Quote From: shrimpetyyour husband's children obviously have some very difficult issues to deal with and it sounds like he has not done a very good job of helping them through the issues.
The children's job is not to support you. If you aren't going to step up and help them in a productive way, then leave them alone so they can have a chance to have some peace in their house.
I'm not asking him to choose, I'm asking him to handle his own angry kids. I "stepped up" for five years and that is too long to give and give without ever getting so much as a hug or respective word. I disagree that the children should not be supportive - I expect children that I support and break my back to raise to be contributing, supportive members of our family if they want to continue living in my house. If they don't like it, they should go live with their mother (which they don't want to do because she is too poor).
Lastly, I did not cause them to not have "peace" in their lives. Their problems were here long before I got here and will be here long after I leave. At this point, I'm not sad about being the second woman in their lives who couldn't take their crap. I'm sad that I have to lose the love of my life in order to get any peace for myself.
