Messages By: snowqueeneh

I have not talked to my (ex) best friend J in well over a year.  We were friends since we were 14 - we stopped talking at 28 (wow 14 years).  Basically, I was previously in a bad relationship for 6 years with a real jerk.  She always popped in and out of my life and would tell me to leave him, that I derserved better.  But then she started to make me feel stupid... I knew she was right but I had to make my own moves at my own pace.  During this whole time she was engaged to the "perfect" man, and had a perfect life.  I thought she was happy, she put on a whole show for me (now I realize it was meant to make me feel worse).  When I told her I broke up with my ex she told me her fiancee was a jerk the whole time!  I found out the truth about her engagement. 

Needless to say she left him and we moved in together with our mutual friend L as well.  J & L started taking drugs together (cocaine to be exact).  They both worked one job and spent every penny they had.  I worked two jobs and saved and never took any of the cocaine.  Then L stole J's bankcard and was taking money all the time.  I kicked L out and I was not nice about it either (we both aploigized later). 

Now we fast forward a bit lol  We all have kids now.  They are both single mothers and I am very happily married.  I was raised by my mother and have no judgements about single mothers... if anything I commend them very much.  Well J & L always acted strange around me.  Now I will really shorten the following.  They basically told me that I think I'm better than them and so on.  I never ever behaved that way.  I feel like I was judged just because I'm happy.  I lived the life they are going through... they were both raised in nice homes with both parents and I was raised in various apartments with a single parent.  I can't believe they would think I would ever look down on them.  I'm really hurt still.  I told them I don't want to talk to them anymore and like I said... it's been over a year now.  They tell people things about me.  It's so unfair. 

I really think that a good friend should be there for you during the GOOD and the BAD.  Both equally.  A good friend does not get jealous... and if they do they say to themselves (wait a minute - this is my friend and I will be proud of them).  I have felt jealous before and I caught myself.  I am still very angry and hurt.  I think I will read the "forgivness" section now and move on with my life lol.  No... really I will (c;

I am reading how angry people are with the parents and I must admit I felt that way too... at first.  But now I realize that there are two sides.  I have two little boys and I will be sure to moniter thier activities online very very closely. 

However, many parents are "in between" generations now... and it's up to us as a society to educate everyone about the risks involved "online" for children and parents.  I think that some parents truly do not understand the influence the internet has on our younger generations.  It really didn't play such a huge role in our generation.  It's not easy being a parent.  People should really take it easy on this family and all the other families who suffer along the same lines.  It's because of these unfortunate circumstances that we can learn and try and raise our children with more knowledge of what's out there. 

We are all just beginning to learn the consequences of the internet.  Let's face it... we are the "lab mice" generation.  We get to work out all the kinks of new technology.  We need to stick together to change/ update laws and educate ourselves.  I truly feel for any families going through this.  Continue to fight for your rights and justice!

For anyone who doesn't make it on Dr. Phil and get a 2nd wedding "all expenses paid" there is another solution.  I would go through with the wedding.  Then when my husband has sobered up I would tell him that the only way I can truly "get over it" is by going on a 7 day all inclusive trip with my bridesmaids.  Him and his wonderful groomsmen can all pitch in and pay the whole bill.  That sounds fair... I could let it go and forgive him and his friends for sure.

I was friends with two girls for over 10 years... it was always the three of us.  Long story short... they both turned on me for hard drugs.  I guess I was not "cool" like them - plus I had two jobs and didn't have the time to be "cool" anyway lol.  Well I stopped talking to them 3 years ago.  I still think of them and we did have a few "not so choice" words on facebook a long while back.  They blocked me from their profiles. 

Well just recently they allowed me to see thier profile with pics of them on a trip to Cancun.  All I see iw beer in their hands in every picture.  It looks soooo boring.  I would rather go to Europe and see things... not sweat and drink myself stupid on a beach.  I wish I could tell them off but I won't. 

So I thought I would vent a little.  We all have young kids and I think they got thier act together... but I guess I'm still the bad b***ch.  Whatever :cP 

Since then my life has been way less stressful and I have found some old girlfriends (on facebook of course) that I have way more in commen with.  And I am going to say it again... I just wish I could tell them off - but I won't.