Messages By: lazara

Quote From: debruff

 Thanks for your reply.
If I can remember to come in here to the boards I will.I keep forgetting  to come in here.I know there are others like me who need to lose weight.My problem is I feel I am alone  & don't want to turn to someone else for support if i need it.
I tend to feel guilty if I turn to someone for support.But that is my burden,which I need to let go of.I have no problem with supporting someelse who needs a shoulder to "cry"on.But I have a problem with letting someone help me.I feel I'm not worthy.
Sorry for being down.
Debbie

Quote From: mmjjordan2

If there were an Emote that said "Crazy", I would have to choose it.  I am in a very simular situation Mandolynn, I am a 29 year old stay at home mother of 3, a phychology student and FAT AND MISERABLE, I also have a 10 year old girl that thinks she's fat. I really don't want to continue to have this kind of lifestyle.  Some of the things in your post I have also quoted myself saying.  But the bottom line is We ARE who we make ourselves, if we don't stand up and change what we can we are just settling for mediocracy.  I don't know about you but I know that I am capable of treating my kids better and I know that I am capable of losing the 100 pounds that I need to loose.  Maybe all we need is some encouragement.  I think anyone who has the courage to stay at home and raise 4 children and be a full-time student has the courage to loose weight.  My email address is on my profile if you would like to email me.  It might be nice to have someone to talk to that is in the same sort of situation. 

Quote From: tweeymama

I was watching the follow-up story about Michelle and her angry.   I just wanted to let Michelle know that she is not the only one that Blow-up at there kids for no apparent reason. My name is Lorenda and I am the baby of 8 kids.  I was just watching when Dr Phil was describing how when your driving down the street and people get in you way or when you kids don't do things like you want. They didn't get you memo.  I was sitting on the couch with amazement.  I was thinking "Wow!  Thats me."   It hit home I thought that I was the only one out there that would be all nice and happy one moment.  And the next,  A raving Bitch,  Yelling and Screaming at who ever got in my way, usually my Kids or there Father.  Unlike you, I grew up in a loving family, but still dis functional.  My Mom was both Mother and Father.  My dad, lived with us but he wasn't really around. He would alway hibernate in his bed room.  He never beat on us. They say that people with high IQ's are borderline psychotic.  Well lets just say he did things differently,  for punishments he would take all the dishes out of the cabinet and make us wash all of them, even if it was at 3 in the morning.  Other punishment were things like vacuuming the whole house.   Except with out the push part.  You would have to suck each item up with the hose. It would take hours.   So I feel that we weren't physically abuses but Mentally abused  we all were.  My dad had to have everything done a certain way.  That is why today.  I feel, if you have to do something, do it right the first time.  Weather the abuse is Mental or Physical they are carried down from parent to child to their children.  I have been fighting this for years.  Someday I can handle it, other I can't.  Lately, Things are getting better.  Mine is triggered by Stress.  Usually cause of Money and Bills.  Well I just wanted you to know that you are not alone.  And people like the one that wrote that message that Dr. Phil read.  Have Blinders on and they don't know what it's really like. And No You shouldn't have you Kids taken away.  You do see that it isn't right and you are asking for the help.  You are trying to take control of it and that I commend you for.  I wish I had the strength to ask for help year ago when my children were Young.  Maybe then they would be like me.  I know you can do it.  Think of it like having a drinking problem that you are trying to control.  You just have to take one day at a time

Quote From: starkitty7

Oh right- let's all read the Bible and everything will be right in the world. Why is religion being brought into this? That has nothing to do with the issues. He is YOUR creator, not mine, don't push that on others please. I don't push my beliefs on you. Thank you.  

  

Karen 

Quote From: lazara

  I TOO FEEL FRUSTRATED . MOTHER OF 3. I HATE MYSELF ON THE OUTSIDE BUT ON THE INSIDE. I AM OKAY. MARRIED 10 YEARS. I BOY SPECIAL NEEDS/OTHER BOY GIFTED. DAD WORKS ALOT. BUT I DO NOT FEEL  I CAN PLAY AS A MOM SHOULD BECAUSE I AM SO FAT. WHY NOT TRY TO HELP ONE ANOTHER. I  KNOW OUR CHILDREN NEED US AND DESERVE A HAPPY MOM. WHAT DO YOU SAY?

Quote From: lilyankee

Now that I am aware that Michelle does read these boards I just want to let her know she needs the worlds biggest reality check.. Those children were a gift from God.. Millions of people would give their right arm to have a child and here this woman treats her children like this. The woman is pure evil.. I know some dont like to hear people saying this about her but come on.. The only justice that will come out of this is the day the poor babies turn 18 and can run away from this sociopathic mother they have.. I had that kind of mother and you know mental abuse doesnt heal as quick as physical abuse.. The bruises will go away but the fear she has put into these children will be there forever.. Does she really think these children will let her around there kids when they have them?!?! Doubt it!! 

God bless those little ones!! And as far as the husband is concerned, looks like someone needs to get a backbone..  

Quote From: juliebgg

Hi!! Wow, it seems we have some similarilties!! I am also very happily married and I have two kids.  One is gifted and the other is developmentally delayed. So I can understand the challenges that you face in raising children who are very different from one another.  I also know the special burdens that we both deal with.  It is not easy!  I myself do wish to lose some weight.  I tend to be a stress eater and haven't really found the answer yet for this. So you are not alone in dealing with these things.  Hope to see you on this board; it might be comforting to share ideas. Julie

Quote From: juliebgg

I read in your other post that you have one child who is autistic. My daughter has moderate developmental delays and ADHD. And as I said in a previous post, my son is the total opposite.  He was always in the gifted classes and graduated near the top of his class. So I had two totally different types of children to raise, each with their own challenges.  I went back to school when I was in my late 30s for a special ed masters.  I think this was my way of dealing with my daughter's delays.  I taught special ed for several years but am teaching regular pre-school right now. 

As far a weight goes, yes I would feel better if I could lose some.  It is hard around the holidays of course, so I am going to try to maintain during the holidays and start to lose in January.  I don't live in a warm place like you, and as I write this it is snowing.  I love to swim so I am in better shape (though not thin) during the warm months.  Just haven't found another type of exercise that I enjoy for the cooler weather.  The ideal solution would be to find an indoor pool but there aren't any really close by. I am neuatral about cooking...don't love doing it or hate it. But I do sometimes find myself doing stress eating.  Like when a parent jumps on me about some nit-picky thing about their kid.  Or if I have a disagreement with a family member.  I am trying to find other things to do at these times.  Sometimes listening to music or looking at vacation pictures or reading a magazine helps, but there is nothing like chocolate! 

You mentioned celiac disease. A child in my class last year had that and she couldn't eat wheat products. If you think you may have that or any other kind of physical thing then you should get it checked out.  Have a good day. 

Julie