Messages By: elliot

Quote From: hun911


I have been in an off and on relationship for about 4 years.  I have meany trust issues with men and insecurities with them as well.  I have recently begun seeking professional help with them but every now and again they seem to pop up.  Well recently my ex and I have decided to slowly move in a direction of us getting back together.  We have a very fragile relationship.  We have decided to be exclusive, but also do this very slowly to make sure that we can work.  Recently, I had a friend of mine tell me that she saw a girl that he used to go to college with.  They were talking and the topic of us came up and she was VERY surprised to hear that we were working things out.  She said that a couple of girlfriends saw him a few weeks ago, and he seemed single.  She asked if he hooked up with anyone but this girl said no.  I just don't understand why this girl would be so shocked that we were working things out.  It made me think that maybe there was something to hide.  The dilemna is that a couple of weeks ago we were NOT together.  We were barely speaking and things were so up in the air.  What this girl said is not enough information to accuse him of anything but enough to get my mind thinking.  Technically if anythign happened when we were together, I could not be mad, because we were nothing.  I just don't know if I should say anything to him or just realize that we were not in a relationship.  I don't want to rock the boat, over something that was either a misunderstanding or that just means that he was single at that time.  So do I even mention anythign to him about this conversation my friend had, or do I just live with what is happening right now????  Please help!