get a spoiled rotten step child to live with. The older child is sick of it bc she gets grounded and follows the rules, and the younger one doesn't. I'd be mad too!
I don't know what to do... to go to individual counselling ($$) or what. Makes me wonder if this was an issue with him and his xw as well, or if it's just me since I didn't give birth to them. I'm not doing anything differently than I would with my own kids... I hear my mother so often in something I say to them... I don't think that's a bad thing.
I'm just banking on H & I both getting something out of tomorrow's Dr. Phil show.
